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Taking Control of My Life

Nov 5th, 2012
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So Life has spun a little bit out of control for me lately.  I’m a single  parent of 2, count them, 2 high school seniors.  Between all their activities, academics, and the all encompassing college application process, as well as all the things I have on my own plate, it’s safe to say that my life has spun completely and totally out of control.  I’m overwhelmed and I don’t know how to fix it.  Last night was particularly bad for a variety of reasons, and I started out my Monday wondering if I was even going to survive this year, and if I did, would it be worth it.

Well this morning, I had an a blog post to read in my google reader – actually, we won’t even begin to discuss the amount of blog posts because I didn’t check them at all over the weekend.  However, one post from Marc and Angel Hack Life – Practical Tips for Productive Living .  The post was called 12 Unconventional Habits of Highly Productive People.  I was going to just ignore it because I don’t want to be highly productive – at this point, I’ll settle for keeping my head above water.  But I realized that was STUPID, I should be productive, I should be proactive, and not reactive so I decided to give it a read.

I’m not going to lie, it’s a good article and everything in it made sense.  I don’t know if I can incorporate all the suggestions into my life, but I did find one suggestion that I know I MUST incorporate into my life.  Meditation.  The authors talked about meditation and provided a great link to another blog Meditation:  What it Actually is, Why It’s Awesome and How to Actually Get Started that gave some great tips about meditation, what it is, and what it isn’t.

This is something I can incorporate into my life.  More than that, I think it’s something I NEED to incorporate into my life.  Do I think it’s a cure all and fix all for all the stress in my life – absolutely not!  What I do think is that it is a powerful and amazing tool to help me COPE with all the stress in my life.  So I’m going to give it a whirl and see how it goes.  The way I see it, things can’t get any worse than they are, and in fact, it will make things a LOT better.

Beyond Our Illusions – Review and Contest

Oct 10th, 2012
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Beyond Our Illusions

The key to using Universal Laws to transform your life.

 

Beyond Our Illusions is penned by Deborah Sless a practicing psychotherapist in the UK.  When I was first approached to write this review I was excited.  Then when I started reading the book, I’ll admit, I was a bit dismayed because there was a bit too much “psychobabble” for me.  But that “psychobabble” lays a strong foundation for self-evaluation necessary to use the Universal Laws to start transforming your life.  I was afraid that for this to be successful, it would need to be paired with psychotherapy, and happily, I was wrong.  Sless walks you through what you need to know in order to start on a journey of self-exploration and growth.

The book is broken up in to twelve chapters easy to read and understand chapters with clear and concise explanations, examples and exercises that work together to bring us to a greater understanding of the Universal Laws.

Each chapter in this book gives you the opportunity to take a look at who you are and how you became that way.  It is at times disconcerting, but necessary to look so honestly at yourself.  It is only with a thorough understanding of who you are and how you became that way can you open yourself up to the Universal Laws and use them to transform your life.

I did find Sless’ premise that your Life Story is completely formed by the time you are age 4 with finishing touches put on in adolescence disconcerting, however as I read the chapter and the examples and case studies cited I had to agree with her.  Who we are now was formed at a very young age.  However, but raising our awareness of this and who we are, we are able to make changes through the Universal Laws.

There is a plethora of self help books and books on the Law of Attraction on the market.  Beyond Our Illusions differs from these because it combines the best of both.  You are required to take an honest look at who you are and how you got there and are given the tools to make the changes necessary to transform your life.  Kudos to Deborah Sless for creating a book that brings these two things together.

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As stated in our Sept 3 post we are inviting readers to participate in a contest and receive a free copy of Beyond Our Illusions.  Leave a comment below.  Winners will be chosen at random receive a copy of Beyond Our Illusions.   In order to be eligible, you MUST leave a comment here at Thinkpositive30.com.  Winners will also be invited to submit their OWN review as a guest post on Think Positive 30!

Beyond Our Illusions – contest

Sep 3rd, 2012
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Beyond Our Illusions

The key to using Universal Laws to transform your life – by Deborah Sless

Hi Everyone – big news.  I have been asked to  review Beyond our Illusions:  The key to using Universal Laws to transform your life by Deborah Sless.  The book is phenomenal, and I’m on my second reading before I begin writing my review.

