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It’s A Good Day

I wake up every day and think, “I’m breathing! It’s a good day.” – Eve Ensler

Ok in the interest of honesty and 100% transparency, I don’t wake up this way.  I wish I did, but I don’t.  Generally I wake up thinking “Oh my GOD, how can it be time to get up already.”  What can I say, I’m not a morning person lol.  But then one thing I do after that is lay quietly in bed, and take a few minutes and reflect. I think about the day before, I think about what is going to be going on in my life that day, and yeah, I take a few minutes to be grateful.  I try to be grateful for my yesterday, even if it wasn’t the best yesterday ever, I can at least be grateful that’s it’s over, and I survived.  I think about all the things I may need to get done, and I’m grateful that I have a job to go to, and people I love that i do things for, and then, the biggie…I’m grateful that I’m alive.  It sounds kind of lame, but if you start your day with gratitude and happiness, it really makes the rest of the day better.  That’s why I post my quote first thing every morning on facebook.  It makes me feel good to read it and hopefully, it makes others feel good when they see it as well.  And for those who say they have nothing to be thankful for, nothing to be grateful for, I point to the quote and I say, “You’re alive, and that one thing right there is worth being grateful for, and it’s not something to take for granted.  Try it and see how it works for you.  When you wake up in the morning, take a few minutes and be grateful, just for being alive – see how it works for you.

Habits and Choices

Being miserable is a habit; being happy is a habit; and the choice is yours. – Tom Hopkins

Habits – we all have them.  Habits can be good, and habits can be bad.  The good thing about habits is that they can change.  That’s how Think Positive 30 came about.  You can read about it here, but the short version is, I decided it was time to stop always whining and complaining about life and to try and find more positives.  The thought being, if you focus on negatives, you’ll attract more negatives.  If you focus on positives, you’ll attract more positives.  Call me crazy, but if I’m going to be attracting anything into my life, I want it to be positive.  It’s a choice I made.  I had the choice and I made it.  Do  I always succeed?  No of course not.  I get glum, I get cranky, and I can turn into a negative Nellie without a problem.  But I always try to snap myself out of it, because it’s my choice.  I often find myself surrounded by negativity on a daily basis, and that makes it hard, but again, the choice is mine.  Do I let the attitudes of others bring me down or do I look for things to snap myself out of it.  Again, in the interest of honesty, I’ll say that I snap out of it maybe 70% of the time.  The other 30% I can wallow and let the negativity bring me down.  But again, I have a choice and I’m choosing to make that percentage better.  How can anybody choose to be unhappy all the time?  It’s something I don’t understand.  I know a few people like that and in talking to them, they are always saying that they don’t have a choice.  They are  a victim of their circumstances.  I don’t think so.  First by calling themselves victims, they are putting themselves in a negative place.  The word victim just has such negative connotations.  The first thing they need to stop doing is to stop thinking of themselves as victims.  We’re not victims folks.  Our circumstances may not be exactly what we want but stop thinking about being a victim or being “stuck” where you are.  You have a choice, you can make changes.  They may not be huge, all encompassing changes at first, but little things add up.  The greatest flood can start with a single drop of water.  Why not start your flood of positivity and changes with one small step.  Smile, or compliment somebody, or better yet, compliment yourself.  You have a chance to make things better, you just have to make the choice.

Inner Beauty

If you have good thoughts they will shine out of your face like sunbeams and you will always look lovely. – Roald Dahl

