My Journey To Become a More Positive Person
Today’s affirmations are in the areas of – “Love”
– Love:
* I see love all around me.
* I deserve love and I accept it now.
* As my self-love grows I have more love to share with others.
* I feel love of everyone I meet.
* Love brightens my days.
* The love I give out returns to me multiplied.
* I love and accept myself just the way I am.
* Love flows to me freely.
* I am a radiant being filled with light and love.
A while back I shared with you my thoughts about “The LIE About Positive Thinking.” Today, I’d like to expand on that topic in a different way. Specifically, the question is: Is it okay to have our thoughts?
On the surface, it seems obvious. Of course it’s fine to have our thoughts!
But what if they’re judgmental? Or so anti-Law Of Attraction that they’re negative or hurtful? Shameful? Is it okay to have those thoughts too?
I recall years ago that whenever I wanted to feel a specific kind of emotion, I’d change my music to something that mirrored what I wanted. If I wanted to feel energized, I put on Dream Theater, Van Halen, Metallica, or Robert Miles. If I wanted to feel mellow, I put on some Diana Krall, Enigma, or Enya. For whatever mood I wanted, I put in the music that would take me there.
It wasn’t until I ventured further down my spiritual path that I realized how detrimental that was to myself. I thought I was doing myself a favor by “picking myself up” naturally. Sort of like when you have a bad day, and a friend comes over and says, “Hey, let’s go shopping and get some dessert. Forget that loser ex of yours for a while.”
On the surface, that seems empowering and compassionate. The intention is well. However, all those examples have one thing in common:
Rejection.
Each one of them is rejecting the moment. It’s rejecting the person’s experience. It’s rejecting the possibility that being right where you are is exactly where you’re supposed to be. It is fundamentally saying to yourself, “Stop feeling the way you know you shouldn’t.” And as I teach in Liberate Your Life, every time you use the word “should” you’re identifying with Your Inner Critic, limiting your growth and minimizing your happiness.
So then what’s the alternative?
Honoring the moment.
Instead of telling yourself how to feel or trying to change how you feel, just accept it. With regards to my music, I found a real deep peace and a kind of magical mystery when I switched my mindset. Instead of finding music to cover up what I felt, to ignore my emotions, to try and transcend them, or try to evade them…
I found myself putting in music that honored exactly who I was in that very moment.
The result was profound. Instead of having an underlying agitated state of rejection and frustration, I was listening to the perfect music for that moment. Because the music was aligned with my inner state, there was a resonance which created a sense of peace.
It seems counter intuitive.
After all, sometimes I’d feel a deep sadness. Maybe an anger. Maybe shame. Delight and joy. Excitement. It could be anything. And yet when I put in music that completely honored the emotion I was experiencing, I also felt peace.
The other emotions didn’t disappear. I didn’t stop feeling sad or angry. What changed was that instead of rejecting my sadness or anger, I was at peace with it…
And that made all the difference.
Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life
P.S. The amazing thing about accepting our negative thoughts and emotions is that when you do it, when you truly accept them, they naturally transform into a form of empowerment.
By Kristen Howe
“What do you want?” can be a daunting question. We all ask it, of ourselves and others.? I noticed so much resistance to it, that I tried something a little different with a few of my coaching clients.
Here’s what I did – I sent out an email to a bunch of my clients and in the email I asked them 2 questions.? The first question was “What do you want?” and the second question was “What do you desire?” Now, here is the crazy and cool thing that happened…
The answers to “What do you want” were all based in 1 of 2 things: 1. Not knowing
2. Lack
In other words, quite a few people said they don’t know what they want and all of the other answers had a feeling of lack to them – like, “I want to be out of debt.” Or “I want to lose 20 pounds.” Or “I want to fix my marriage.” – You get the idea…
On the other hand, the answer to “What do you desire” had a completely different energy to them. The best way to describe the difference is that these answers were based in positivity.? Answers like, “I desire growth in my business that it is fulfilling, profitable and helps hundreds of thousands of people.” Or, “I desire to have ultimate health.” Or “I desire love to fill and fuel all of my relationships.”