The publishers of Beyond Our Illusions have been generous enough to donate several copies for me to give away.  When I post the review, you will be invited to comment and share why you want to receive a copy, AND you will be invited to submit your own review, and/or write a guest post on Think Positive 30.  Winners will be chosen at random from all the comments posted.

From the book jacket:

Despite following the advice of a wealth of bestselling self-help books, most of us are still no closer to understanding the fundamental laws and principles that govern the universe, our interactions within it and our ability to achieve success, health, wealth and happiness.

Have you ever wondered why the Law of Attraction isn’t working for you? There is a very rational reason why.

Quite simply, the Universal Laws CANNOT work in our favour until  we identify and remove the psychological issues that are blocking our ability to manifest our gals and desires.

In her ground-breaking and easy-to-understand book UKCP and BACP accredited psychotherapist Deborah Sless uses the concrete psychological theory of Transactional Analysis to uncover the secrets behind the Universal Laws and explain how they really work. By joining her on this journey of self-discovery, readers will begin to understand:

  • The Universal Laws and their significance in our daily lives
  • Our own individual Life Story and the beliefs we formed n childhood that continue to impact us today
  • How to achieve freedom from our illusions and move toward genuine self development
  • The concept of Spirit ans an energy force and how to tap into it.

Debora Sless’s accessible and straightforward approach draws on more than 20 years experience in private psychotherapy practice and spiritual counseling.  In Beyond Our Illusions, she provides readers with the tools and framework they need – through clear explanations, examples and exercises – to begin a journey of discovery, change and fulfilment.

Press Release:

There IS a reason why.

 

Discover the secret to making the Universal Laws actually work for you!

 

 

Beyond Our Illusions

Deborah Sless

 

Published by Live It Publishing on 1 August at [RRP]; paperback

 

Those of us interested in spirituality and personal development have long been familiar with the idea that certain fundamental laws and principles govern the universe and our interactions within it. And once we have a knowledge of these Universal Laws, we can use them to make the changes we want and need to achieve the fulfilment in life we are seeking.

 

However, despite following the advice of a wealth of bestselling self-help manuals, most of us are still struggling to make the Universal Laws work for us. WHY is that?

 

The answer is simple: The Universal Laws cannot work in our favour until we identify and remove the psychological issues that are preventing the movements we desire.

 

Using the concrete psychological theory of Transactional Analysis (TA), psychotherapist Deborah Sless has worked with hundreds of clients in private practice to explain this process and guide them through the journey of self discovery toward fulfilment. In her groundbreaking and easy-to-understand book, BEYOND OUR ILLUSIONS, she tackles the Universal Laws head on and explores the following:

 

  • The concept of the Universal Laws and their significance – what they are and how they impact our lives

 

  • Understanding our own individual Life Story, written by us as children, and the beliefs that we have formed in our childhood

 

  • How to explore our beliefs and illusions and identify which among them are out-dated and holding us back

 

  • Achieving freedom – or autonomy – from our illusions and mastering our self

 

  • The concept of Spirit as an energy force, accessible to those of all religions, and how to tap into it

 

Genuine self-development is not easy but Deborah Sless provides her readers with the tools and framework they need – through clear explanations, examples and exercises – to begin a journey of discovery and change. All she is asks of her readers is an open mind and the desire to learn.

 

Deborah Sless is available for interview.

For more information, please contact:

Sophie Mitchell, 07766 694 638 / sjmitchell@gmail.com

A Word from the Author:

Why I Wrote Beyond Our Illusions…

In the latter half of the 1990s, I was introduced to modern spirituality. It was during this time that I began, like many people, to learn about the presence of Universal Laws. I found what I read fascinating, but I was very sceptical as to their validity. It was difficult to find any material that went into any depth about the Laws. Most of the time a Law was mentioned in passing, but without an explanation: it was only written as a statement.

 

I had found, and still do find, some spiritual ideas difficult to believe in, but I do believe that there are things beyond our current understanding and therefore I try to keep an open mind. So were the sayings ‘ask and you shall be given’ or ‘as you believe so it becomes’ really true?

 

There were a few books around that mentioned certain Laws, such as the Law of Belief or Law of Attraction, which I learnt later, are sub-Laws of the Master Law of Cause and Effect. Some of my clients were also reading these books. Over a period of time my clients brought to their therapy sessions questions related to their reading about Universal Laws. In particular my clients could not understand the reasons for the Universal Laws not working in their favour despite following what it said in the book(s). These clients believed they were doing it right and now wanted to know what they were doing wrong.

