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Being Positive in 2020

If there was ever a year that was the antithesis of thinking positive, it would be 2020.  Dealing with covid-19 is hard.  People are dying from this, and that’s tragic.  You would think during this horrible time, we’d all come together and support one another, but that isn’t happening, and for me, that is why this year is all about negativity.

I spend a lot of time on Facebook, probably too much time if we’re being totally honest, and what I see posted there breaks my heart.  Here in the states, I’ve seen an election tear a country apart.  Prior to that, I saw a president that did not reflect any of the values I believe in.  I’ve seen people belittle one another over their political choices.  I’ve seen friendships end, and I’ve even seen families torn apart.

I’ve seen people belittle one another over the wearing of masks, and amazingly, I’ve seen people complain that some groups of people are working from home.  On a personal front, I’ve seen parents saying the most horrible things about teachers, blaming the fact that schools are closed on teachers.  News flash…teachers don’t have that power.

I feel bruised and battered and beaten down on a daily basis, and I know I’m not alone.  So many of us are feeling this way.  People losing jobs left and right and there isn’t enough money to survive, let alone celebrate the upcoming holiday.

It is this time, more than any other we need to dig down and find that scrap of positivity and focus on it.  Think positive thoughts, spread some joy.  When you encounter a hateful post, or worse, a hateful person, walk away.  Don’t bring negativity like that into your life.  Do what you have to do to pull yourself out of the pool of negativity that has been 2020.  You can make a difference and spread some positivity in this world  – everyone can.

Smile more, lend a helping hand when you can, and remember this has been a horrible year for pretty much everyone, but if we pull together, we can make it a little bit better.

Just in Case

I came across this image today, and I promptly shared it everywhere.  I think we should all read it to yourselves or say it to ourselves every morning.

In case you forgot to remind yourself this morning…your butt is perfect. Your smile lights up the room. Your mind is insanely cool. You are way more than enough, and you are doing an amazing job at life.

I know I’ve blogged about this before, but we are our own worst enemy.  Seriously!  I don’t know about you, but I wouldn’t talk to my worst enemy the way I talk to myself.  My internal monologues are filled with disgust about myself, my life, my eating habits, my laziness, basically, my everything.  Let’s just take eating habits for a second.  Yeah, my eating habits are not the greatest, but neither are the eating habits of a lot of other people.  There will be times when we’ll be pigging out on junk food and someone will comment on how bad they are eating or how much weight they need to lose.   To them I will say supportive things. “It’s okay to take a break from eating healthy,” or “Splurge today and get right back on the healthy eating wagon tomorrow.”  I will always try to be supportive and positive but when it comes to me, I’m ripping myself apart for what I may have eaten.

I constantly talk down to myself.  In my mind, I am fat, ugly, lazy and stupid, and everything I do is wrong.  I don’t think I’m alone in this hateful self-talk.  I don’t understand why we do this to ourselves.  I don’t know what happened to me to make me be so dissatisfied with the person that I am, but I do know that it needs to change.  Am I a perfect person?  No, of course not.  Are there things I need to improve about myself?  Absolutely.  Are those things worthy of the self-loathing, and hate I heap upon myself?  No.  I do not deserve that kind of talk, and what’s amazing is if anybody else talked to me that way, I’d be inclined to punch them in the face.  At the very least, I’d tell them to shut up, walk away and probably cut them out of my life.  And yet I continue to take the abuse I heap upon myself, and I think I’m not alone.

So while I’m not a big resolution person, I think I am going to make one this year.  I’m going to start treating me, and talking to me they way I treat others and talk to others.  I’d like all of you to join me in this.  Make 2018 the year of loving yourself.  2018 is the year of loving me!

10 Wealth Affirmations to Attract Riches Into Your Life

This is not my article – I found it tonight and I want to share it with you…I’m posting a snippit of it and a link to the website…It’s amazing and powerful and I hope you’ll all read it.

Affirmations can have positive impact on your life. There are several types of positive affirmations and the most popular ones are wealth affirmations.