I remember when I was in high school, how I would get up every morning way earlier than I needed to.  Why would I do such an insane thing?  Why to do my hair and make up of course.  Granted it was the 80’s and a good deal of time and effort was spent on getting the hair to be big, but just as much time was spent putting on make up.  And then in school, dashing into the bathroom between classes to keep the make up fresh.  I didn’t go anywhere, or do anything without make up.  Flash forward a few years, and I’m a freshman in college and trying out for the cheerleading squad.  Why?  I have no clue.  I couldn’t do a split, I couldn’t do a cartwheel, and I wasn’t the best at well, cheering.  But it’s okay, I had my make up, right?  Well after a very long, hot sweaty tryout, one that caused most of my makeup to be sweated off, I was amazed to find out that I actually made the squad.  I was dumbfounded, because I really was pretty bad.  But the captain gave us some of the highs and lows we got from the judges and they had all commented on what a great smile I had.  I didn’t see it, but hey, I was a cheerleader so life was good lol.  Flash forward quite a few more years, and I’m a mom of a very handsome young man, and a very beautiful young lady.  And my daughter is the QUEEN of all things make up.  She puts younger me to shame.  She does a great job with her make up and it always looks super natural, but what’s really amazing is her smile.  Well actually both my kids have great smiles.  Their smiles absolutely light up their faces and radiate light and love all around them.  I didn’t ever understand what those cheerleading judges were talking about until I watched my daughter smile one day when she was without make up.  Her smile, made my beautiful daughter even more beautiful.  When you’re out and about and people watching – come on, you know you people watch.  Take a look, and watch when someone smiles with complete and utter abandon.  Their entire demeanor changes and their inner beauty just shines through.  I won’t go crazy and say ditch the make up because make up can be fun, but remember to smile – let your inner light shine through and light up the world.

Today is the Best Day

Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year. – Ralph Waldo Emerson

What is so great about today?  It’s simple.  Today is the only today you get.  Granted, you’re going to have a tomorrow – probably lots of tomorrows, but this day, this one day is the only one there is.  I know there are times when we seem like we’re totally stuck in a sea of sameness, with every day a carbon copy of the day before.  It seems like it, but that’s not really the case.  Every day is different, and every day is amazing.  Sure there may be days that are less amazing than others, but your job is to find the good, great and amazing things in each and every day and celebrate them.  Make it be the best day ever.  It’s funny, for me, today was one of those less than stellar days, but I am taking the time to find things that make it the best day ever.  I went to the gym, and increased some of the weight I can lift.  I got to spend time with a friend. Something that was missing turned up, and hey, I’m sitting here watching my favorite television program and eating popcorn.  Those things right there make it great, maybe even the best day ever.

2 Questions that will Change Your Life

Today’s guest post was written by Erin Dickson an amazing life coach.

2 Questions That Will Change Your Life…

Erin Dickson

Gravity Life Coaching

 

 

 

When I was a few years out of college and stuck in a dead-end job – I was contemplating going back to graduate school to be a Guidance Counselor.  I knew I wanted to be a Guidance Counselor, but the process of getting there was a bit overwhelming. 

 

I was living in an apartment by myself, working 2 jobs and discovered that I would need to do a 600-hour unpaid internship.  It was so overwhelming to look at the big picture –  because all I could think about was what could go wrong.  How could I possibly take a 6 month long unpaid full-time internship while paying rent? 

 

That’s the question I was living in and that’s the question that stopped me from moving forward for so long.

 

When I was finally able to start living in a different question, I discovered how to move forward.  I wanted it to be a possibility, I wanted to make it happen and I knew that others made it happen.  If others made it happen, why couldn’t I?  

 

So, I started asking different questions.  Rather than focusing on how it couldn’t work, I started working with a solution focused approach –

 

“If I believed it were possible, and if I believed I couldn’t fail, what would I do next?” 

 

That question opened up a whole new world of possibilities.   I stopped focusing on how I would fail and started focusing on what it might look like if I succeeded.  That was such a cooler place to be…

 

What I would do next, was easy.  I started the application process and took my first class.  Easy.  Then my second class, then my third class.  As I began to get further into the program, I decided that I loved my classes, I couldn’t wait to be a Guidance Counselor!  Nothing was going to stop me at that point. 

 

I moved from “what if I can’t?” to “what if I can?” Two questions – two completely different results.

 

As the internship grew closer I dropped my full-time job – I found an apartment for $350/month and my waitressing job seriously saved my ass!  I got through my internship and got a job as soon as I finished. 

 

I focused on the possible success, not the possible failure. 

 

If I had started with “I could never do that” then I never would have.  I would be stuck in my routine world of comfort – but not awesomeness.  We need to remember to live in awesomeness – this life is too short for routine and mundane.