 

I found myself gradually answering their questions by explaining how their psychological issues were preventing the movement they were seeking. I showed them how these issues were manifesting the situations or conditions they wanted to change. I soon realised that I was using theoretical concepts of Transactional Analysis (TA) to fully explain the process my clients were experiencing.

 

I became very excited by the realisation that I could prove the wisdom held in some of these spiritual principles by concrete psychological thinking!

—Deborah Sless

 

Why Your AHA Moments Don’t Stick – Chris Cade

May 8th, 2012
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by Chris Cade

You’ve most certainly seen this in your life, and possible the lives of those you know about. It’s happened to me. The story starts out the same. You have one of those “amazingly super-duper spiritually enlightening aha moment experiences.”

You may have walked around for a few hours or even days without an ego…

It was mind-blowing to feel empty and spacious yet full…

For a night, it was inspiring to have the courage of a lion…

And for a moment, your consciousness expanded exponentially when you saw the entire Universe in a grain of sand.

But then something else happened. It wore off. The realization didn’t stick, and you realize something more immediate: you’re “just” you. Whoever you were before that incredible experience has returned to the present moment.
 
You hoped that the experience would transform your life forever. You hoped that if you had enough of those experiences, if you sought and found them, if you cherished them, they’d add up to enough realizations that you’d get to keep them all forever.

The thing is, transformation doesn’t work that way.

Realization is one thing. It’s the starting point. Realizations like those open us up to experiencing the world in new ways. Until we discover that the real challenge is not when we attain those realizations, but rather, living them in your daily life. That’s called “actualization.”

Actualization is when your realizations are so integrated into your being, that you live them naturally. You no longer have to “discover” the Truth of yourself because simply by existing you are an expression of that Truth.

It doesn’t matter if that Truth is as simple as having the courage to face your fears, or a deeper awareness such as the Universal interconnectedness we all share. Truth is Truth. And it’s a Truth you live without having to try and without having to alter your state of being to experience and live that Truth.

To simplify: Realization is the awareness. Actualization is the living embodiment of that awareness.

The thing is, few people experience real transformation in their lives because they spend more time chasing realizations than they do trying to actualize those realizations.

What good is awareness if you can’t bring it with you at the end of the experience?

Unfortunately, like all great spiritual Truths… the answer is simple, but not easy. In fact, to make your “aha” moments stick, you only have to do two things:

(1) Put into action what you realize

(2) Repeat step 1.

Or phrased another way: Practice the art of living.

It really is that simple. And yet, we have decades of historical conditioning, difficult experiences, and lack of spiritual support, many of which have been us practicing the art of non-living. The art of surviving. And while that was a necessary art to practice as a child, it’s not necessary to practice it in exactly the same ways as an adult.

We as adults have different needs than we did as chidlren. As such, our practices have to evolve, grow, and deepen. They can’t be based on our past — our practices must be based on the present. And therein lies the true secret to the two-step process above.

When you put your realizations into action, when you truly live them, you are living in the present moment. And the present moment is the only place where our practices can be integrated into our being such that they become actualizations.

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

P.S. When it comes to realizations…

One of the most difficult ones to live is around our “Self Worth.” Simply put… do we have value? And more importantly, is our value inherent to our being or is it something we have to earn?

If you’re like me and everybody I’ve ever met, there’s at least some aspect of you that feels you have to “earn” your worth. We do this by striving for the approval of others and avoiding rejection. Sometimes it’s in obvious big ways, and other times it’s so subtle or subconscious that you might not even be aware you’re doing it.

And if self worth is an area you’re still wanting to work on in your own life, then please feel free to join me on the free “Self Worth Summit.” I’ll be speaking alongside nearly 60 other speakers about this exact topic: How can we live, in our daily lives, with the experience of knowing that we matter?

Self Worth Summit

She Gave Me the Finger, I Gave Her My Heart – Chris Cade

May 6th, 2012
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Though that may sound like like the name of a really bad country song, I assure you I haven’t switched vocations to become a musician. :)

See, the other day I was taking my son to preschool and I had an “interaction” with a driver. There is a highway interchange that was designed very poorly and has great potential for accidents. All the people in the left lane have to get over to the right lane (which turns very quickly), and all the people coming from the right lane (which is a curve) have to get over into the left lane.