Wealth affirmations can improve our beliefs about money and the accumulation of wealth. They make us concentrate our attentions, thoughts and ideas toward attracting wealth and abundance into our lives.

You can read the rest of the article here

What Follows YOUR I Am?

I just read an amazing article at YourTango.com – here is a brief snippit of it and a link to the complete article – it’s really good, I suggest you check it out, and more importantly – change your I Am statements.

by RJ Banks

It’s all about the law of attraction.

Do any of these statements sound familiar?

“I’m so broke.”

“I’m so tired.”

“I’m so stupid,”

And the list goes on…

Whether you know it or not, or like it or not, you’re reciting affirmations for your subconscious mind to program your beliefs about yourself and your life. Unfortunately, negative affirmations are just as effective in our lives as positive affirmations…….  Continue reading HERE

Walk the Walk and Talk the Talk

Start by doing what’s necessary, then what’s possible and suddenly you are doing the impossible.~ St. Francis of Assisi

I was going to blog about this quote, because honestly, it’s a great quote.  If you break the impossible down into smaller chunks and start with what you can do, you’ll find that the impossible becomes possible.

That’s what I WAS going to blog about, but instead I’m going to talk about life.  Life and how it seems so incredibly overwhelming and happy-sad-faceshow incredibly difficult it can be to remain positive when you’re faced with the everyday frustrations that seem to crop up with annoying regularity.

I’m going through such a period right now, and if I’m not going to talk the talk and walk the walk, how can I, in good conscience, expect others to do it?  I actually posted on my personal twitter acount that i was jumping off the positivity train and and climbing on the life sucks bus.  This is NOT the attitude of a positive person by any stretch of the imagination.  I’d like to say it was a momentary aberration, but the mood has persisted for a couple of days.

This is where the opportunity to make a choice comes in.  I can choose to keep dwelling on this negative mood that I’m in, allowing it to consume me, or I can acknowledge it and then keep looking for positive things to hopefully override it.

I’m going to be honest, I’m struggling, but I’m working at it.  The trick is, no matter what, don’t stop trying.  It’s not easy, but it can be done.  I know it!  I’m having a hard time believing it, but I am trying.

What are your tricks to get you out of the dumps?

The Lie About Positive Thinking – Chris Cade

by Chris Cade

You’ve heard it all before…

“Think more positively and you’ll get what you want. Visualize, affirm, and manifestation will happen effortlessly. Oh and be sure to overcome those pesky limiting beliefs! Affirmations, gratitude, and positive thinking will cover that one for you. Life is easy if you just think positively enough!”

I have one word to say about that kind of positive thinking…

LIE.

Delusional.

Misleading.

Uninformed.

Detrimental.

Okay, so by the time my subconscious was done ranting I discovered I had more than just one word. 🙂

That’s not to say positive thinking is bad. It’s fundamentally important to living a happy, fulfilled, engaged life. However, the lie and myth is that positive thinking is all that’s needed.

The reality is that we have difficult and painful emotions for a reason. They arise out of a self-protective compassionate need to SERVE our selves more effectively. Like physical pain, emotional pain is a compass that helps us see when things aren’t quite working right inside ourselves.

When we ignore physical pain or mask it over with overmedication, our body degenerates and ultimately finds more pain (not less). The same is true when we use Positive Thinking as a form of “overmedication” for our soul.

By not honoring and owning our emotional pain, then our soul… our heart… our spirit… call it what you will… ultimately will degenerate. Our psyche isn’t designed to repress and suppress pain indefinitely. That’s a big reason why some higly successful people have emotional breakdowns. They just kept overmedicating (or ignoring) until finally they couldn’t do it anymore.

The flip-side is equally as dangerous. When we completely identify with the negative painful thoughts, when we allow them to run our lives, to make us forget how magnificent we inherently are, then we also breakdown. We aren’t designed that way either.

Instead, I suggest accepting and acknowledging painful emotions as a compass – like a thermometer – to help you more effectively focus your attention and energy. Notice the “warning signs” that negative thinking presents to you. It’s not like I never have negative thoughts. I have them every day!

