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Be Like Michael

I’ve missed more than 9000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. 26 times, I’ve been trusted to take the game winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed.
– Michael Jordan

I think pretty much everybody agree that Michael Jordan was a phenomenal athlete, and an extremely successful one as well.  We should all try and be like Michael.  Not because we should all try and be first class athletes.  That’s a nice dream, but we can’t all do that, there’d be nobody to watch if we were all playing  🙂  No we should all adopt his attitude of trying and failing.  Michael Jordan wasn’t afraid to try and he wasn’t afraid of failing.  He let go of the fear of failing and it helped him to succeed.

That’s pretty amazing. When you think about it, some of his biggest failures were on national television and live in front of thousands of fans. His lack of fear of failing led him to keep trying and trying, and as a result, having more and more success.  Imagine what your like if you would allow yourself to be like Michael?  Just go out there and try without any fear of failure.  What would you accomplish?  Really the sky is the limit.  So be like Michael and don’t let your fear of failure stopping you from succeeding.

Who Are You

I know for sure that what we dwell on is who we become.
– Oprah Winfrey

Who are you? If you’re like most people you have probably asked yourself that question at least a couple of times.  The Law of Attraction, and Oprah for the sake of this quote, say you become what you focus upon, and to some extent I think that’s true.  I actually talked about it with my students this past week in school.  We had watched the movie Cinderella Man and were talking about what it means to have a positive attitude.  One thing I wanted the kids to come away with is that a positive attitude doesn’t necessarily mean rainbows, fluffy bunnies and unicorns.  A positive attitude is when you work to make the best of what you have, or what life tosses at you.

In the movie, Jimmy Braddock, played by Russell Crowe had been given a rough row to hoe during the Depression.  Through out the movie, we see that it would have been so easy to just give up, but in the words of one of my students, he just “lived his best life.”  Jimmy Braddock didn’t dwell on what he didn’t have, or what he had lost.  He just kept working to make it better.  To me that is exactly what this quote is talking about.

You are, or you become what you are thinking about and focusing upon.  So really it’s up to you to decide who you are.  Focus on the things that are good, the things that make you strong and the things that help you live your best life, and you will absolutely have your best life.

Mistakes are Okay

When we give ourselves permission to fail, we, at the same time, give ourselves permission to excel. – Eloise Ristad

For the longest time, I thought mistakes were bad.  You didn’t want to make mistakes, you wanted to get the right answers and have all your projects work out correctly, right?  That’s what I thought, but I was wrong.  Mistakes are okay.  I may even go so far as to say that mistakes can be a good thing.

I know it sounds crazy, but it’s true.  Think about it. If you never push yourself, if you never try, you may succeed at what you’re trying to do, but what are you missing out on?  You’re missing out on the chance to find more, create more, discover more.  You’re missing out on the chance to excel and to soar.

I know that it seems counter intuitive to say it’s okay to make mistakes and it’s okay to fail.  But really it is.  Giving yourself permission to fail may take you out of your comfort zone, but that’s not a bad thing.  So tell yourself, that it’s okay to take chances, it’s okay to try something new, it’s okay to fail, and most of all, tell yourself that mistakes are okay.  They are, and who knows what you may find out by taking a chance and making a mistake.

Life Doesn’t Have To Be Perfect

Do not dwell so much on creating your perfect life that you forget to live. – Unknown

Have you ever gotten so obsessed with making sure something is perfect that you forget to enjoy it?  I have!  Think about a vacation you may have planned.  You can get so caught up in the planning and the itinerary, focusing on where you need to be next instead of enjoying where you are right now.  Think about weddings.  Brides and grooms strive to create the perfect day, and when it’s over, they can’t remember anything about that day.  Or worse, a small issue, like napkins in the wrong shade of ivory, can turn into a giant catastrophe.

It’s good to have goals and to strive to make things as good as they can be.  I want to have the best life possible.  But I don’t want to miss out on the life I have right now in trying to make my life perfect.  The fact of the matter is, it’s never going to be perfect.  Instead of stressing out over them, embrace the imperfections and you may find that they add to your life and make it even better.  But the only way you’re ever going to find out is to live your life.