To compound the issue, those going from right to left have a metering light that brings traffic to a stop. During rush hour, it’s a dangerous intersection. I was in the left lane, another woman in the right.

I kindly slowed so that she’d be able to get into the lane in front of me. Then I’d be able to switch to the right. Unfortunately, she decided to also slow at the same time. We both came to an almost complete stop in the middle of traffic because within the 1 second we saw each other, we couldn’t agree on who should go first (and there wasn’t enough time / space for either of us to accelerate).

When she finally decided to cut in front of me at last moment, I barely missed hitting the back of her car by probably 6 inches. Maybe less. She was visibly upset.

Okay, that’s putting it mildly….

Until I had fully passed her car, I could see her mouthing various profanities at me. Most of them were regarding what she thought I should go do with myself. :)

And given how I was intending to act kindly, and she was treating me so poorly, I’m sure you can guess how I responded to her total disregard for my kindness…

I went on with my life.

I pulled into the right lane, drove off on my way, I sensed my heart, felt compassion, and thought to both her and myself:

“I wish you well.”

No matter how difficult life gets, no matter how badly people treat me, that’s one thing I always find helps me (and hopefully them too!)…

“I wish you well.”

It doesn’t right any wrongs. It doesn’t condone actions, nor does it condemn them. It doesn’t eliminate pain or frustration. And it doesn’t make me any more right or wrong than the other person.

“I wish you well” does, however, help me feel better.

It reminds me that I am a co-creator in this world.

It reminds me that if I want to live in a world where others wish live with kindness, it starts with me.

And that new co-created world starts in those moments where my critical ego least wants to wish people well. Still, it’s a start and it has to start somewhere. For me, that place is within.
 
Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

P.S. “I wish you well.” :)

Stop Feeling the Way You Know You Shouldn’t – Chris Cade

May 3rd, 2012
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A while back I shared with you my thoughts about “The LIE About Positive Thinking.”  Today, I’d like to expand on that topic in a different way. Specifically, the question is: Is it okay to have our thoughts?

On the surface, it seems obvious. Of course it’s fine to have our thoughts!

But what if they’re judgmental? Or so anti-Law Of Attraction that they’re negative or hurtful? Shameful? Is it okay to have those thoughts too?

I recall years ago that whenever I wanted to feel a specific kind of emotion, I’d change my music to something that mirrored what I wanted. If I wanted to feel energized, I put on Dream Theater, Van Halen, Metallica, or Robert Miles. If I wanted to feel mellow, I put on some Diana Krall, Enigma, or Enya. For whatever mood I wanted, I put in the music that would take me there.

It wasn’t until I ventured further down my spiritual path that I realized how detrimental that was to myself. I thought I was doing myself a favor by “picking myself up” naturally. Sort of like when you have a bad day, and a friend comes over and says, “Hey, let’s go shopping and get some dessert. Forget that loser ex of yours for a while.”

On the surface, that seems empowering and compassionate. The intention is well. However, all those examples have one thing in common:

Rejection.

Each one of them is rejecting the moment. It’s rejecting the person’s experience. It’s rejecting the possibility that being right where you are is exactly where you’re supposed to be.  It is fundamentally saying to yourself, “Stop feeling the way you know you shouldn’t.” And as I teach in Liberate Your Life, every time you use the word “should” you’re identifying with Your Inner Critic, limiting your growth and minimizing your happiness.

So then what’s the alternative?

Honoring the moment.

Instead of telling yourself how to feel or trying to change how you feel, just accept it. With regards to my music, I found a real deep peace and a kind of magical mystery when I switched my mindset. Instead of finding music to cover up what I felt, to ignore my emotions, to try and transcend them, or try to evade them…

I found myself putting in music that honored exactly who I was in that very moment.

The result was profound. Instead of having an underlying agitated state of rejection and frustration, I was listening to the perfect music for that moment. Because the music was aligned with my inner state, there was a resonance which created a sense of peace.

It seems counter intuitive.

After all, sometimes I’d feel a deep sadness. Maybe an anger. Maybe shame. Delight and joy. Excitement. It could be anything. And yet when I put in music that completely honored the emotion I was experiencing, I also felt peace.