The thing is, I don’t take them so seriously. I strive to see them for what they are: helpful information that can point me TOWARDS living a happier and more positive life. They show me where more attention and self-care is needed in my life.

By using negative thoughts and painful emotions in that way, then the positive thinking is no longer a crutch – it’s no longer an addictive medicine that silently degenerates us until it’s too late.

Instead, positive thinking becomes a support to help you through the negative thoughts and ultimately take your happiness to the next level.

Chris Cade

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What is Helplessness – Chris Cade

Chris Cade

Nobody likes to feel helpless. It is probably most frequently avoided human emotion. People push themselves beyond their limits as well as fall into deep depression just to avoid feeling helpless.

The thing about it is this…

Helplessness, like all other difficult emotions, is a gateway to deeper wisdom and greater inner freedom.

Sure it may not seem like that. After all, we try to avoid it! But it’s only when we stop avoiding our feelings of helplessness that we can discover those inner gifts contained within.

Here’s how I define (REFRAME) helplessness:

“Helplessness is a sign that your Inner Critic believes you ‘should’ do more than the Universe needs you to do in a particular situation.”

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

P.S. I thought about explaining the idea above, but I decided not to. Instead, I figure it’s best to let you explore it for yourself… even if part of that exploration includes the possibility that you might feel
helpless.

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One Step Backward. Two Steps Forward – Chris Cade

by Chris Cade

There actually are great spiritual secrets. They exist.

The thing about spiritual secrets is that you can tell them openly.

Because the ability to understand something and then the power to integrate into your life are two very different things.”

– Guy Finley

As people on the path of conscious living, we almost always have a gap between what we know and how we live. That’s not a bad thing. It’s just that living 100% of what we believe to be true is difficult because there’s so many subconscious barriers to doing it.

We might live 75% of what we know on one day. Then life challenges shift us closer to 50%. Then we do some inner work, and it bounces up to 80%. And this process continues. This kind of “two steps forward one step back” is fundamental on the path of conscious living.

On one hand, we can punish ourselves emotionally for not doing what we “know” is right. That’s the Inner Critic taking its hold on us. Telling us we “know better” and “should do better.”

On the other hand, we can accept our humanity and recognize that each step “back” is an opportunity to learn. Learn what?

How to take those two steps forward! 🙂

This is the process of growth. It’s the choice we make when we no longer choose to allow other people and life circumstances decide everything for us. As you know, it’s not an easy path.

No more evident has this been to me than in the last couple of months. It’s not like my “Dark Night of the Soul” has suddenly disappeared. These times have been immensely difficult for me. Each day seems to be that struggle between steps forward and backward. Sometimes my Inner Critic counts the steps:

“Oh, Chris. You took THREE steps backward today and only one step forward. You could have done more. You should have done more.”

Yeah, that Inner Critic can be cunning (to put it “mildly”) at times. Fortunately, I don’t take it as seriously as I used to.

Sure it says things I may not appreciate. By not giving its words the weight and power that -it- wants to have, I don’t have to experience the pain that the Inner Critic tries to inflict.

I look beneath the words to see the scared little voice trying to control, limit, and diminish my life. I realize I don’t have to listen to it if I don’t want to.

And neither do you…

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

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Choosing to Change – Chris Cade

Last week, I had a dream in which I was driving on a road near the ocean. There was a person who wouldn’t let me pass, and I clearly understood that there was a conspiracy of sorts.

After handing this person a little bit of pocket change (kind of like this week’s “Inspirational Video of the Week”), I was allowed to pass.

Then I woke up in the room that I grew up in as a child. It was the middle of the night, and I put some change down on the nightstand next to me. That’s when I realized I was still dreaming, and the conspiracy dream that I previously had was a “dream within a dream.”

I fell back to sleep ~ that is to say ~ I fell asleep back into a “dream within a dream.” This time I was in a supermarket. The shelf next to me had some empty space, and I put some pocket change down there as well.

As I walked down the aisle, I asked myself a question inside my head:

“What don’t I know about this world?”

Immediately, the entire world shook violently. Bigger than the biggest earthquakes in history.

