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The Pain of Anxiety

Who among us hasn’t felt anxious before.  But feeling anxious about something is a far different thing than dealing with ongoing anxiety.  If you’re in this boat, you know exactly what I’m talking about.

As you know, I’m a HUGE fan of Karen Salmansohn, everything this woman writes really resonates with me.  She is an amazing author and speaker and she has so much to share, and some of what she has to share deals with the pain of anxiety.  Karen doesn’t want any of us to deal with this pain, and in fact, she’s created this really awesome course that helps people to deal with it.

Karen has made this amazing video series to help people deal with anxiety, and she offers 42 stress reducing tools that are all research backed.

The training happens in short bursts – only 3 to 10 minutes per video – and can be enjoyed on infinite devices – cellphones, iPads, computers, oh my!

Check out Karen’s Anxiety Cure and see if it’s right for you.  What’s really cool is Karen is making an awesome offer.  You can try out the Anxiety Cure and if you find that it’s not right for you, you can request a refund!  How sweet is that?  But if it works for you, that’s even better, and you’ll have an opportunity to make some huge improvements to your life.

 

Take Steps to Have Better Life After Recovery

Take Steps to Have a Better Life After Recovery

Adam Cook – addictionhub.org

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Addiction and Treatment

 

Addiction is a disease affecting millions of people all over the world. There’s no one main factor that can predict if a person will struggle with substance abuse. A combination of genetic, environmental and developmental influences generally contribute to a person’s inclination towards addiction. While the best solution is prevention, there is hope for people who find themselves in the throes of this chronic disease characterized by compulsive drug or alcohol use.

 

Substance abuse treatments help addicts cease their drug use, stay drug-free and reintegrate into society as a healthy and productive person. There are various different methods of addiction treatment, but the principles behind them are essentially the same. Effective treatment doesn’t just remove drugs from the equation, it also addresses the various mental and emotional issues behind a person’s proclivity towards self-destructive behaviors. Detoxification is only the first step; patients also need behavioral therapy and counseling to help identify stressors or triggers that contribute to their addiction. Often medication is also administered to help relieve withdrawal symptoms and restore balance to neurochemicals.

Life After Treatment

 

Whether you admit yourself into an inpatient treatment or you simply begin going to a group, life after treatment is markedly different compared to how it was when using drugs or alcohol. As addiction tends to overtake a person’s way of living, addicts have to figure out what their lives mean after becoming sober. Often they have to cut off certain places and people while making major changes including finding employment or a residence. It’s a big adjustment, for sure. But with these helpful tips and habits, life after addiction is manageable.

 

  • Positive thinking is paramount. Unfortunately, the damage drugs and alcohol inflict on the addict’s life make positivity counterintuitive. To reframe a negative mindset, identify the inner monologue that contributes to negative thoughts. Once you’ve identified the monologue, you can figure out what in life triggers these thoughts. Identifying negative thoughts and their triggers gives you the power to tell yourself “stop” once they begin.
  • Find the right place to live after rehab in order to encourage sober living. As Redfin.com explains, “You’ll want to find a place that helps you create a healthy, consistent routine without throwing you into the paths of old triggers. You’ll also want a loving environment to rebuild your relationships and bond with your family, a place where you can heal and focus on your recovery.” Avoid living situations that permit sneaky and destructive behaviors that lead to substance abuse.
  • Exercise is a healthy habit many addicts turn to when in recovery. Not only does physical activity release stress when facing triggers, it also plays a part in balancing neurochemicals and hormones misaligned due to drug abuse. Exercising stimulates the same reward center in the brain that drugs and alcohol stimulate. That activity helps to ease cravings and makes recovery more comfortable for the addict.
  • Meditation has a reputation of being something only New Age hippies do, but, in fact, it is a not-so-secret tool many of the world’s most successful people use to deal with stress and anxiety. Create a space in your home where you can be alone without distractions. Spend 10 to 20 minutes a day sitting in quiet while meditating. Focus on breathing naturally and let thoughts enter and exit your mind as they come while returning your attention to your breath any time it wanders.