The other emotions didn’t disappear. I didn’t stop feeling sad or angry. What changed was that instead of rejecting my sadness or anger, I was at peace with it…

And that made all the difference.

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

P.S. The amazing thing about accepting our negative thoughts and emotions is that when you do it, when you truly accept them, they naturally transform into a form of empowerment.

Temple Run and the Law of Attraction

May 1st, 2012
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I have a new interest  issue addiction – it’s called Temple Run.  I had no idea what this game was until one day, I was riding in the car with my daughter and these very strange noises started coming from her tablet.  At first,  thought it was the car, but then she proceeded to explain the game Temple Run to me.  I tried it when I got home, and the rest is, as they say, history.  But I’m not here to talk about my little video game interest   issue   addiction.  What I want to talk about is how I am using this game and applying it to the Law of Attraction.

In Temple Run, there is a magnet bonus you can get and when you do, your character gets a glowy aura about it, and will automatically begin attracting coins.  Since attracting a lot of coins is one of the key aspects of the game, getting the magnet bonus is a good thing.

One morning, driving to work, I was running over my affirmations in my head and one phrase jumped out at me.  I am a magnet for luck, a magnet for love and a magnet for money and I attract all of these things to me.  A magnet.  A MAGNET – just like the magnet in Temple Run.

I am a magnet for luck, a magnet for love and a magnet for money and I attract all of these things to me.

Now I will be the first to admit that it doesn’t take much to get me excited, or make me happy (you should have seen me the day my ezpass transponder came in the mail) but when I made this connection, I was over the moon.  It gave me a visual to apply to my affirmations.

I say these affirmations religiously, and I focus on them, but now, I am actually envisioning myself grabbing the magnet from Temple Run.  I see myself glowing like my little Temple Run character, and I visualize all these things coming to me and sticking to me with no effort, just they way the coins in Temple Run do.

I’ll be honest here.  Those images, those visuals make me happy, and they make me laugh every single time.  This in turn boosts my mood and guess what – because I’m happier, I’m sending out happier vibrations to the world, so guess what I’m getting back?  Yep, you got it – lots and lots of happiness.

All this because of a video game.  Who’d have thought?

 

What it Means to “Hold On” to Your Pain – Chris caade

Apr 22nd, 2012
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by Chris Cade

Recently I shared with you a bit about happiness, and my friend Arina’s explorations into the topic. While it’s important to find ways to cultivate happiness, there’s also a silent (or sometimes not-so-silent) killer of happiness: our pain.

Many people hold onto their pain like a kind of “badge of honor.” In fact, most of us have some aspect of our history, something painful or difficult, that we have a silent sense of pride about… as though when we tell the story, we know people will empathize with us. We’ll be seen. We’ll be comforted.

In fact, we might even mistake the support we receive for a distorted illusion of happiness.

Since that kind of connection between people feels supportive, we hold onto the story of our pain. We can tell the story again sometime (even if it’s just to ourselves). The interesting thing about “holding onto our pain” is that it actually takes us away from happiness, authentic communication, and it prevents us from living our lives fully.

When we “hold onto” our pain, when we bring our past difficult stories with us, what we’re really saying is: “I don’t want to be here, right now, as things are. I also don’t want to know what potential my future holds. I’m more interested in being with the more familiar experience of my painful and uncomfortable feelings.”

Nobody wants to admit that to themselves.

Yet it happens -every- time we continue to dwell in pain over something that is not occurring in the present moment. This can be as simple as telling your friend later in the day about that “jerk” who cut you off in traffic, that co-worker who talked bad about you behind your back, or your partner or friend who was so involved in his/her own story that you never got a chance to actually connect.

It happens in big and small ways. It happens to me every day. Not because I want the pain. Not because I want to avoid the present moment or the future. It happens because that’s a habit of the Inner Critic and my subconscious mind.

(and yours too)

If I were to oversimplify, I would say that when we “hold onto” our pain, what we’re really doing is giving up on life. After all, if we truly felt otherwise, we’d live in the moment and not in the past where our stories of pain reside.

Byron Katie nailed it when she named her book, “Who would you be without your story?” Really. Candidly speaking, while I have a few clues as to who I’d be, I don’t truly know. Not from a 24-7 experiential perspective.

