My Journey To Become a More Positive Person
A Secret Scrolls message from Rhonda Byrne
Creator of The Secret and The Power
From The Secret Daily Teachings
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
To improve any day immediately, say and feel “Thank you” seven times in a row.
May the joy be with you,
Rhonda Byrne
The Secret… bringing joy to billions
by Chris Cade
As you know, I have a passion for rapid personal growth. Since most of us transform our lives relatively slowly (if at all), there’s a real benefit to knowing how to make transformations quickly. Since we have a limited time on Earth then it serves us to know how to optimize our lives.
This doesn’t mean that it’s in our best interests to always be pushing ourselves to be faster, better, and more. That’s not what I’m suggesting. What I am suggesting is that if life is our schoolroom, how can we make the most effective use of that experience? How can we allow life to serve us as fully as possible?
One way is to “force the issue.”
Or to phrase it differently: We can enter into situations in which a learning experience with growth is the inevitable, eventual, and guaranteed outcome of a particular experience.
We could go into those situations both willingly and unwillingly. For example, we experience this during times of extreme duress when our preferred outer-world options are limited or even eliminated. It could come in the form of being fired from work, the death of a loved one or a relationship that ends, an unexpectedly severe and debilitating illness, or any other number of unwanted yet extreme situations.
These “force” us to choose either a path of growth or a path of destruction. We’ll learn from both directions. That’s inevitable. It’s eventual. And growth is a guaranteed outcome. It may not be growth as we think of it in a “positive” sense. Destruction might cause us to go into a place so dark that whatever we learn is pushed down into our subconscious. Still, learning happens through every experience. The more extreme the experience, the more severe it is, the greater the growth.
Ideally as we live a more conscious life, the path of destruction fades away and growth comes to the forefront. Rather than curl up into a ball and wait for the metaphorical pounding to stop, we can stand up and step forward. This is not easy. It takes a lot of courage, willpower, and strength. It takes dedication to your growth. And it is incredibly rewarding.
On the other hand, what if you don’t have to wait for life to hand you those situations? What if you could create them yourselves?
You can. One way is to limit your options. This is a way to “force the issue” in your daily life. Here’s a few examples…
Eating healthier: Throw away all your unhealthy food. Buy healthy food.
Breaking an addiction: Get rid of what you’re addicted to. Lock it up. Hide it. Do anything you can to make it incredibly difficult to access.
Starting a new business: Quit your job.
Getting some rest and relaxation: Tell your employer (and anybody else necessary) you’re taking a day or few off. Continue reading “Forcing the Issue – Chris Cade” »
from sparkpeople.com
OK, be honest. Do you hold grudges? Do you allow old drama to determine your behavior? Is there someone you just can’t seem to forgive? Grudges and a non-forgiving attitude do nothing but harm both parties. You might feel like you’re “winning” by not letting someone off the hook, but you’re only increasing your own worry and stress. Bitterness can lead to hate, which can sour a life. Today, write a letter explaining your point of view to the person you feel resentful towards. Clear the air; forgiving him. Even if you don’t send it, it is an excellent way to relieve tension. Forgiving someone does not absolve them of the wrong that you experienced. It can simply free you to live a life that isn’t anchored to the hurt and resentment of past events.
from sparkpeople.com
OK, be honest. Do you hold grudges? Do you allow old drama to determine your behavior? Is there someone you just can’t seem to forgive? Grudges and a non-forgiving attitude do nothing but harm both parties. You might feel like you’re “winning” by not letting someone off the hook, but you’re only increasing your own worry and stress. Bitterness can lead to hate, which can sour a life. Today, write a letter explaining your point of view to the person you feel resentful towards. Clear the air; forgiving him. Even if you don’t send it, it is an excellent way to relieve tension. Forgiving someone does not absolve them of the wrong that you experienced. It can simply free you to live a life that isn’t anchored to the hurt and resentment of past events.