So, what’s the point to all of this?
The point is that the word ‘Want’ seems to be rooted in negativity, low confidence, and lack. While the word ‘Desire’ seems to be rooted in positivity, love and faith.
I know it is just a difference of one word, but if that one word is making all of the difference, don’t you want to make an adjustment?? Remember, emotions always win, so if you emotionally connect a feeling of lack to the word ‘Want’ – then it’s time for an adjustment. And, once you make this adjustment, both ‘Want’ and ‘Desire’ can become positively charged words for you that fuel you.
You can make this adjustment and begin to shift with 3 steps -
STEP 1: Discover what you really want – as I just said, emotions always win, so what is it you REALLY want? The best way to get to the bottom of this question is to realize that you want to identify the EMOTION you want instead of the THINGS.
For example: Let’s say you have always wanted to own your own home. What is the emotion(s) you believe will come with owning your own home?
Let’s say that you realize that the emotions that you feel will accompany owning your own home are, a sense of security, confidence and a feeling of success.
Then – a sense of security, confidence and a feeling of success are what you REALLY want.
The great news about identifying the emotions you want is that you open yourself up to infinite possibilities to feel those emotions (instead of just the one possibility of owning your own home.) AND, once you do this, you detach the negative, lack filled, connection to the word ‘Want’.
Trust me, when you do just this one step, the chances of you finally having the THING you have wanted for so long, increases substantially.
STEP 2: Find out WHY – ask yourself WHY these emotions are what you really want? Is your answer based in fear, doubt, lack or any negativity of any kind? If so, no worries, you can discover the positively charged emotion by just flipping it around.
For example: Let’s continue to use the earlier example of owning your own house – where you identified that the true emotions you want are a sense of security, confidence and a feeling of success. Now, when it comes time to ask WHY those emotions are what you want, if your answer is positive, GREAT (go ahead and move onto step 3) but if it is negative, such as, “I want to feel a sense of security so I don’t have to rely on anyone else anymore.” Then you want to flip it around like so “I want to feel a sense of security and know that all of my needs are easily met.”
Pay attention and make sure you feel completely positive with all of your reasons WHY before you move on to step 3.
Living in the NOW gives you access to infinite creation
and is the key to attracting
what you DESIRE
STEP 3: Transform the Want to a Desire! As I said, often ‘Want’ is negative and fueled by a feeling of scarcity – while ‘Desire’ is positive and full of possibility. This step may seem like a simple rephrasing, but believe me, it works! I want you to take what you discovered from BOTH step 1 and step 2 and swap out the word ‘Want’ with the word ‘Desire’.
For example: ‘I WANT a sense of security, confidence and a feeling of success.’ becomes ‘I DESIRE a sense of security, confidence and a feeling of success.’
And – ‘I WANT to feel a sense of security and know that all of my needs are easily met.’ Becomes ‘I DESIRE to feel a sense of security and know that all of my needs are easily met.’
Use these 3 simple steps to transform your ‘Wants’ into ‘Desires’ and you will be amazed at the changes that start to happen in your life!
I have a new interest issue addiction – it’s called Temple Run. I had no idea what this game was until one day, I was riding in the car with my daughter and these very strange noises started coming from her tablet. At first, thought it was the car, but then she proceeded to explain the game Temple Run to me. I tried it when I got home, and the rest is, as they say, history. But I’m not here to talk about my little video game interest issue addiction. What I want to talk about is how I am using this game and applying it to the Law of Attraction.
In Temple Run, there is a magnet bonus you can get and when you do, your character gets a glowy aura about it, and will automatically begin attracting coins. Since attracting a lot of coins is one of the key aspects of the game, getting the magnet bonus is a good thing.
One morning, driving to work, I was running over my affirmations in my head and one phrase jumped out at me. I am a magnet for luck, a magnet for love and a magnet for money and I attract all of these things to me. A magnet. A MAGNET – just like the magnet in Temple Run.
