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How Strong Are You?

Anyone can run away; it’s super easy. Facing problems and working through them, that’s what makes you strong.

how strong are youHow strong are you?  I’m not talking physical strength.  I’m talking the emotional strength we need when things get tough.  Do you dig in and fight for all your worth, or do you run away?

I’m don’t totally agree with this quote.  Running away isn’t necessarily easy, but facing what’s hard takes a lot of emotional strength and fortitude. And when you face them and deal with them, you grow even stronger.

Think about some of the difficult times in your life. Times when  you said I just can’t handle this.  I can’t do it.  What happened.  I’m betting you handled it and you got done what needed to be done.

How strong are you?  I’m betting anything you’re far stronger than you’d ever think you are.  We are capable of amazing things, and we have the capacity to deal with a lot.  It’s not easy, and it’s not fun, but when life gets difficult, reach deep down inside of you and find those hidden inner reserves and know that you can do it.

Can I Control It?

Don’t worry about what you can’t control and you may liberate yourself.

I am a master worrier.  I used to be a champion master worrier, but I’m getting better at not worrying.  How?  By saying to myself, “Can I control it?”  There are two answers to that question.  Yes, and No.  If the answer is yes, I continue with my worrying until I find a solution.  If the answer is no, then I work very hard to let it go.

can i control it?Don’t get me wrong. After I say no, I usually follow it up with a but…and I try and figure out ways that I can control it.  Like today, I’m taking a class over the summer, and we have to use this particular software that came with our book.  Well not really a book, it’s a bunch of pages that we have to put in a binder, but that’s another story.  Well the software isn’t working.  Several people have commented on it in the discussion forum, and the professor has suggested we put in help desk tickets.  I have to no avail, and today when I TRIED to use the software for an assignment, it didn’t work. I exited out and noticed that my grade went from an A- to a C-.  Am I happy?  No.  Can I control it?  No.  I started really stressing over my grade, but the software working is out of my control.  It’s documented that it’s not working, so I’m not going to stress.

When life starts stressing you out and you’re worrying about this and that, stop and take a breath.  Ask yourself “Can I control it?” If the answer is no, then do your very best to let go of the worry.  There is no point at all in worrying over things that are out of your control.

It’s How You Think About It

It usually isn’t what you have or where you are or what you’re doing that makes you happy. It’s how you think about it all.

it's how you think about itA truer quote has never been made.  It’s how you think about it.  EVERYTHING.  Not just what you’re doing, or what you have, but everything.  It’s time to take a good look at what you do have and appreciate it.  Show gratitude.  Seriously, you may not be exactly where you want to be in life, but I bet if you look at the people around you, you’ll find that you’re situation is pretty good.  It’s all in how you think about it.

I try to go for a walk every day during my lunch.  For exercise, and just to get a break from all the school kid drama I’m surrounded by. Well today, it was raining.  It’s spring, it’s New England, rain happens.  I could have chosen to sulk about missing my walk, but I didn’t.  I’m happy it’s raining because we need it, and because it’s pushing all the pollen down.  So I popped open my umbrella and went for a walk.  Yeah my feet got wet, but I’m thinking it was a nice walk on a rainy day.

So stop thinking about what you don’t have, or how unhappy you are.  Start thinking about the good things.  Take a look around and take inventory.  Take a real, serious inventory and start looking for the good and the happy.  It’s all in how you think about it.

 

State of Gratitude

The more you are in a state of gratitude, the more you will attract things to be grateful for. – Unknown*

I talk a lot about gratitude.  I think it’s super important, and I think everyone should try to be in a state of gratitude.  But how do you do it.  The simple answer is by being grateful for what you have. That’s all well and good, but sometimes (most of the time) that is easier said than done.  I don’t want anybody to think that I have mastered all the things I talk about here at Think Positive 30.  Quite the contrary.  In fact, I actively suck at most of them, which is why I blog about them.  It’s to remind myself that these are things I need to incorporate into my life on a regular basis.

state of gratitudeI seriously struggle with being positive, and finding the good in things. As I’ve shared before, that’s how this website was born.  It was a move of sheer desperation to get myself out of a negative thinking funk.  I now start each day with a positive quote.  Do I stay positive all day?  No, but I at least start out the day thinking positive. I’m also pretty bad at being grateful for what I have.  I spend way too much time focusing on what I want to have, and what I don’t have.  I really need to be more grateful and to get into a state of grace.

