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Love Yourself First

Love Yourself First

Helen Bradford

 

As Louise L. Hay once said: “Loving ourselves works miracles in our lives.” However, loving yourself requires effort, not just words. It may seem challenging though, especially considering how hectic our lives can be. Juggling with work, family, and many other obligations can leave us neglecting ourselves. It’s time to change the game and give yourself some much-needed TLC. It doesn’t require any groundbreaking transformations. On the contrary, adopting these few self-care habits will give you a healthy body and a healthy mind.

1. Getting started.

Self-discipline is the key when it comes to physical activity. Most of us make the decision to start exercising rather easily, but when it comes to putting it to practice, well… it’s another story. A good idea is to make a workout schedule. Keep track of your activities (and energy levels) for a week. This will give you insight into what times work best for you. Our energy levels are usually highest in the morning so that would be a good time for more intense workouts. However, if you see it as a way to vent out after a busy day at work then you’ll dedicate time to it in the evening. Take baby steps and be realistic when making your schedule. This will help you to stay focused and motivated.

2. Make your home gym-friendly.

For some people, taking trips to the nearby gym can sometimes be discouraging. If you are one those people who aren’t keen on working out with a bunch of strangers, don’t give up just yet. A great alternative is to bring a gym to your home. You can make some room in your home or a garage and turn it into your own private gym. Next, you’ll need to put in some Cyberfit gym equipment or similar high-quality fitness items. If you do your research, you’ll find that many shops offer great home gym packages. This way, you’ll enjoy exercising in the privacy of your own home and ensure good physical and mental health.

3. Moody no more.

No matter the intensity of the workout, people generally feel better after a workout. Many studies have shown the connection between physical activity and better mental health. One of the reasons is that physical activity produces endorphins or so-called “feel-good” chemicals. What’s more, it increases blood flow to the brain and lowers the blood pressure and cholesterol. It reduces stress and helps you sleep better. Exercising regularly indeed does wonders for your brain. Better concentration and increased cognitive functions are just some of the benefits physical activity has on your brain. In the end, boosting your energy levels you’ll boost your mood, too.

4. Give your self-esteem a boost.

Taking care of your body is maybe the easiest way to love yourself. Aside from the numerous benefits exercising has on your overall health, it also makes you look good. And by doing that, your confidence levels increase. If you’re persistent, the results will be your biggest motivation and not only that. If you used to have chronic pain in your neck or lower back, you’ll be thrilled to find out that sitting all day at the office isn’t a nightmare anymore. Yes, working out will strengthen your core muscles but it will enhance some other skills of yours. Mastering self-discipline at the gym will transfer to work, and healthier mind means better productivity, too.

5. Stay motivated.

Staying on point with your workout routine may not always go so smoothly. There will be days when even getting up in the morning seems like a challenge. If that happens, try not to avoid your workout completely. Alter it, adjust its intensity to your current state, but don’t skip it. Even a short walk or a bike ride can elevate your mood. Having the support of your family and friends can help you stay motivated. However, it’s best to learn how to do that by yourself. Not only will this bring you independence, but it will also boost your self-esteem and mental health. Stay persistent and whenever you feel like you’re about to fail, remembering the reason you started will keep you going.

Other people may not always be there when you need help and support, but the only person that actually matters will, and that’s you. Loving yourself doesn’t have to be hard or complicated. Taking care of your body can be a fantastic start that will lead to a leaner body, better mood, and most importantly – sharp and healthy mind.

It’s a Good Thing

Remember that being alone doesn’t always mean being lonely; it can be a beautiful experience of finding your creativity, your heartfelt feelings, and the calm and quiet peace deep inside you. – Anonymous

There are some people that dread being alone, but I think it’s a good thing.  I’m not talking about loneliness, nobody wants to feel like that. I’m talking about being alone, by yourself and becoming aware of who you are.  In this crazy busy day and age, that’s a good thing.  Think about it, we are constantly being bombarded by news and information. We can be reached 24/7 via cell phone and email, and most of us check social media several times a day.  We are never alone.

There is a big push now about mindfulness.  Very simply put, it’s being aware of yourself, your thoughts and your feelings in the present moment.  That’s not a bad thing, in fact, it’s a good thing.  But you can’t be very mindful of yourself if you’re constantly surrounded by people and activity.  Sometimes, you just need to be alone to get in touch with who you are and what you’re feeling.

Take time to get in touch with who you are and how your feeling.  Shut off the outside world for a while and be alone with yourself.  Being lonely isn’t a good thing but being alone is different. It’s a good thing. It gives you an opportunity to get to know a very amazing person – yourself.

It Takes Time

Patience is a form of wisdom. It demonstrates that we understand and accept the fact that sometimes things must unfold in their own time. – Jon Kabat-Zinn

I am not a patient person.  I want what I want, and I usually want it right away.  But sometimes, it takes time for things to fall into place.  An acorn that is planted in the ground isn’t going to grow into a mighty oak, just because we try and will it.  There is a rhythm to things, and sometimes we just have to let that rhythm play out.