 

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Addiction is a serious disease that damages a person’s mind, body and life overall. There are many different paths to recovery, but life after treatment is markedly different than life before. To facilitate sober living, it is important to implement healthy habits that help balance the body and mind. Positive thinking takes a lot of work, but with time and focus you can rewire your brain to stop negative loops of self-doubt and hatred. Picking the right environment for life after recovery prevents falling back into old habits. Furthermore, exercise and meditation are two habits that can help balance the mind and body for comfort and happiness.

 

 

Sometimes, I Wonder Why

Sometimes, I wonder why.  No that would be a lie, I wonder why, all the time.  I wonder why about a lot of things.  Today I am wondering why about Think Positive 30.

 

Why am I doing this?

That is a very good question.  I started out doing this for me, and for a dear, wonderful friend.  You can read the story in the about section, but the abridged version is we were whiny.  Our blogs were filled with negative crap, and she decided to post one positive thing a day.  Why?  Because all that negativity was bringing us down.

I made a blog specifically for that, and Think Positive 30 was born.  From the blog (not this one) it morphed into a website thinkpositive30.com, and a mailing list.  I loved the mailing list.  But my web host kept flagging me for spam, even though people had to sign up for the email list.  I loved the email list beyond belief. It was a lot of work, but I loved it. But the flagging made me look for a different way to do it.

I found the list I’m using now, Mail Chimp.  It’s an amazing list, but it’s not free.  To send the Daily Positive Thought out to my subscribers on a daily basis was going to cost money.  Lots of money. To send out the Daily Positive Thought it was going to cost me $15.00 a month.  I can’t swing that so I decided to send out one email a week with 7 positive thoughts.  One for each day.  It’s not perfect, but it works.

Why Am I telling you this?

Not to ask for money.  Just a little back story into my Why question for the day.  This morning I saw a post on Facebook and someone was saying they sent a hoodie from their store to a YouTuber who has over a million subscribers.  The YouTuber emailed back and said they were going to wear the hoodie on their show and give a shout out to the person on Facebook and his shop.  I think that’s great, and it leads into my why for this morning.  It’s a two fold why I think.

Why are some people more successful than others?

How does it happen? What do they do more successfully than other people do?  Why are they able to find their niche and help it explode into a way to make money?  Is it because they don’t feel like they have any other options, or is it because they think they have every option in the world?  I’m beginning to think it’s the second thing.  If you’re doing something out of a sense of desperation, you may be successful, but I think your fears and desperation will get in your way and you won’t be as successful as you think

If you approach something with the mindset that you have a thousand different options open to you, you’ll be more successful.  When you act like you have all these options available to you, all these options become available to you. Which brings me to my next why.

Why can’t I make this happen?

I’m a huge fan of the Law of Attraction.  I don’t think that’s a secret.  Simply put it states Ask (put it out to the universe), Believe (believe you’re going ask believe receiveto get it) and Receive (wait for it to come.)  There is a missing step, you can’t just sit there and do nothing. If you want something, you have to work for it.  Effort is required on your part.  You shouldn’t try and control everything, but you do have to put in effort.  I’m okay with that part.  I struggle with the Believe portion.

How do you believe you have a million dollars in the bank when you’re struggling to pay the bills?  How do you believe you’re driving the car of your dreams when your car is in the shop?  That how is my why.  I know these people who are super successful have always believed that they will be.  This all comes back to my little baby of a website ThinkPositive30.com.  Sometimes I wonder why I am doing it, and sometimes I wonder why people care.

Well the answer to the second question is, I don’t know if people care.  I don’t get a lot of feedback here comment wise.  I also have a facebook group, facebook page, and an instagram page.  None of them have a lot of interaction with people, a little, but not a lot.  Sometimes I wonder what I’m doing wrong that I don’t have a lot of feedback and then I realized something.  If I touch one person, help one person think in a more positive manner, it’s a win.  As to the why I am doing it, that’s easy.  I do it for me. To help me be a more positive person.

So I’m going to continue.  I’ll continue with the website and the facebook and instagram.  I’ll keep the mailing list going.  And more importantly I’m going to work on my believing in the believe portion  of Ask Believe Receive.  If I can believe in God (and I do) I can certainly believe that good things are coming to me and that I can and do make a difference with ThinkPositive30.com  And if I can do it, so can you!

Be a No Drama Llama!