I am a magnet for luck, a magnet for love and a magnet for money and I attract all of these things to me.
Now I will be the first to admit that it doesn’t take much to get me excited, or make me happy (you should have seen me the day my ezpass transponder came in the mail) but when I made this connection, I was over the moon. It gave me a visual to apply to my affirmations.
I say these affirmations religiously, and I focus on them, but now, I am actually envisioning myself grabbing the magnet from Temple Run. I see myself glowing like my little Temple Run character, and I visualize all these things coming to me and sticking to me with no effort, just they way the coins in Temple Run do.
I’ll be honest here. Those images, those visuals make me happy, and they make me laugh every single time. This in turn boosts my mood and guess what – because I’m happier, I’m sending out happier vibrations to the world, so guess what I’m getting back? Yep, you got it – lots and lots of happiness.
All this because of a video game. Who’d have thought?
A Secret Scrolls message from Rhonda Byrne
Creator of The Secret
From The Secret Daily Teachings
Write down all the great things about everyone you know. Make a huge list of all the wonderful things about you. Compliment people wherever you go. Praise every single thing you see. Be a ray of sunshine to everyone you meet, and make their day better for having seen you. Say “Thank you” at every turn. Walk, talk, think, and breathe appreciation and gratitude.
When you do this, your outer life will change to reflect your inner state of being.
May the joy be with you,
Rhonda Byrne
The Secret… bringing joy to billions
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by Chris Cade
Recently I shared with you a bit about happiness, and my friend Arina’s explorations into the topic. While it’s important to find ways to cultivate happiness, there’s also a silent (or sometimes not-so-silent) killer of happiness: our pain.
Many people hold onto their pain like a kind of “badge of honor.” In fact, most of us have some aspect of our history, something painful or difficult, that we have a silent sense of pride about… as though when we tell the story, we know people will empathize with us. We’ll be seen. We’ll be comforted.
In fact, we might even mistake the support we receive for a distorted illusion of happiness.
Since that kind of connection between people feels supportive, we hold onto the story of our pain. We can tell the story again sometime (even if it’s just to ourselves). The interesting thing about “holding onto our pain” is that it actually takes us away from happiness, authentic communication, and it prevents us from living our lives fully.
When we “hold onto” our pain, when we bring our past difficult stories with us, what we’re really saying is: “I don’t want to be here, right now, as things are. I also don’t want to know what potential my future holds. I’m more interested in being with the more familiar experience of my painful and uncomfortable feelings.”
Nobody wants to admit that to themselves.
Yet it happens -every- time we continue to dwell in pain over something that is not occurring in the present moment. This can be as simple as telling your friend later in the day about that “jerk” who cut you off in traffic, that co-worker who talked bad about you behind your back, or your partner or friend who was so involved in his/her own story that you never got a chance to actually connect.
It happens in big and small ways. It happens to me every day. Not because I want the pain. Not because I want to avoid the present moment or the future. It happens because that’s a habit of the Inner Critic and my subconscious mind.
(and yours too)
If I were to oversimplify, I would say that when we “hold onto” our pain, what we’re really doing is giving up on life. After all, if we truly felt otherwise, we’d live in the moment and not in the past where our stories of pain reside.
Byron Katie nailed it when she named her book, “Who would you be without your story?” Really. Candidly speaking, while I have a few clues as to who I’d be, I don’t truly know. Not from a 24-7 experiential perspective.
And if you’re reading my messages, this is also true of you to some degree… 
Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life
P.S. To be clear, I’m not suggesting that acknowledging or experiencing your pain is bad. In fact, it’s absolutely necessary to living a happy and fulfilled life.
Thus the question for you to explore is: How can you live so that the inevitable pain of being human doesn’t become a story (or badge of honor) that drags you back into the past?
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By Elaine Lockard
Okay, I hear your first thought – What?