I woke up into full waking consciousness in a physical fight-or-flight panic. Adrenaline was pumping. It physically felt like the worst nightmare ever.

Metaphorically and symbolically though, I knew the dream was prophetic. It was important. It was about CHANGE.

The last weeks of my life have been some of the most painful I’ve ever gone through. Three very close important relationships to me are being severed in ways that challenge me at the deepest levels.

As such, I will be going deeper into myself…

I will be spending more time in silent retreat on the land of one of my spiritual teachers…

I will be doing a firewalk retreat…

I will be becoming more of the CHANGE I’m destined to be.

This pain I’m going through. These severed relationships. Yes, they hurt with more emotional pain than I’ve ever experienced in my entire life. If it weren’t for the inner work I’ve done up until now, these experiences might have broken me.

Actually, they have broken me…

Wide open in a way that allows me to see what’s inside. They enable me to see what I’m truly “made of” so to speak. It is an opportunity to step more fully into my greatest potential.

Most people shy away from their potential greatness. Just like the Marianne Williamson quote I emailed you a couple of days ago. Most of us are scared of our light.

I know I am, and this pain is showing me that I no longer have a choice. It’s once again the time for me to step more fully into myself, into my potential, and become more of the leader and teacher that I already am and continue to become with each passing day.

Over the coming months, I don’t know how my life will change. All I know is that it will transform in many ways that I can’t possibly imagine. All is unfolding as it is meant to, and even in my greatest pain I know that I am ultimately being held in a field of Loving Light.

In my first email titled “How to Solve Your Problems,” I suggested that one of the ways I shift out of my negative energy states (like anger, sadness, rejection), is to go from “What am I not getting?” to “What can I give?”

Right now, I am living in the midst of this exact challenge. What I “want” is to hold onto my ideas of how reality “should” be. What I “want” is to have these close relationships to me no longer be severed. What I want is to physically manifest the deep loving connection with these people the way that it used to manifest.

But I can’t have that. For reasons beyond my control, it has become impossible to have what I want the way I want it.

And so instead I ask myself “What can I give?”

…Err, no, I mean I “What can I bring?” Because in my followup email, I went further and suggested that rather than “give,” the new paradigm is what can we “bring.”

I bring myself fully to what I need most in the moment: conscious, loving connection. The world around me, the people I want it from most, can’t “give” it to me. I have to bring myself to it. In this case, that means bringing myself to experiences which connect me more fully to myself.

And so I will bring myself silently into the wild. I bring my fears with me and walk on fire. I will bring myself into the world and connect with new people more authentically and fully.

With all this in mind, I bring you a thought I wrote very recently in a comment on a friend’s Facebook wall. It is a comment that has since become a clear reminder to me of how the Loving Light truly works in our lives.

Here’s what I wrote…
“Grace is always with us, even when we are too lost in the fog to realize it’s just the clouds of Heaven holding us closer.”
Pain sucks.

And we all experience it because we’re human. It’s our choice whether the pain breaks us down and pummels us into the ground, or whether the pain breaks us open so we can more fully reveal our inner gifts to the world.

I’m choosing to be the change.

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your

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Being Stuck

I don’t know if you’ve noticed a lack of blog posts this week.  There are several reasons for that.  I’ve been very busy with the start of the new school year,I’ve been sick,  and I’ve also been a bit down. I know, I know, I’m all about thinking positive, and lifting yourself up when your down.  I have tons of different strategies to help lift my mood.  I did them – and they helped – to an extent.  But when my mood didn’t lift as much as i would like, I realized it was time for some deeper soul searching.  So search I did.  I didn’t necessarily like the results of my search, but that’s another story.

I think, deep down, I knew it was time to make some changes in my life.  Changes that I didn’t necessarily want to make, and changes that quite frankly scared me – hence the down in the dumps.  🙂

Why am I telling you this?  To help you realize that sometimes there are down times, and they usually happen for a reason.  So when you hit one of those down in the dumps times in your life, do your best to get yourself out, but also take the time to examine WHY you are down in the dumps.  It may be time for a change and to shake things up in your life.

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