Don't be a drama llamaProtect yourself. Keep your distance from negative people and their drama. They have a problem for every solution. – Karen Salmansohn

I am not a fan of the drama.  In fact in my classroom,  I have a sign declaring it a Drama Free Zone.  To my way of thinking, life is challenging enough without dealing with drama from other people.  It comes at us from all sides.  It comes from our friends and our family, our co-workers and our neighbors.  These people are veritable energy suckers.  They can and do suck the life right out of us.  On a daily basis, I have students walking in to my classroom saying so-and-so said or did this, or he posted that on snap chat, or she said this about me in a text message.  Idon't be a drama llamat’s overwhelming and the drama llamas do their very best to suck us in.

Their drama can sometimes turn you into a drama llama yourself.  And seriously, do you have time for that?  I’m going to guess the answer to that is no you don’t.  Well guess what, you don’t have to deal with the drama llamas any more! It’s time to drop the drama!  Stop allowing crazy-makers, game-players, truth-manipulators, gossip-mongers, conflict-stirrers and bad communicators to drain you of joy, energy and time!  Plus make sure you’re not accidentally contributing to or prolonging any drama.  But how?

Karen Salmansohn is offering an amazing class called Be a No Drama Llama.   This course will help you you to not to associate with the drama.  It will teach you how to not invite the drama into your life, and more importantly how not to create MORE drama!  Don’t be a drama llama.  Find out how to stop the drama from taking over your life.  Seriously, do you have time for drama? No, of course you don’t.  Your life, your time is too important to let other people infect you with their drama and bring you down.  Check out Karen’s class.  This class regularly costs $149.00 but for a very limited time, she is offering the class for only $49.00.  It’s an amazing offer and too good to pass up. Click here to see everything this class offers. Get ready to cut the drama from your life.  Be a NO DRAMA LLAMA!

 

 

I Love Ted

Yesterday, I was scrolling through Facebook when I came across a Ted Talk by Susan David. I watched it, and really enjoyed it, and then I moved on to something else. But I didn’t stop thinking about it. It was percolating in the back of my mind as I connected it to this, that, and the other, including a blog post I wrote this week.  Dr. David, of course, spoke far more eloquently than I wrote, and I really think it’s worth watching.  So press play, and then let me know what you think 🙂

Fun Ways to ROCK Your Sober Halloween Party

Hey everyone – we have another awesome guest post from Constance at Recoverywell.org

Fun Ways to Rock Your Sober Halloween Party

 

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Halloween is right around the corner, marking the first end-of-the-year holiday that millions of people across the country celebrate, with jack-o-lanterns, loads of candy, and an astonishing variety of spooky events to host and attend. However, for people in addiction recovery, particularly those who are freshly sober, it can be hard to figure out how to spend the holiday without succumbing to temptation.

 

The truth is, as many long-time sober addicts who still love to throw a festive party will tell you, celebrating without alcohol or drugs can significantly enhance your experience of Halloween, rather than make you feel like you don’t fit into the costumed holiday scene. Yes, alcohol doesn’t have to be part of the picture. And you really can throw a sober and fun Halloween bash of your own.

 

Here are five games to consider when hosting a sober Halloween party, for a howlingly good time:

 

  1. Pumpkin Carving Contest

 

Pumpkin-carving is one of the ultimate Halloween traditions. For your alcohol-free party, buy a load of small-sized pumpkins that guests can comfortably take home with them, and set out carving knives and small festive candles on a large table ready with bowls at the ready for pumpkin guts. Have your guests carve their own Halloween-themed designs, and at the end of the evening, give out prizes for the most impressive creation. Like decorating the Christmas tree or dyeing Easter eggs, no Halloween party is complete without a nod to traditional pumpkin carving.

 

  1. Costume Contest

 

It’s the time of year when you can dress up as anyone or anything you want, and some people take the task seriously. Why not invite your friends who are dedicated costume dressers and everyone else who “dabbles” in the art to come all dressed up to the party? Sponsor a costume contest to motivate the shy and bashful to go for the ultimate prize. You can have guests nominate the best costume, collect the votes, and give out prizes to the winners. To vary up the awarding segment of your party, give out prizes for most creative costume, scariest costume, best couples costume, and so on.