Take a moment and think about it. The over arching want and need of every human being, the general conclusion to all our journeys, is to be happy, fulfilled, and contented.
Happiness is more than a pleasant moment or an agreeable sensation. It is a way of Being and of relating to the circumstances and events of your life. It transcends your momentary and your life-long conditions.
Happiness is a choice and a discipline which defines the manner in which you experience your world. Authentic and enduring happiness is contingent on what’s inside you rather than on outside situations. It is a byproduct of cultivating your inner peace and strength.
Practicing the Art of Happiness sets you free–not from experiencing negative emotions–but from being enslaved by them.
But how do you reach this place of Happiness when you “don’t know” what you want and how to make it happen?
Well, you start sorting this out by first learning or relearning what makes you Happy and places you in a state of “Being Happy”. This life altering exercise allows you to discover all the answers to the above. It is your gauge, your “Internal Happiness Gauge”, to help you weigh each experience and sort through to find your answers.
Here is a way to put this to work for you.
First, set up your “Internal Happiness Gauge”. Create a scale from 1-10 with 1 being the lowest Happiness you received from an item or occurrence to 10 which would represent Ecstasy, Supreme Happiness and Joy. Decide what each increment of the scale will represent for you in your definition of Happiness. Then, it’s suggested you start and make a daily entry into a “Happiness Journal” and rate it according to your “gauge”.
In addition, you will want to make a place in your journal each day to write down what you are grateful for. In essence, your journal will be a “Happiness and Gratitude Journal” all-in-one, since they compliment and support one another and are beneficial in your discovery process.
Now, I know you hear a lot about journaling but this process can take a while and you need a tool to help you remember how you felt about a particular thing or circumstance. It also allows you to go deep inside to sort out and record the many possible levels of insight this will bring. So I strongly encourage you not to skip these steps.
After doing this preliminary set up, start your process by writing down and “gauging” the things you already know make you Happy and that you are grateful for. In addition, start taking 5 to 10 minutes, at minimum, each day to do something that is “outside your box”, so to speak, to find out if it makes you Happy and where it falls on your “Gauge”. Get very creative here and don’t be afraid to try new things. These will help you to arrive at your answers faster when added to the things you’ve not done in a while or forgotten.
Some examples might be:
-a walk in a creek while barefoot
-skipping rope
-singing a song you just created on the spot at the top of your lungs
-coloring in a coloring book with crayons
-walking backwards
-calling an old friend
-trying something new like a sport or a new way to drive home
This list could go on and on and as I said, let yourself get really creative here. Then record what you did and how it felt by your “Gauge” and record any other thoughts or feelings which come up around this for you. If something particularly seems to hit a button or a right spot for you, dig a bit deeper and explore what underlies what you are feeling and experiencing. You can see here how important the journal is to help you remember and sort through all of what you are experiencing.
This will begin your process of knowing what makes you Happy and you build from there.
As you start seeing areas or thoughts that reoccur for you, you will begin to differentiate what makes you Happy and what does not. It allows you to begin to see answers to what you want and how you want to do it. It allows you to begin to make conscious choices and decisions based on what makes you Happy so to operate from a state of “Being Happy” to find out how to “Be” continuously Happy.
Remember, Happiness is a choice and a discipline. By practicing the art of “Being Happy”, it sets you free from being controlled or ruled by fear or other negative emotions and helps you in your growth of inner peace and strength.
As I said before, this can be lengthy process, all meaningful personal growth and development work has that possibility. However, you can be helped and supported along the way to facilitate a faster breakthrough. This is where I can be of service. If you feel you are not moving fast enough, are coming up with more questions than answers, are encountering a fear, are unfocused, are finding excuses not to do this process or are feeling blocked, we can discuss possibilities and options of how I can be of service to you during this life altering, very important process. You may contact me by replying to this email, by calling my office at 757-877-1440, by submitting a contact form on my website or by clicking the link in the sidebar to book a time to talk.
Learn to change “I don’t know” to “I do know” and Be Happy by Being Happy!