 

Change your language and your mind will follow.  Ask yourself different questions, live in a world of “what if I succeed – what would that look like?”, not “what if I fail”…because if you live the question “what if I fail”, you’ll never move from where you are today.  If where you are today is awesome, then cool – hang out there.  For too many people…it’s not awesome YET.

 

Discover your awesome self.  Click below to decide what you’re capable of!

 

https://gravitylifecoaching.lpages.co/live-your-life-fearless/

Opportunities Abound

Your big opportunity may be right where you are now. – Napoleon Hill

Every morning, I post the quote on my personal facebook page.  It’s another way for me to share a small slice of positivity, and it’s a great way to start my day off in a good way.  Plus, the positive quote usually gets a like or two, and that’s another nice way to start the day.  A little validation goes a long way.  Anyhow, this morning, I posted it, and one of my friends left a joking comment asking “In my kitchen?”  I didn’t respond because I knew they were joking but honestly, yes!  That opportunity could be anywhere you are.  You just have to open your eyes and see it.  Who knows if in that kitchen, my friend could have looked around and seen a way to improve something, or create something that could have made them rich?  Or maybe in that kitchen at that particular time, they could have been hit with the solution to a particularly contentious problem.  That’s kind of the point you never, ever know where that opportunity is, so you should always be watching for it.  Inspiration,  opportunity, good fortune – they’re everywhere, as long as you’re looking for it.  So keep your eyes open, and more important, keep your mind open, who knows when an amazing opportunity will find you.

Learning and Doing

I love to learn.  I seriously do.  I’m not to big a fan of homework and projects and papers and such, but the learning – I LOVE it. As a teacher, I have to go to workshops and take classes to keep my certifications current, so I get to indulge my love of learning.  However those aren’t always the topics I want to study.  This summer, I took a math class for several reason.  First, I can use it toward my certification renewals, but also, I am really horrible at math, and this class helped me and will allow me to help my students.  So while I got to indulge my love of learning, it still wasn’t a topic that I had a burning passion to learn more about, and I had to shell out some serious money to pay for the college class.  Paying isn’t necessarily a negative, but it can get rather expensive.

I needed to find a place where I could indulge my love of learning without breaking the bank, AND have an opportunity to learn about things just for the fun of it.  There are night classes offered during the school year at a neighboring school district, and I’ve done a couple of those.  I also discovered Udemy  If you want to learn about it, Udemy is the place.  They have classes on EVERYTHING.  If personal development is your thing, you can find a plethora of classes to take.  I’m currently taking a class called Hacking Your Subconscious Mind, and it’s fantastic.  It helps you to unlock the power of the subconscious mind, and the instructor Brandon Leal presents the content in a manner that is straightforward and easy to understand.  I’m loving it, and honestly, I think it the information provided applies to everybody!  I’m also taking a class on writing just because it’s something that I love to do and it’s a skill I want to improve.

But the cool thing about Udemy is the sheer variety of courses that they offer.  From music, to business, photography to academics, science to marketing and so much more.  Don’t just take my word for it, visit Udemy and explore the courses.  I can almost guarantee that you’ll find something to interest you.  And the best part of it?  These courses are self paced, so there is no pressure to get it done in a certain amount of time.  As I said earlier, I love learning, and I truly believe that it learning should always be a part of our lives.  Thanks to Udemy, it can be.  If you check it out, drop a comment below, I’d love to hear what you found and explored on Udemy!

Mistakes can be Good

You need to make mistakes to learn. You need to experience it all to create your amazing life.

I am not a perfect person.  I don’t pretend to be, nor do I want to be.  I make mistakes – frequently in fact, and I’m going to continue to do so.  Why?  Because I’m human, and making mistakes is one of the ways we learn.  We do things, and sometimes they work out really well, and that’s great, and we do learn from that.  But how boring would it be if everything we tried worked out perfectly all the time?  Luckily, they don’t.  Sometimes we do things we do things and they don’t go as well, and again we learn.  Sometimes what looks like a mistake turns out to be something entirely different.  Taking a wrong turn could lead you to a beautiful new destination, you just never know. Think about all those amazing science experiments that went long but led to other discoveries. And all the inventions that led to other inventions.    The cool thing is, all those learning experiences, the good and the bad all combine to help us create our wonderful and amazing lives.  So take the learning experiences as they come, the good and the bad.  Live them fully and in fact, revel in them,  because the are all coming together to help you create your amazing life.