One thing I’ve decided to try is to go back to a good old hand written journal.  It’s going to be a veritable dumping ground for everything that’s in my head.  But I’m also going to try and record things I’m grateful for.  They don’t have to be big things.  Little things count too.  Like I just scored 4 awesome tops from OldNavy.com.  They were cute, and more importantly, they were on sale – and I had a coupon for free delivery! I could focus on the fact that they’re not in the size I want to be, but instead, I’m wearing one of the shirts and I’m grateful because I got a deal and it’s a cute top.

As the quote says, the more you are grateful or in a state of gratitude, the more you’ll attract good things into your life.  And from there, you be more grateful and in a deeper state of gratitude, and you’ll attract more things.  Instead of that vicious circle we can get trapped in, it’s an awesome circle.

 

*Often attributed to Walt Disney, but research has shown he did not say it.

How Do You Change?

What is necessary to change a person is to change his awareness of himself. – Abraham Maslow

How do you change anything about yourself?  Well as the quote says, the first thing you have change is how you see yourself.  If you only change the how do you change?outside, but not the inside, it’s not going to work.

I’ve always been a fairly shy person. At times I would really try and push myself and be more outgoing, but it never really worked.  Well before I left for college (ancient history time) I made a decision to change.  I started seeing myself as more outgoing.  I visualized myself acting like the “popular” kids from high school.  I became aware of how I acted and how I wanted to act, and I made the change.  I’m still pretty shy, but I’m way better than I was.

You can’t make external changes until you make internal changes.  Those are the hardest ones to make.  When you watch all those makeover shows, they always suggest the people go through counseling to address the inner issues so the outer changes will stick.  It’s good advice.  How do you change?  With a lot of introspection and a lot of hard work, but it’s worth it.

 

That’s What Friends Do.

True friends are those who lift you up when your heart’s wings forget how to fly. – Anonymous

True friends are very special, and very rare.  I can count on one hand, the number of true friends I have.  I have lots of acquaintances, and I have lots of friends, sure, but true friends are a different breed. True friends are there for you, they’ll drop everything for you, and when you’re down, they lift that's what friends doyou up. That’s what friends do.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that my regular friends are bad people, or that I can’t count on them.  They’re great, and if I asked a favor of them, they’d gladly do it. But I wouldn’t ask them because they’re not my true friends.  It’s hard to put words to it, but your true friends are the ones that get you.  You don’t have to censure your thoughts (or your mouth) around them. You may not agree about everything, but in the end, that doesn’t matter.  You’re still there for one another, no matter what.  Why? Because that’s what friends do.

I’m also not a true friend to a lot of people.  Don’t get me wrong, I would do just about anything for anybody that I consider a friend, but I don’t have that connection that I have with some people.  With some people, you just click.  It’s as if you share a brain or something.  For them, I would lay down my life.  I would give them my last crust of bread, or my last dime, and I know that they would do the same.  Why? Because that’s what friends do.  I only hope that you have friends like that in your life.

Learn and Grow

A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions. – Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.

 

When I read this quote last night, I absolutely fell in love with it.  I love learning new things.  To me, my soul purpose in life is to learn and grow. It learn and growwas my primary reason for becoming a teacher.  What better reason to keep learning than to share knowledge?

I seriously thought everybody was like this.  Even when I was a kid in school, and there were kids who didn’t do work.  I just assumed that they were showing off, and secretly, they loved to learn.  Well I’m a grown up now, and sadly, I have learned that there are far too many people in this world who not only don’t want to learn, they are quite content to remain in their tiny little world and never expand their minds.

To me that is incredibly sad.  I prefer to grow and learn. To broaden my horizons and my mind.  That’s the cool thing about knowledge and experiences.  Once you have them, they are yours forever.  Nobody can take them away from you.  And every scrap of knowledge you acquire, every new experience you have, changes the person you are.  It’s one more step toward the person you can become.  Spend your life learning new things and trying new things.  Continue to learn and grow – continue to live!