 

  1. Host A Murder Mystery Dinner

 

This one is for those who want a small, more intimate kind of party. The idea here, which will require a lot of planning – be forewarned – is to conduct a murder mystery dinner. Basically, each new guest that arrives is assigned a role, and throughout the dinner, players must guess who is the killer and who is secretly the victim. Variations include a Clue kind of theme to a Pretty Little Liars set up.

 

  1. Have Everyone Tell Scary Stories

 

A familiar pastime during Halloween of years past when you were a kid, was to swap scary stories while passing around the flashlight in your friend’s basement. Such stories probably scared the daylights out of you then, which can be fun to do to others. A tradition that spans centuries, swapping ghost stories is a terrific way to generate laughs and spine-tingling reactions, while entertaining guests all around.

 

The Takeaway

 

Putting yourself out there to throw an alcohol-free Halloween bash at your home takes a bit of courage when recovery leaves you feeling sensitive to the connection in your mind between partying and consuming alcohol. However, by inviting supportive friends and people who live a 100% healthy lifestyle and don’t imbibe at all, you’re giving yourself permission to try out a new kind of festive form of celebrating without dangerous substances present.

Though different, and only if the party is organized right, you should find it comparatively fun to the alcohol-laden parties of your past. If anything, congratulate yourself on trying something new and exercising that festive side of yourself.

 

Money, Tapping and the Law of Attraction

I just too a mini course on money mapping and working through your blocks about money. I’m going to be honest, I didn’t really think I had any money blocks. It turns out I was wrong.  I have blocks, and  I think we all do. This class focused on using tapping (EFT) to work though the blocks. I’d heard about tapping, i read about it, and I was interested, but I never really did it. I am now, and I’m loving it, and I’d love to hear about other people’s thoughts on tapping and success stories etc. But what i want to talk about are the blocks. Blocks can take many forms, and limiting beliefs can come from almost anywhere. I have a LOT of student loan debt, and even though I never realized it before, it makes me feel like a complete loser (talk about a block lol.) I’ve made money mistakes, but that doesn’t make me a loser.  I used to feel like getting out of debt was hopeless, but it’s not.  I just need to get rid of the blocks – that’s where the tapping comes in.  It may not be for everyone, and that’s okay, but it is for me, and that’s okay too.

But in the class we started talking about the Law of Attraction and attracting money into our lives. I commented that I can attract little things like a parking space with no problems but I struggle with the big things. I think a lot of us do. Well the instructor asked me something. What do I do when a friend offers to pick up the tab when we’re out, or invites me for a meal or something. Well, I automatically say no, or insist on paying for my portion. Guess what people, that is a block. You are NOT allowing money to come to you. You are NOT expressing gratitude. You are shutting down that money coming to you when you do this. Learn to accept things like this with ease and gratitude. Let them come into your life and the bigger things will start coming as well.

You deserve abundance, you deserve to live the life of your dreams, but if you continue to put up these blocks, its never going to happen.  Take a good look at who you are and what your beliefs are, and more importantly what those limiting beliefs are.  If your dad said things like “Money doesn’t grow on trees you know,” I promise you, that has worked it’s way into your subconscious and had become a limiting belief for you.  No, money does NOT grow on trees, he was right about that, but there is plenty of money in the world, and you need to be open to getting some. You can use the Law of Attraction, you can manifest the things into your life that you desire. You have to believe it, and you have to ALLOW it!  Once you take these steps, I think you’re going to find amazing things happening in your life.

I’d like to hear what you have to say on the topic, please weigh in with your thoughts and opinions in the comment section below.

The Power of Positivity: Amy’s Story

Today’s guest post is by Constance Ray of RecoveryWell.org

“I’m so grateful to be set free from living a fear-driven life and carrying the burdens of that fear and worry. I am so thankful that I am happy the majority of the time today.” – Annette, Sobriety Advocate

Depression and addiction are serious illnesses that affect millions of people — and sometimes, they work together to make someone’s life completely

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unbearable. And while it’s important to receive treatment for these conditions, whether on their own or as co-occurring disorders, the power of positive thinking can go a long way in helping people find their way back from despair. Amy, a brave addiction warrior, is proof that dancing in the rain is an effective first step in making a positive and permanent life change.

