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Curve Balls and Speed Bumps

I contend that not only can you laugh at adversity, but it is essential to do so if you are to deal with setbacks without defeat. A Klein

We’ve talked about life throwing you speed bumps and/or curve balls.  Sometimes the difficulties that hit us are so big that they seem practically insurmountable.  Those are the kind that make you want to crawl back into your bed, pull the covers up over your head and cry like a baby.   We all have them, and we all have to deal with them.  You can’t let them get to you; you need to face them head on, and if you can, even laugh at them.  Laughter is such a powerful tool, and if you can laugh at something, you can beat it down and over come it!  If you can laugh, you can conquer whatever comes your way.

Defining Happiness

Happiness comes of the capacity to feel deeply, to enjoy simply, to think freely, to risk life, to be needed. S. Jameson

What does it mean to be happy?  There is not one clear and simple answer.  Happiness, like all emotions, is a subjective thing.  Look inward and find those things that you enjoy, that feel good, that fill you with joy or peace.  If something makes you experience those emotions to your very core, you are happy.  Please, above all, be happy.

Enjoy Life

Far too many people spend their lives reading the menu instead of enjoying the meal. – Anonymous

Life is for living.  Don’t get so caught up in the minutiae that you miss everything around you.  I’m not saying you shouldn’t pay attention to details…of course not.  Details are important, but it’s a case of not seeing the forest through the trees.  Don’t get so caught up that you don’t get an opportunity to live.  It’s kind of like the bride who gets so fixated on every detail of her wedding….she barely remembers the actual day, or if she does, its to make a catalogue of every single thing that didn’t go according to her carefully constructed plan.

Life is messy, life is fun, and most of all, it never goes according to plan.  So make your plan, but be flexible and don’t get caught up in the details.

Good Decisions

Even a good decision, if made for th wrong reasons can be a wrong decision – Gov. Swann, Pirates of Caribbean

I love it when, without any planning on my part (and there is NEVER planning on my part) that quotes tie in together like yesterdays and todays quotes do.  I also love when I can get inspiration from Disney, cause hey, it’s Disney.  Like yesterday’s quote of doing whatever it takes to be perfect at the expense of others, the same could be said here.  If you make a good decisions, but for the wrong reasons, like to make yourself look good, that isn’t any better than trying attain perfection at the expense of others.

I’m all for doing well, and making the most of your opportunites and trying to strive for perfection.  Just make sure it’s not at the expense of those around you.

Don’t Be Perfect, Be Good

Don’t let perfect be the enemy of the good. -Voltaire 

 

Sorry for the delay with yesterday’s post.  It was move your kids back to college weekend in my house!  But the quote ties in very well with a conversation I had with child A on our trip back to campus on Sunday.  So often, people strive for perfection and will use any means possible to attain it.  Those means aren’t always the nicest of means, and it’s not good.  My busy little student pointed out a perfect example of this.  She was co-chairing a committee with someone, and the other person was so focused on having everyone see what an amazing job he was doing – so focused that it didn’t matter who he threw under the bus.  That is NOT the way you want to get it done.  It’s better to be the good person than it is to be the perfect person.

I’m hit with a problem again – The daily positive thought mailing list is growing by leaps and bounds, which is great, but because this is free, I’m limited to how many emails I can send and how many people I can have on this list.  If every person on this list donated $1.00 a year, there wouldn’t be any issues in sending unlimited emails to unlimited people on the list.  If you are interested in donating, there is a link available on our website Think Positive 30.
My only other option is going to be to send out one email a week with a week’s worth of Daily Positive Thoughts.  But even then, I can only have 2,000 people on the list.  As far as problems, go, it’s kind of great because the list is growing and people are getting their daily post of positive goodness :)  Hopefully it can continue.

Stop Digging!

The most important thing to do if you find yourself in a hole, is to stop digging. – Warren Buffett

What  can I even say about this other than, well DUH!!!!  Except, often (at least for me) I will get into a difficult situation, aholend in trying to fix it, I often find that I’ve made it worse.  I realize that you can’t do NOTHING, but there is nothing wrong with taking a step back and re-evaluating the situation before you continue.