Being Different

It is not our differences that divide us. It is our inability to recognize, accept, and celebrate those differences. – Audre Lorde

Being different is hard.  As a kid, it’s hard to be different than everybody else.  It leaves you open to bullying and loneliness. As an adult, sadly it’s not much different. If you’re not like everybody else, you can be ostracized. It’s incredibly sad, and incredibly wrong.  We should celebrate our differences Being Differentinstead of being like lemmings and following the crowd.

To me, the bravest person in the world is someone who is their own person, does their own thing, and doesn’t care what the rest of the world thinks of them.  I’m not that person. I want to be, but I’m not. I’m afraid of being different. But I’m also not someone who is critical of those who are different. I think the greatest gift we can give each other is the acceptance of people for who they are.

That gift starts with you, about you. Don’t make excuses for your differences. Celebrate them.  Be proud of what makes you different! I think if we all just accepted the differences in ourselves, it would be so much easier to accept them in other people.  And if we could accept the differences in others, think about how much happier and peaceful our world would be. Be who you are, celebrate who you are.  Accept who others are and celebrate them. Being different doesn’t have to be hard, it should be wonderful.

Sorry that this post was a day late – but yesterday was prom set up and last night was prom for our school, and I was a very tired camper by the time I got home!

Focus on What You Have

If you cry because the sun has gone out of your life, your tears will prevent you from seeing the stars. – Rabindranath Tagore

I was talking with someone the other day and they were telling all about how they want this, and they need that and they want to get the other.  All focus on what you havethose things would make their life so much better.  It seems to me they spent a lot of time focusing on what they didn’t have.  I think if you focus on what you have, you feel a lot better.

It’s easy, very easy to fall into the trap of focusing on what you don’t have.  I catch myself doing it all the time.  But it’s just as easy, in fact, if you’ll excuse the New Englander in me for just a moment, it’s wicked easy, to focus on what you do have.  But not just things. Focus on the good things in your life.  You may not have your dream job, but you have a job. That’s no small feat!  So instead of being unhappy and negative because you’re not CEO yet, be happy that you’re working in the mail room.  It’s a place to start, right?

I know a lot of people say pooh pooh to the law of attraction.  That’s fine.  You get to believe or not believe whatever you want.  But it just seems like common sense to me.  Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus on what you have.  Appreciate it and be grateful for it.  You’re just going to feel better in the end.

 

Find Your Bliss

When you follow your bliss, doors will open for you that wouldn’t have opened for anyone else. – Joseph Campbell

I love this quote so much, and it makes sense. If you’re doing what you love, you’ll have lots of opportunities. However, I’m having some trouble with it too.  Before you can follow your bliss, the first thing you have to do is find your bliss.  And that, is easier said than done.

I speak with some authority because as a teacher, I frequently talk about the future with my students, and as a parent of two recent college graduates, find your blissyou can bet that topic comes up a lot in my house.  How do you find your bliss?  And once you find your bliss, is it going to provide a living wage for you?  These are questions that I get asked a lot.  Okay my students (and my own kids) don’t often use the word bliss, but you know what I mean.

How do you find your bliss?  I think the best thing you can do is try things.  Try new things all the time.  Take a class, read a book, talk to people, volunteer, do whatever you can to expose yourself to as many new things as possible…something will strike a chord.  One of my own kids was really struggling, trying to figure out what to do with their life.  They’d done well in school, but had no idea what to study and settled on history because it has always been an enjoyable subject.

Flash forward to graduation, there is my child, with a degree in history and still no idea which path to follow.  I encouraged said child to come work at my school as a paraprofessional.  I know they didn’t ever want to be a teacher, but it was a way to buy some time (and pay the student loan bills.)  Well a chance conversation with a staff member and my child was all it took.  There was an AHA moment and my child is now enrolled in a graduate program and following their bliss.

When you find your bliss and follow your bliss, it’s true, doors will open for you.  Those doors may not be monetary in nature, but they will lead the way to great happiness.  I can’t think of anything better!

 

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