 

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Amy started struggling with mental health issues when she was just a little girl.

 

“From a young age, I started having panic attacks,” she said. “I was in and out of the doctors’ offices, and eventually diagnosed with depression and panic disorder.”

 

Though her parents worked hard to get her the help she needed, she still suffered some dark times during her adolescence.

 

“I experienced quite a bit of childhood trauma growing up. My parents divorced when I was about 12 or 13 years old, and that’s around the time I started drinking. It was also around that time I started having suicidal thoughts.”

 

She continued, “By the time I was 16, I was experiencing constant panic attacks and was unable to breathe and unable to cope. I was drinking, but hadn’t started using drugs yet. I was kicked out of my mom’s house, and instead of going to live with my dad, I moved in with drug dealers.”

 

When she was 18, she underwent open-heart surgery to treat a life-threatening medical condition.

 

“I was so excited to have the surgery because I thought it was really going to help me — so I could breathe normally, be better at sports, and have less anxiety,” she remembered.

 

Sadly, things didn’t turn out the way she hoped.

 

“What no one had told me was that surgery can significantly worsen depression,” she explained. “I couldn’t do the things I normally did to cope with it, like sports or driving. By the time I left the hospital, I was severely addicted to morphine. Everything went quickly downhill after my open-heart surgery, and I turned to pain medication.”

 

Amy continued to try to live a normal life — at that point, she didn’t yet realize that she was addicted. She moved from Chicago to New Orleans for college and completed her freshman year. Unfortunately, she couldn’t keep the momentum going, and soon found herself homeless on the streets of New Orleans.

 

“During that time, I experienced more trauma. I was diagnosed with PTSD. Things got really bad. I was down to about 80 pounds, and I crossed just about every line I had ever established in my life,” she said.

 

She was in and out of counseling, but it wasn’t until a friend connected her with a man who worked in an outpatient treatment program that she got the help she really needed — including the power of positive thinking.

 

She said, “That man, his wife and his family came to meet me on a 12-step call, and I went to a meeting with them. Immediately afterwards, I went out drinking; but the next day, [which was] Mardi Gras when I was 21 years old, I got a sponsor.

 

“Before I went to to that meeting, for the first time in my life, I actually wanted to live,” she continued. “While I was there, I saw people who were truly happy. The family that took me to that meeting — they saved my life. I felt a sense of community I had never experienced.”

 

Now, with over three and a half years of sobriety under her belt, Amy works tirelessly to ensure that others who are struggling the way she once did practice positivity and other body- and mind-healthy habits in their everyday lives.

 

“I am now the regional coordinator for the Tennessee Suicide Prevention Network … I bring public education to topics like suicide, substance abuse and mental illness,” she beamed.

 

She shares her story whenever she can in order to help others.

 

She noted, “I realized I couldn’t do what I was doing for a living without expressing myself and my story. Part of my self-care today involves having people around me who are aware of my past and what I’m doing. When I speak with groups, I start up conversations about mental illness, substance abuse and suicidal thoughts.”

 

Although Amy worked for years to achieve everything she has accomplished today, she couldn’t truly battle her demons until she committed to having a changed perspective — one that allowed her to view things in a positive way.

 

“The first step is to want it — to really want it. I wish that wasn’t always the case, but it is.”

 

If you are struggling with a mental health condition like addiction, depression or anxiety, know that there is always help available for you. You can overcome any obstacle life throws at you — but as Amy proves, you have to want it, and embrace your strength with hope and positivity.

 

As she said, “It’s so important to have … a willingness to keep walking. No matter how small the step, keep moving forward. It’s all about daily action.”

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Gratitude

Today’s guest post is by Luke Goodwin

 

GRATITUDE

 

For me, this is one of the most powerful things that can influence every single area of your life and something that has completely transformed my way of thinking and also the way I conduct myself.