Do Not Dwell

Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate your mind in the present moment. – Buddha

I have been dwelling – a lot lately, and it’s not good.  I shared with you all a few months ago that I was dealing with some health issues.  I still am, and lately they have gotten a little worse.  It’s not like I’m dealing with anything terminal, so I am very fortunate, but I’m still dwelling on it a lot.  Translation, I’m feeling sorry for myself.  Dwelling on anything isn’t good, and that includes the past.  You can get so caught up on what was, that your forget about what is, and that’s right now.

I think that sometimes, it’s okay to have a good wallow every now and again, it can be healthy and even healing.  But to dwell just means you are focusing on what is negative or bad, or gone, and what good does that do?  When you dwell on the past, you’re focusing on what was, be it good or bad.  You can’t go back to it, and you can’t change it.  So if it’s good, appreciate it, if it’s bad, let it go and move on.

For me, with my health, I unfortunately, can’t let it go, and for the most part, I’m doing a fairly decent job of trying to be positive, but I think I’m still falling into the dumps about it a little too often.  So what I need to do is dig out my handy dandy tool kit of mood changers.  Yes I have a tool kit, I talk about it in Chapter 4 of my book Thinking Positive: Take the Journey into Positivity which is available on Amazon.  Some of the things I do is escape into mindless comedy on tv, or singing on the top of my lungs.  I also have a fondness for making up words, which while annoying for others tends to cheer me up a lot!

So do what you have to do to stop dwelling, be it on the past, or on something that is going on right now.  It’s not helping, and dwelling isn’t going to change a thing, so why bother.   What strategies do you have to let go of things and not dwell?  I’d love to hear about them.

It’s Contagious

Attitudes are contagious. Make yours worth catching. – Unknown

I had never really thought about attitudes as being contagious.  Even when I was presented with proof time and again, I never got the hint.  When my children were very young, and I woke up in a bad mood, chances are, they’d be in a bad mood too.  I just figured it was a thing.  I never thought they were taking their cues from me.  But the were.

I finally figured it out when I started teaching.  I’m human, I have moods, good ones, bad ones and indifferent ones.  I work very hard to keep my bad moods away from my students, and I’m usually pretty successful.  I’ve actually become quite good at figuring out what has put me in a mood, and flipping it to be more positive.  A couple of years ago, I had a student in my first period class that was always in a bad mood.  No matter what was going on and what was happening, their mood was horrible, and it started to impact me.  My moods would get worse, and it would color my whole day.  I didn’t realize it at the time, but his attitude was contagious.

I started figuring it out when the student stopped coming to school (sadly that happens a lot), and when they stopped coming, the mood in the room changed, the contagion was gone.  And my good attitude spread to the remaining kids. That was a lesson too.  Attitudes are contagious, but its easier for a bad attitude to spread than it is for a good attitude.  That’s kind of sad.

I was actually very happy when that student started coming back to school because I doubled my efforts to be positive around them, and upbeat and I continued to try and figure out why they were always in such a bad mood.  That student graduated, but the lesson’s I learned have stayed with me.  Attitudes are contagious, and that is something I’m never going to forget.  Bad attitudes are more contagious.  I’m not sure why but it just means I need to double up on the positive vibes when I’m faced with a negative attitude coming at me.

Attitudes are contagious, so when you have a good one, spread it to the world.

A Little Extra

The difference between ordinary and extraordinary is that little extra. – Unknown

I filled you in a couple of weeks ago about what was going on in my life.  In the past 3 months, I have had a chest x-ray, two ultrasounds, 2 cat scans, a biopsy, a pet scan and so much blood work that I’m surprised I have any blood left.  During all this time, when I should have been extraordinary, I have been so ordinary that it isn’t even funny.  There are so many things I could be doing to improve my health, but I haven’t been doing them. What I have been doing is wallowing, and that ‘s not good.