It’s Not a Competition

I was talking to a recent college graduate, and this person was lamenting their difficulty in finding a job in comparison to some of their friends.  Now this particular group of friends all went to different schools and majored in everything from music to engineering and everything and anything in between.  Nobody went to the same school, and nobody majored in the same thing as anybody else.  This particular group of friends have known each other since elementary school, and remained friend through elementary school all they way through college and now the adult world.  They cheer each other’s successes and support each other through challenges.  And now, this one friend is struggling because several of the others have found well paying jobs while they are still uncertain about what they want to do.  It’s been causing this person a lot of inner turmoil, and while they are not resentful of the success of their friends, they are starting to feel like they, themselves are a failure.  The thing is, they aren’t a failure because it’s not a competition – at least not against their friends.  The only person they need to better than is the person the were yesterday  or the day before.  And as I told this particular person, that’s a competition you are winning because they are not the same person they were in high school, or in college, or even the same person they were last week.  Don’t waste time comparing yourself to other people and trying to measure your success with a ruler meant for another person.  Your only competition is against yourself and as long as you continually strive to be better than you were yesterday, you’re going to be a winner!

It’s Been a Week – or a Couple of Weeks

Every week, I SWEAR that I am going to blog every day, and every week it never happens.  Sometimes life gets crazy, and sometimes, despite posting a positive quote every day, I just don’t have anything to say.  I love to write, and I love to create, but I seem to lack the motivation.  It’s something I need to work on, and I don’t think it’s something I’m alone in.  Being motivated, and finding motivation can be a challenge.  It has to come from within.  Sure you can have a task you have to get completed for work or school, and you get it done, but is that motivation  internal (is it coming from you) or is it fear of what your boss might say or what your report card will look like?

It’s something I’ve been giving a lot of thought, lately.  How do you tell if motivation is internal or external, and if one is better or worse than the other.  Here’s what I’ve come up with….when you’re doing it because you want to or when you take pride in the final results, the motivation is internal.  Let me explain….think about that thesis paper that you had to write for class, or the report you had to do for work.  When you did it, did the work feel good, and feel write, and just flow from you?  If you can answer yes, that is because you were internally motivated.  If you got it done because it had to be done, and it was expected, and yeah you did okay on it, then your motivation was probably external.  That’s how I’m seeing it, at least.

I go to the gym, and I’ve been doing pretty well, going daily.  I’m not seeing much progress, and I hate it – but I’m going….external motivation because logically, I know it’s good for me and it needs to be done.  But it’s a chore – trust me, it’s a big chore.  I’m hoping to get to the stage where the motivation is internal.  I’m thinking that may happen when I start to see some results – hopefully soon!

Another tricky thing is time and effort.  Sometimes your motivation can change from external to internal just by doing something.  Take for example this blog post.  I was feeling incredibly guilty about not blogging anything in a couple of weeks, so I uploaded some images of the Daily Positive Thoughts that I share on twitter and instagram (and the ones I’m SUPPOSED to be blogging about on a daily basis) and I was just going to share them with a little oopsie I’m sorry I haven’t blogged post.  That was external with guilt being the primary motivator.  Don’t get me wrong, sometimes guilt can be an awesome motivator – think back to mom getting you to get your chores done lol, but it’s not the best one.  Anyhow, when I started writing, the words just started flowing and the motivation changed from external (guilt) to internal (wanting to do a good job for me).  However guild cannot be a primary motivator, but sometimes it gets you going and the motivation can change.

So when you have a task to get done, and you’re lacking the motivation…try and think about why and what your motivation for getting the task done are…then try and find a way to make that motivation internal if it is in fact external.  And if you can’t get everything done, don’t sweat it, pick one thing, get it done and move on to the next task.  You don’t have to be perfect and you don’t have to do everything perfectly you just have to do your best.

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