 

Each day, I utilise something called ‘The Miracle Morning’ and within this I have added in an exercise called ‘priming’ by the one and only Tony Robbins. Priming is something that has completely opened my mind, allows me to channel my thoughts, create energy and positivity. While I am doing this priming exercise, which lasts for 14 minutes, there is a part of it that focuses on gratitude, and I cannot put a measurement on how much this has affected me. I didn’t drastically notice immediate changes, but they were happening daily, just really small minor changes in my thinking, but over time, when I look back at my journal entries and how I used to conduct myself, I have realised how much, just spending a small amount of time being grateful, has impacted my life. It allows you to see yourself, other people and the world in a completely different light. It allows you to see solutions and not problems, it allows you to see obstacles as a way of improving not failing and it allows you to enjoy life, complain less, and be positive.

 

I used to be one of those people that would moan about 5 minutes of traffic, moan that someone didn’t arrive on time, moan about a lot of things, and I wondered why my life wasn’t going in the direction I wanted it to go in, and that was due to my thought process and way of thinking. I was very negative, thought I was unlucky, and made bad decisions. Now all of those have completely flipped. I now think positively, generate amazing results, think clearly, work efficiently and have so much more energy.

 

I urge everyone, to practice being grateful, because then it will become an automatic process in your mind. Imagine this, if you are genuinely grateful to have a family, kids, partner, job, LIFE, do you think you would complain about half of the things you currently complain about? Don’t get me wrong, I am not perfect, I still huff and puff now and again, but this has dramatically reduced since taking the time out to be grateful. I used to allow myself to get wound up when my kids misbehaved, which occasionally I still do, after all, we are human. But when I spent every single day being grateful that I am able to be a father, getting wound up over silly things reduced. I used to allow myself to let setbacks and obstacles completely swallow and drown me, and change my thinking into negativity, but when I spent every day being grateful that I have a life, and being grateful that I can even experience these challenges because they are developing my attributes and personality, I now see setbacks and obstacles as strengthening by character and giving me room for improvement. I used to moan that I had a bad day in business, and that I didn’t earn enough money, but when I spent each day feeling grateful for the fact that I am self employed and don’t have to commute, answer to a boss or line someone else’s pockets, it made me see those bad days as development. I am not criticising anyone that is employed here, I am merely stating the fact that for me, those were fundamental reasons why I made the decision to be an entrepreneur.

 

Each day, I would recommend taking time out to practice being grateful, it WILL transform your life. You could try the Tony Robbins priming exercise like I do, if not, simply take 5 minutes out of your day, go somewhere quiet with no distractions and completely zone in on what you are grateful for. This does take practice, and it takes commitment and consistency, it doesn’t happen overnight. For me, at first, I allowed other thoughts to enter my head whilst I was thinking about what I am grateful for, and my mind wondered, but over time, I became better and better and now I can completely zone in and be focus 100% on being grateful. When you do spend time being grateful, don’t worry about what you are thinking about, it could be something huge or it could be something really small, what matters is, how does it make you feel? Sometimes, I think about holding my little boy’s hand when I drop him off at nursery, or cuddling my daughter when I get back from the gym, but for me, it makes me smile when I think about these things. Now, I have spent so much time being grateful for things, I can think about broader things such as being grateful for having a life, and that the possibility for me even existing is so small, I am very very fortunate to even be here, living on this earth today. I sometimes imagine myself hovering above the earth, looking down on it and being blown away at how stunning it looks, and that underneath the atmosphere, are so many amazing miracles to be cherished. That somewhere on that earth is me, living an life. I am extremely grateful for that.

 

I wanted to keep this fairly short, because I think sometimes, things can be over complicated when it doesn’t need to be, and ultimately being grateful is a very simple thing in essence, but it does need to be done consistently in order for it to influence your life. I would love for people to read this, take my advice and get in touch with me and let me know how it has influenced you, no matter how big or small. I take great joy in providing content and value to people, and if it only affects one person, it genuinely makes me happy.

 

Feel free to link up with me on Facebook, I would love to hear your feedback.

 

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10 Wealth Affirmations to Attract Riches Into Your Life

This is not my article – I found it tonight and I want to share it with you…I’m posting a snippit of it and a link to the website…It’s amazing and powerful and I hope you’ll all read it.

Affirmations can have positive impact on your life. There are several types of positive affirmations and the most popular ones are wealth affirmations.

Wealth affirmations can improve our beliefs about money and the accumulation of wealth. They make us concentrate our attentions, thoughts and ideas toward attracting wealth and abundance into our lives.

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