Every once in a while, the Universe does something awesome – right now, right this second was one of those awesome things. This morning I posted a blog post about the importance of being a friend to yourself and loving yourself. Just a few minutes ago in an email, I received this from Chris Cade. Talk about synchronicity!
A couple of days ago was Valentine’s Day. All across the world, people experienced a variety of emotions. Though there’s three primary ones I’ve noticed seem to be most common:
(1) A deep affection and love (usually towards others)
It seems that by giving ourselves a “reason” to love, it activates that part of ourselves that finds reasons to experience, express, and share our love.
This is not unlike a sentimental photo that reminds us of a past moment we cherished. “Valentine’s Day” can act as a symbol to look inward and live more fully outward.
(2) Indifference
For me, most Valentine’s Days pass with irrelevance. Every day is an opportunity to experience, express, and share love. Rather than having to “find” a reason, I focus on removing the inner blocks so I naturally experience those reasons more frequently. with each passing day.
(3) Anger, depression, sadness, aloneness, etc.
For those of us who feel most separate from others, the love we see others express reminds us of the ways in which we don’t fully love ourselves. This pain of not loving ourselves can sometimes even feel like a physical “hole.” What
When I think of how to express and share more love in the world, what comes to mind first for me is this timeless spiritual principle:
“You cannot give what you don’t already have.”
Don’t have a dollar? Surely can’t give one. Same with love. If you don’t feel it for yourself, it’s impossible to authentically express and share love with others.
That’s why LOVING YOURSELF is so important. Once you fully love yourself, only then can you step into the world as a more full expression of love.
And no matter how much you may love yourself, there’s always more ways you can explore that more fully.
Today I have a present for you. It’s a PDF mini-program called “Loving Yourself” and you can download it directly from my website here:
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In it, you’re guaranteed to find either a few new things to try, or reminders to live what you already know to be true. Check it out… 
Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life
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A Secret Scrolls message from Rhonda Byrne
Creator of The Secret and The Power
From The Secret Daily Teachings
There is no excuse not to give two minutes today to intend your tomorrow.
May the joy be with you,
Rhonda Byrne
The Secret… bringing joy to billions
from sparkpeople.com
Of course try, try again, but when you don’t succeed at something it’s best not to beat yourself up or hold yourself to an unrealistic standard of achievement. Feeling as if you’re a failure, simply for not reaching a goal, is not who you truly are. Do you think you’re the only one who fails? Of course not! Most problems involve steps to their solution, and solving each step along the way IS an accomplishment. If you become discouraged during your weight loss journey or find your financial aspirations out of reach, keep trying! Some of life’s most rewarding experiences make you sweat and persevere through hard times, only to emerge on the other side victorious and wiser for having worked so hard.
from sparkpeople.com
Many people feel uncomfortable being assertive, which often leads others to take advantage of them. Do you ever feel like you shouldn’t say something because you might hurt someone’s feelings? Does your spouse shirk their responsibilities around the house and expect you to pick up the slack? While it is important to serve others often, being someone’s lackey is unhealthy and it’s up to you to break that cycle. Kindly address situations where you think someone is taking advantage of your meekness. Being aggressive is a negative quality that people respond to with hostility. Making your voice heard maturely and positively is a trait that will take you far and build respect among your peers
from sparkpeople.com
We all have a handful of acquaintances–those people with whom we work or see at the store and casually say hello to and move on. But a friend is someone you confide in, bring over for an afternoon cup of coffee, invite to your wedding, or cry with when a loved one passes away. You just feel a sense of safety with a friend. Don’t wait until a rainy day to express how much a good friend means to you. Often we are unaware of how much we mean to others until they speak up, and likewise we never know how much another person might truly need to hear such affirmations. An approving, cheerful word of encouragement can thrill a heart. Be sure to always say kind words before you part, show sympathy during hard times and affection during wonderful ones. Life would not be the same without positive friendships. Express your gratitude to someone today who has made a difference in your world!