It’s logical, and on a certain level, it’s something that people understand, but understanding, and accepting are two different things.  In today’s society, we get immediate gratification.  Post a status on Facebook and get likes right away.  Want to talk to someone, shoot them a text, and chances are they’ll answer right away.  We get used to getting it all right now.  But sometimes it takes time, and when it does, it’s hard.

Cultivate a patient attitude.  Learn to wait.  Learn to sit back and enjoy the down time without a phone in your hand and or a computer giving you instant answers.  Develop patience and learn to wait for things to unfold in a natural manner.  Sometimes it takes time for things to come to fruition.  Have the wisdom and the knowledge to accept that.

Don’t Compare

Never mind what others do; do better than yourself, beat your own record from day to day, and you are a success. – William J. H. Boetcker

When you walk into a room full of people, what is the first thing you do? I compare what I’m wearing to everybody else.  I judge my outfit against theirs and usually come up lacking in my own mind.  I compare my hair, and my weight and usually come up with all my points in the negative column.  I constantly tell myself don’t compare myself to others and I constantly find myself doing it.

Not just clothing, and any other outward appearances, but everything.  I think most of us compare ourselves to others and find ourselves lacking, even thought it’s not true.  It’s not true because there is no comparison, so don’t do it. Don’t compare yourself to others.  If yo must compare, compare yourself to you.  Look at where you were, and how far you’ve come.  Look at the growth you’ve had, look at how far you’ve come from where you were.

John Donne said that comparisons are odious, and it’s true.  You shouldn’t compare yourselves against anybody else because you are unique, your situation is unique, as is theirs.  Don’t compare, but if you must, compare yourself to you.  Look at what you’ve accomplished, and build upon it.  Use your successes as a launching pad to bigger and better things.  There is no comparison, there is only you!

Put the Past Away

My Mama always said you’ve got to put the past behind you before you can move on. – Forrest Gump

The movie Forrest Gump is filled with things that Forrest’s mama told him, and while everybody knows that ‘Life is like a box of chocolate,” I think this quote is the best piece of advice Mrs. Gump gave us.  You have to put the past away.  You have to just let go before you can move on to bigger and better.

There are countless quotes about leaving the past where it belongs, and in fact, the title comes from the Third Eye Blind song, Jumper.  If so many people are saying to put the past away, I’m guessing it has to be super good advice.  Think about it, the past is like an anchor, holding on to you and dragging you down, when where you want to go is forward.  You need to let go of that anchor and start moving toward your future.

Figure out what is holding you back, or who is holding you back, and why. Or maybe it’s you.  Maybe you’re the one that’s holding on to the past, but it’s time to let go.  You need to figure it out so you can cut the times and put the past away.  Don’t stay stuck in the past, let it go and move on to a bigger and better future.  The one you’ve been dreaming about.

 

Fear is a Bully

Don’t be pushed around by the fears in your mind. Be led by the dreams in your heart. ? Roy T. Bennett

I never really thought much about it until I read this quote, but it’s true, fear is a bully. When fear gets inside of you, it halts you in your tracks, it pushes you around and it causes you to give up on what is important to you.

Not only is fear a bully, it is insidious.  It creeps inside your mind, filling you with doubt. It tries to convince you that it’s on your side or it’s acting in your best interest, but it’s not.  Fear wants you to give up on your dreams.  Fear leads you away from achieving your dreams and goals and lulls you into complacency.

Fear is a bully, and we are taught from an early age to stand up to bullies.  So stand up to your fear. Drown it out, stomp on it, do whatever it is you have to do to not only keep it at bay, but to destroy it.  Be led by your dreams. It’s scary, it is, but you can do it. Your dreams are worth going for, and you deserve to achieve your goals.  Fear is a bully, don’t let it bully you.  Put fear in it’s place, listen to your heart and follow your dreams.

 

Choose Wisely

Who you spend your time with will have a great impact on what kind of life you live. Spend time with the right people. – Joel Osteen

Every time I hear the phrase choose wisely, I think of a specific scene in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade.  Indy is with a 2000 year old Templar Knight who tells him to choose wisely.  Fortunately, Indy choose wisely, but do you?  It’s important to choose wisely because the choices we make, and that includes the people we surround ourselves with, says something about us as people.

It’s something your parents probably told you when you were a kid, “People will judge you based on the company you keep.”  Don’t you just hate it when they are right?  Since we all know mom and dad are right and it’s true, we all need to choose wisely. Surround yourself with people who can have a positive impact on your life.  Stay away from those who bring you down.

You know the ones that I mean.  There are some people who are full of negativity.  When you’re around them, they just suck the light right out of you. There are also people who are full of light, and when you’re around them, they fill you with joy.  Choose wisely, surround yourself with people who build you up and fill you with light.

 

Just Imagine

Limitations live only in our minds. But if we use our imaginations, our possibilities become limitless. —Jamie Paolinetti

Just imagine living the life of your dreams! What is stopping you?  It’s all the doubts that you let fill your mind.  The get louder and louder and grow bigger and bigger until they are all you can hear and all you can see.