I think a lot of us give our all to whatever it is we’re doing, be it working or playing, but we have to go beyond the ordinary to the extraordinary, and that means giving more than what we normally give.  I have not been doing that, but I’m going to.  The thing is, you’re not going to change anything unless you give that little extra.  You do have to change things, but you don’t have to change everything.  Start small.  Start with one change.

That’s what I’m doing, for several reasons.  I want to be in control of my life, and above all, I don’t want to be ordinary.  Anybody can be ordinary.  I’m making the decision to be extraordinary, and you should to.  Make the decision to give a little extra to what you’re doing and move from the ordinary to the extraordinary.

 

It’s a Good Thing

Remember that being alone doesn’t always mean being lonely; it can be a beautiful experience of finding your creativity, your heartfelt feelings, and the calm and quiet peace deep inside you. – Anonymous

There are some people that dread being alone, but I think it’s a good thing.  I’m not talking about loneliness, nobody wants to feel like that. I’m talking about being alone, by yourself and becoming aware of who you are.  In this crazy busy day and age, that’s a good thing.  Think about it, we are constantly being bombarded by news and information. We can be reached 24/7 via cell phone and email, and most of us check social media several times a day.  We are never alone.

There is a big push now about mindfulness.  Very simply put, it’s being aware of yourself, your thoughts and your feelings in the present moment.  That’s not a bad thing, in fact, it’s a good thing.  But you can’t be very mindful of yourself if you’re constantly surrounded by people and activity.  Sometimes, you just need to be alone to get in touch with who you are and what you’re feeling.

Take time to get in touch with who you are and how your feeling.  Shut off the outside world for a while and be alone with yourself.  Being lonely isn’t a good thing but being alone is different. It’s a good thing. It gives you an opportunity to get to know a very amazing person – yourself.

It Takes Time

Patience is a form of wisdom. It demonstrates that we understand and accept the fact that sometimes things must unfold in their own time. – Jon Kabat-Zinn

I am not a patient person.  I want what I want, and I usually want it right away.  But sometimes, it takes time for things to fall into place.  An acorn that is planted in the ground isn’t going to grow into a mighty oak, just because we try and will it.  There is a rhythm to things, and sometimes we just have to let that rhythm play out.

It’s logical, and on a certain level, it’s something that people understand, but understanding, and accepting are two different things.  In today’s society, we get immediate gratification.  Post a status on Facebook and get likes right away.  Want to talk to someone, shoot them a text, and chances are they’ll answer right away.  We get used to getting it all right now.  But sometimes it takes time, and when it does, it’s hard.

Cultivate a patient attitude.  Learn to wait.  Learn to sit back and enjoy the down time without a phone in your hand and or a computer giving you instant answers.  Develop patience and learn to wait for things to unfold in a natural manner.  Sometimes it takes time for things to come to fruition.  Have the wisdom and the knowledge to accept that.

Don’t Compare

Never mind what others do; do better than yourself, beat your own record from day to day, and you are a success. – William J. H. Boetcker

When you walk into a room full of people, what is the first thing you do? I compare what I’m wearing to everybody else.  I judge my outfit against theirs and usually come up lacking in my own mind.  I compare my hair, and my weight and usually come up with all my points in the negative column.  I constantly tell myself don’t compare myself to others and I constantly find myself doing it.

Not just clothing, and any other outward appearances, but everything.  I think most of us compare ourselves to others and find ourselves lacking, even thought it’s not true.  It’s not true because there is no comparison, so don’t do it. Don’t compare yourself to others.  If yo must compare, compare yourself to you.  Look at where you were, and how far you’ve come.  Look at the growth you’ve had, look at how far you’ve come from where you were.

John Donne said that comparisons are odious, and it’s true.  You shouldn’t compare yourselves against anybody else because you are unique, your situation is unique, as is theirs.  Don’t compare, but if you must, compare yourself to you.  Look at what you’ve accomplished, and build upon it.  Use your successes as a launching pad to bigger and better things.  There is no comparison, there is only you!

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