And if you’re reading my messages, this is also true of you to some degree… :)

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

P.S. To be clear, I’m not suggesting that acknowledging or experiencing your pain is bad. In fact, it’s absolutely necessary to living a happy and fulfilled life.

Thus the question for you to explore is: How can you live so that the inevitable pain of being human doesn’t become a story (or badge of honor) that drags you back into the past?

If you would like to take the next step with Chris, sign up sign up for his Free “Getting Things Changed” 7-part mini-program that exposes the inner and outer obstacles conspiring against your best efforts to transform your life.

 

Click Here Now to get started…

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Let Me Tell You About “God” – by Chris Cade

Apr 19th, 2012
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by Chris Cade

Just saying the word “God” sends some people into a rage and others into profound peace. It causes wars and creates divine unions. People blame God for the bad in their lives while praising God for the gifts.

I find it amazing how one word can have such different meanings to so many people. There are as many meanings for the word “God” as there are people on the planet.

To some, God is personified – an all-knowing sentient being who consciously and intentionally creates situations (whether it’s pleasure or suffering, peace or war, cancer or miracle healings).
To others, God is an omnipresent field of organizing energy which has no conscious awareness, yet all consciousness arises from.
And others don’t even acknowledge the concept of “God” in any form.
Regardless of what you may believe about God…
Regardless of what you may have discovered to be personally true about God…
I think it’s important to really acknowledge that God means different things to different people. The thing is, what I’m writing isn’t really about God.
It’s about you and every experience you’ve ever had, are having, and will have. Because each and every one of them, every thought, every emotion, every story you’ve ever told yourself…
Means something different to you than it does to anybody else.

And if we can get so riled up about a three-letter word such as “God,” consider how much more we get riled up each and every day with entire sentences! :)

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

P.P.S. Only by acknowledging how you fundamentally view the world differently from others can you develop the awareness to have compassion for those who are different from you.

P.P.S. And by “those who are different from you,” I mean everybody you ever come into contact with.
If you would like to take the next step with Chris, sign up sign up for his Free “Getting Things Changed” 7-part mini-program that exposes the inner and outer obstacles conspiring against your best efforts to transform your life.

Click Here Now to get started…
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The Difference Between Your Ego and Your Inner Critic – Chris Cade

Apr 18th, 2012
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One of my Liberate Your Life program participants emailed me this week and asked that very question. It’s an interesting one, and I thought I’d share with you how I answer it within the body of my work. Although other peoples’ work may define these things differently, this is what works for me and for the people I work with.

Think of the Ego as your identity.

It’s who you take yourself to be. Maybe that’s a man or woman, mother or father, daughter or son. Maybe it’s an employee, a manager, a friend, and so on and so forth. You could sum up “Ego” as the who and what of your thoughts about yourself.

Think of the “Inner Critic” as the judgmental critical voice that has opinions *about* your Ego.

For example, the Inner Critic might look at the list I just wrote and expand it like this: “Insensitive man, ugly woman, unavailable mother, inconsistent father, distant daughter, burdensome son, incompetent employee, overbearing manager, callous friend” and so on and so forth. You could sum up “Inner Critic” as your opinions about yourself.

I’m aware that some people teach the ego to be “bad” or something to “rid” ourselves of. Unfortunately, that perspective *IS* the Inner Critic trying to judge how a person should go about their own path of inner growth.

(that’s just a more cunning version of the Inner Critic)

Rather than think of the Ego as something to get rid of, I prefer to think of it as something to understand. It’s not inherently bad to be a parent. However, it is important to understand what it means to be a parent, how that awareness affects your life, and how you can live both as a parent in the worldn… -without- all the judgments of the Inner Critic about what kind of parent it thinks you are.

Similarly, while I sometimes joke about “obliterating” the Inner Critic, that perspective only has very limited use (for the purposes of channeling certain types of aggressive energy more effectively).

As I teach in Liberate Your Life, it came to be in your life for very important, survival-based reasons. Rather than try to “get rid” of the Inner Critic, again I find it most useful to try and understand it. Explore it.

In my experience, trying to get rid of certain thoughts within my head is only a temporary remedy. The thoughts always come back. The only approach that has ever given me truly lasting freedom from the harsh judgments of my Inner Critic is awareness and understanding.

I hope those examples help clarify, at least within my evolving and developing body of work, where the differences lie between the Ego and the Inner Critic.

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

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