I was talking to somebody about visualizing and they were sharing some of the things they were trying to visualize, and I have to say, they set the visualization bar super low. So we got to talking about that, and they said they didn’t feel right asking for so much awesomeness in their life. I asked them if they ever played my favorite game. It’s called “What if I won the lottery?” Man I love that game. I can spend that money like it’s nothing, and they said of course, pretty much everyone plays that game, but it’s just a daydream. That was kind of my point. You don’t limit yourself on your daydreams, why oh why would you limit yourself on your visualizations? If you want it, GO for it. Reach for the stars. Visualize your perfect life, with your perfect things. Don’t dream of mediocrity; dream of the fantastic. It can be yours, you just have to believe it to be true.
There is nothing worse than believing in something 100% only to find out that perhaps you were wrong. Truth has a way of knocking our beliefs out from underneath us. As we grow and mature, we’ll often be faced with some hard truths that can throw us for a loop, but looking at them and accepting them can open up a new world to us. So when confronted with the truth, accept it with grace and dignity and explore the new world which may be opened to you. You never know what amazing and wonderful things you may learn.
So I’m more than a little sad right now because my students had NO idea how to respond to this quote. The idea of standing up for something is a pretty foreign concept, and the idea of doing so if their friends aren’t doing it was absolutely terrifying. Taking a stand is important. And it’s not because everybody else is doing it, or because it’s going to make you look like a better person. You take a stand because it’s the right thing to do . There is an inherent risk in taking a stand, but that shouldn’t stop you from doing what’s right or for fighting for what you believe. We stand up because we know it’s right, not because it may help us individually, but because it’s going to help – period! It doesn’t matter who may or may not see you take that stand, what matters most ist hat you do it.
I like facebook. I probably spend way too much time on there, if we’re going to tell the truth. I’ve seen more cat memes than I care to think about, but I’m seeing something different right now. If you look past the bashing, and the and the fighting about politics, you’ll start to see something pretty amazing. I’m going to preface this by saying that I’m not choosing one side over another here. This applies to both sides. People have opinions, and people are sharing their opinions. People are arguing yes, but that’s what’s great. There are more people taking a stand, and more people arguing because they’re seeing other people do it. Taking a stand is a very hard thing, but seeing other people do it is giving other people the courage to take a stand as well. It’s kind of awesome actually.
I listen to people tell me all the time, they have no choice, they have no power, it’s not up to them. The list goes on and on. Well I’m here to cry bull! We have power…and it’s always up to us. What we say and what we do is up to us. How we react to what somebody else says and does, that’s up to us as well. And if we don’t like something, we definitely have the right to do something about it. We have the right to take a stand for what we believe or take a stand against what we don’t believe. So stop thinking you don’t have any control, or power. You have ALL the control and ALL the power, you just need to stand up and take it! If you’re unhappy with the way your life is going, take control and make the changes that will make you happy. Nobody else is going to do it for you. You need to do it for yourself. Don’t like your job, find a new one. Can’t find a new one, figure out what you can do to make your current job more tolerable – even if it’s just taking a second to be grateful that you have a job – that one little change, that one second of gratitude can be the catalyst for something more. It’s up to you. Take a stand, don’t give up the fight….the fight for YOU
Well my students had a field day with this one. First they got stuck on adversity. So after the vocabulary lesson, we went on to talk about the quote. Right away they assumed I was talking about politicians. While in my mind, his quote may be about a politician, I make it a point to NEVER discuss specific politicians with my students. Issues yes, but particular people – not so much. I want them to understand that this quote applies to all people
at any given time. Generally everybody is in a position of power at one time or another. I explained that as their teacher, I’m in a position of power. And I asked them how do I use my power. Am I too laid back and let them walk all over me, or am I a total dictator in the classroom. They thought for a while and said I was in the middle. I didn’t take any crap (they had a different word lol) but I wasn’t a total b*tch either. But they still weren’t getting it….they didn’t see that they have any power. So we brought it down a little. I had them think about their friend group. Somebody is always the alpha. They have power. Then I asked them how long would the friendship last if the alpha or person in power always demanded things go their way? It started to make sense. Power is something that shouldn’t ever be abused, and a true measure of a person is how they act when they have power. It all comes down to treating people how you want to be treated, power or no power. Another important lesson they figured out today was you may not always be in power, and if you want those who are in power to treat you well, you’d best treat them well when you’re the one with the power.
I’m not going to lie…the positive thoughts this week were chosen in response to the political sh*t storm that has exploded in the past couple o weeks. I’m NOT going to make a political stand here – I have a view, you have a view, and guess what, we’re all entitled to our views and have the right to air them. THAT’S what this post is about. We all have views, and we have different views. I may thing my views are right and you may think yours are right. This is NOT about who is right and who is wrong. This is to celebrate the fact that people are taking a stand about something. I think a lot of us have become complacent and when that happens, bad things can happen. Regardless of your views, it’s always good to take a stand. When we stop caring, we stop living, we just drift along. Complacency isn’t life, it’s a death sentence.
Every choice we make, everything we do effects our futures. It’s actually kind of a daunting thought. What if you failed English in 9th grade, or shoplifted a candy bar when you were 8? Will those mistakes impact your future in a negative way? Probably not. We all make mistakes. The important thing is that we learn from them and move on? Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. The important thing is what you do from that moment on, going forward. We all want to make good choices and get it right the first time, and in a perfect world, we all would. However this isn’t a perfect world, this is real life. So strive to do it right the first time, strive to make the good choices, but if and when you make a mistake, learn from it and move forward toward your future.
Setting goals is important, and working toward those goals is equally important. But so is living life. Don’t get so caught up in getting to that destination that you don’t enjoy the journey. It’s a a balancing act, to be sure, but one you’re quite capable of doing. Never lose sight of your goals and dreams, but make sure that achieving them does not become your only reason for living. Spend time with your friends, spend time with your family and above all, have fun. I think you’ll find that if you do, reaching your goals will actually be even easier. 🙂
I love this definition of success, and according to this definition, most of us should be able to claim success. I think most of us tend to like what we do and how we’re doing it. Otherwise, we wouldn’t continue to do it. The sticking point, I think, is going to be liking ourselves. I don’t think that most of us like ourselves deep down. Think about it, when you look in the mirror, what do you see? Do you notice your great smile, or your beautiful eyes, or do you notice your faults. They grey hair, or the crooked teeth. And think about when you get dressed in the morning. Are you celebrating the fact that you lost 10 pounds and are in a smaller size, or are you instead, looking at the 25 more pounds you need to lose? We tend to be our own worst enemies, and we fill our heads with negative self talk. It’s pretty destructive, and it’s standing in the way of our success. Start liking yourself, in fact, start LOVING yourself, because honestly, you’re pretty darn amazing. Liking yourself is the first and hardest step to success, which is a shame, it should be the easiest step, because as I said, you’re an amazing individual.