To Your Bright, Shining Outcomes!! Elaine
Today’s affirmations are in the areas of – “Self Esteem”
Self Esteem:
* I am a special, loving and unique person.
* I am happy just being me.
* Through love I can forgive myself.
* I make a difference to the world.
* I deserve to be happy and successful.
* I now choose to be happy.
* I love doing things that make me happy.
* I deserve the best and I am open to receiving it.
* I have the power to make positive changes in my life.
* Through love I can forgive others.
* I now choose to be successful.
* I treat myself as a divine and loving person.
by Chris Cade
Just saying the word “God” sends some people into a rage and others into profound peace. It causes wars and creates divine unions. People blame God for the bad in their lives while praising God for the gifts.
I find it amazing how one word can have such different meanings to so many people. There are as many meanings for the word “God” as there are people on the planet.
To some, God is personified – an all-knowing sentient being who consciously and intentionally creates situations (whether it’s pleasure or suffering, peace or war, cancer or miracle healings).
To others, God is an omnipresent field of organizing energy which has no conscious awareness, yet all consciousness arises from.
And others don’t even acknowledge the concept of “God” in any form.
Regardless of what you may believe about God…
Regardless of what you may have discovered to be personally true about God…
I think it’s important to really acknowledge that God means different things to different people. The thing is, what I’m writing isn’t really about God.
It’s about you and every experience you’ve ever had, are having, and will have. Because each and every one of them, every thought, every emotion, every story you’ve ever told yourself…
Means something different to you than it does to anybody else.
And if we can get so riled up about a three-letter word such as “God,” consider how much more we get riled up each and every day with entire sentences!
Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life
P.P.S. Only by acknowledging how you fundamentally view the world differently from others can you develop the awareness to have compassion for those who are different from you.
P.P.S. And by “those who are different from you,” I mean everybody you ever come into contact with.
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One of my Liberate Your Life program participants emailed me this week and asked that very question. It’s an interesting one, and I thought I’d share with you how I answer it within the body of my work. Although other peoples’ work may define these things differently, this is what works for me and for the people I work with.
Think of the Ego as your identity.
It’s who you take yourself to be. Maybe that’s a man or woman, mother or father, daughter or son. Maybe it’s an employee, a manager, a friend, and so on and so forth. You could sum up “Ego” as the who and what of your thoughts about yourself.
Think of the “Inner Critic” as the judgmental critical voice that has opinions *about* your Ego.
For example, the Inner Critic might look at the list I just wrote and expand it like this: “Insensitive man, ugly woman, unavailable mother, inconsistent father, distant daughter, burdensome son, incompetent employee, overbearing manager, callous friend” and so on and so forth. You could sum up “Inner Critic” as your opinions about yourself.
I’m aware that some people teach the ego to be “bad” or something to “rid” ourselves of. Unfortunately, that perspective *IS* the Inner Critic trying to judge how a person should go about their own path of inner growth.
(that’s just a more cunning version of the Inner Critic)
Rather than think of the Ego as something to get rid of, I prefer to think of it as something to understand. It’s not inherently bad to be a parent. However, it is important to understand what it means to be a parent, how that awareness affects your life, and how you can live both as a parent in the worldn… -without- all the judgments of the Inner Critic about what kind of parent it thinks you are.
Similarly, while I sometimes joke about “obliterating” the Inner Critic, that perspective only has very limited use (for the purposes of channeling certain types of aggressive energy more effectively).
As I teach in Liberate Your Life, it came to be in your life for very important, survival-based reasons. Rather than try to “get rid” of the Inner Critic, again I find it most useful to try and understand it. Explore it.
In my experience, trying to get rid of certain thoughts within my head is only a temporary remedy. The thoughts always come back. The only approach that has ever given me truly lasting freedom from the harsh judgments of my Inner Critic is awareness and understanding.
I hope those examples help clarify, at least within my evolving and developing body of work, where the differences lie between the Ego and the Inner Critic.
Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life