You can block out that doubt and cancel out all the negativity that fills your mind. Just imagine.  Yes, that’s right with your imagination.  The doubts we let fill our minds are just that, doubts in our mind.  They aren’t reality.  But you let them become real.  You create that reality with the power of your mind.

So why not create the life you want. Just imagine your perfect life. Your goals coming to fruition, your dreams coming to life.  Just imagine.  Let those good images grow and grow and let them drown out the doubts and fears.  Your best life is limited only by your imagination and what you chose to focus on.

Take Mental Health Day

6 Reasons Why You Should Take A Mental Health Day

by Adam Durnham

What Is a Mental Health Day?

Although there is a formal Mental Health Day celebrated every October 10 to bring awareness to the spectrum of mental health conditions, you can have your own special day devoted to healing your mental state.

Just as sleep refreshes the physical body, our minds need to take a rest, too. A mental health day could simply mean a regular day of rest, freeing yourself from stressors, and refocusing on or seeking your purpose in life. By taking your own mental health day, you can rejuvenate your mind and care for it like you would any other part of your body.

Why Should You Take a Mental Health Day?

1. It helps improve your thinking.

Anything you think about—responsibilities at work, home, or school—can take a toll on your mind. Like small blocks, they can that pile up in a haphazard fashion and tumble down when not managed. Studies show that people under acute stress tend to make “risk-taking decisions even with disadvantageous outcomes”. This is why taking a mental health day can be so important.

A mental rest can help improve your thoughts and mood. From being pessimistic and paranoid, you may become calm and intentional. Thoughts that promote anxiety also tend to prevent you from making rational decisions on a daily basis. A peaceful setting can revive your mind from a chaotic state to one where you think better and make better choices.

2. It gives you a clear picture of what truly matters.

You can get so caught up with the nonstop demands of your everyday life that you lose sight of the big picture, of what truly matters to you. When everything else is stripped away, what are the things you cannot live without? Perhaps it’s your loved ones, a hobby, or even spirituality.

Taking a mental health day helps clear your mind and ruminate about the true priorities in your life. You may realize that the things you spend most of your time on aren’t what you love, but what society has pressured you to do. Through having regular days of mental rest, you can discover your true life’s purpose and dedicate your remaining days to the things and people that truly matter.

3. It can restore your health.

We live in a society where being busy is glorified, and suffering is a virtue. Although being busy and sacrificing for others is sometimes admirable, too much of it can be damaging not only to your mental state but also to your physical health.

Constant stress is a risk factor for degenerative diseases such as stroke, heart disease, and diabetes. Stress causes many biological reactions to the body such as high blood pressure, increased blood sugar levels, tensed muscles, and sleep deprivation. When we don’t take time to restore our mental health, we also run the risk of harming the other parts of our body.

4. It lessens symptoms of mental health disorders.

By taking the time to restore your mental health, you are avoiding triggers that can harm you and, by extension, your loved ones. For example, some common depression triggers include being overwhelmed, losing your job, money problems, the death of a loved one or your relationship. These triggers can be minimized or avoided when you take steps to improve your mental health. Try a change of environment, a new hobby, journaling or meditating. Taking a mental health day can help you make time for these activities.

5. It can help you find support.

Among the most common obstacles to people seeking help for their recurrent mental health issues is that they’re afraid of the stigma or that they don’t have time to seek help. A mental health day allows you the time to reach out to others and find a community that can help you deal with your problems in a healthy manner.

Whether from a therapist, counselor, a spiritual leader, or a peer support group, there are different ways to get emotional help for the things that you’re going through. You are never alone, and there is always someone who walks through a similar journey as you do.

6. It can aid in better performance.

It may sound counterintuitive but resting now can give you the top performance that you need later.

 Some scientists suggest that without proper mental rest, the brain shrinks, affecting your speech, your memory, and even the way you interact with others.

 If you have to accomplish a big task, deal with a tough client, or finish a complicated project, studies show that taking your mind off these things for a bit can improve your mind’s performance.

Start Your Own Mental Health Day–Now!

The key to looking great, feeling great, and living your life well is through caring for your body holistically, including your brain. Start by setting up your own mental health day. Your mind will thank you for it.

Write It Down

You control your future, your destiny. What you think about comes about. By recording your dreams and goals on paper, you set in motion the process of becoming the person you most want to be. Put your future in good hands – your own. – Mark Victor Hansen

We all know about affirmations, and that saying them regularly can be very powerful. I want you to take your affirmation, your goal or your dream and write it down.  Write it down every day and really focus on it.  Writing down your affirmation, dreams or goals gives them so much power and so much strength.

When you record your dreams, goals and affirmations on paper, your ability to focus on them is so much stronger.  When you write, focus all your energy and attention on each word as you write it down.

Remember when you were a kid in school and you got your spelling list each week.  Wasn’t one of the exercises your teacher made you do was write each word 3 times? And what happened when you did that?  They were a little easier to spell.  Write it down.  Every goal, every dream, and every affirmation.  Write it down and focus on it.  The universe will get the message.

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