If you’re playing a game of dodgeball, generally, you’d just react.  You see the ball coming and you duck.  Just reacting works in dodgeball, but it doesn’t often work in life.  Take a second to step back and figure out what’s going on. Then you can figure out how to get out of that hole you’re in.

The Same but Different

It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences. – Audre Lorde

We are all different, but at the same time, we are all the same.  I think people forget this.  We are hyper critical of anybody who is “different” than us, but if you strip away the outer layer, and remove the behaviors, we are all the same.  I think it would do us all well to remember that.  Stop judging people for the differences in their outer layers tomatoand their behaviors.  Accept those differences.  In fact, you should CELEBRATE them.  Celebrate the cultural diversity that is in our world.  Celebrate the fact that the person next to you may know everything in the world about fixing a car.  Sure they may not be able to diagram a sentence (who can, lol) but they are your go to person for when the car goes bang bang, knock knock, rattle and hiss.  Celebrate that fact.  The kid in the desk next to you at school who may be a bit socially awkward, but they could also be creating the next big phone app.

But always remember, that underneath those superficial outer layers – underneath it all, we are all the same.  We are not members of this race or that race, we are all members of the HUMAN RACIE

Be Quiet and Listen

The inspiration you seek is already inside you. Be silent and listen… Rumi

Have you ever had one of those insightful moments of knowing?  You just KNOW the answer to your question, or which way to go, or which choice to make.  It’s the best feeling, shhhand it sometimes feels like it just doesn’t happen often enough.  Or does it?  Do we get so caught up in the external chatter and stimuli that we forget to listen to our inner voice?  I know I do.  I shouldn’t, but I do.  I forget to block out the outside world and listen to me.  It’s pretty foolish of me because I’ve found that my inner voice usually makes pretty decent choices.  So when you’re stuck trying to figure something out, or trying to make a choice or decision, take a second to relax and listen to that inner voice.  I bet you’ll be pretty glad that you did.

Is it Worth it?

An eye for an eye only ends up making the whole world blind.  – Ghandi

I work in an environment where revenge and retribution are commonplace.  If someone does something to you, the mindset is you must do something back, something worse, and the sooner the better.  I ask people all the time, “Is it worth it?” “Does it make anything better?”  Their response is usually something about  how now everyone knows not to mess with them.

I have to be honest, I hate this culture.  I hate the way they think, and I work to change their perspective every single gandhiday, and I will continue to do so for as long as I possibly can.  Revenge doesn’t get you anywhere.  It doesn’t make you stronger, and it doesn’t make you better.  In fact, it only serves to bring you down.  Don’t do it.  Be the bigger, better person.  I’m not saying it’s okay to let people sh*t all over you.  Not by any stretch of the imagination.  Stand up for yourself, and stand strong, but if somebody does something stupid toward you, let them.  Let them know  you’re not going to stand for it, let them know you are a strong individual who won’t stand for their shabby treatment, but most of all, let them know you are a better person than they are and stand strong.

Make the Best of it

Things turn out best for the people who make the best of the way things turn out. -John Wooden

Things do NOT always go according to plan, that’s pretty much a given.  On the road trip of life, there are lots of hidden speed bumps, detours and pot holes that are working to disrail us on our journey.  The goal is to not let them thumbs upderail you, but use them to enhance your journey.  Okay this road trip thing is getting a bit tedious.  The fact of the matter is, no matter what you plan, those plans often go astray.  How you deal with it shows the true measure of who you are. Do you curl up on a ball crying and fall apart?  Do you fuss and fume and throw a hissy fit, or do you look at what’s happened and make the best of it?

Chance are, you do a combination of all three depending on the severity of the plan kerfluffle.  Honestly, the best think you can do is take a second (minute, hour day) to regroup and figure out how to make it work to your advantage.  You may not see it right away but take some time to reassess the situation and you’ll find a way to make the best of it, and who knows, your plans may turn out even better because of it.

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