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Define Yourself – Challenge Day 8

Define Yourself – Challenge Day 7
by Tracie

The past does not define you, the present does.
– Jillian Michaels

Think back to when you were a little kiddo.  Who you were then is not who you are now.  That’s the amazing thing about who we are.  We get to choose.  Your past is just that, it’s your past.  If you don’t like who you were, then you get to change it and be the person you want to become.  It may not be easy, but if you want it bad enough, you can do it.

There are so many people who don’t get that.  They think that they’re stuck in the same place and nothing will ever change that.  The make their present a mirror image of their past.  I say break the mirror, and create a new present.  It can be anything you want.  You can do it. You have the power.  You don’t have to limit yourself to your past, and you can craft your new future.

Are you participating in the 30 day positivity challenge?  If so, sound off in the comments and share your positive thoughts and what this quote is saying to you.  Or you can share your thoughts on the facebook page or on the live journal community.

Be Yourself not Somebody Else – Challenge Day 7

Be Yourself not Somebody Else – Challenge Day 7

Always be a first-rate version of yourself, instead of a second-rate version of somebody else.~ Judy Garland


Every day when we wake up, we start our day with a myriad of choices.  What to wear, how to do our hair, what make-up to wear if you’re female, shaving if you’re male, and what to eat for breakfast.  That’s in the first hour of our day.  And we think decisions that we make are all our own.  But they’re not.  You are pressured every hour of every day not to be yourself, but to be like everybody else.  Right now, long straight hair is the fashion for women, so if you look around, most of the women you see will have long straight hair.  Not too long ago, eggs were supposed to be bad for us, so you didn’t see many people eating eggs for breakfast, or any other meal for that matter.

Be Yourself not Somebody ElseWe are pushed, pulled, prodded and molded into being like everybody else.  And while our individuality is being squashed out of us, people say “be yourself.”  I was watching the movie The Devil Wear’s Prada the other night and in the scene where Meryl Streep chastises Anne Hathaway for her attitude about ‘this stuff,’ when I realized that completely and totally illustrates what I’m trying to say.  You are not encouraged to be yourself, instead, some executives sitting in offices decide what is going to be in style for the coming year.

I know growing up, I wanted to be like everybody else so that everybody else would like me.  Guess what, that’s what everybody else was doing.  As it turns out, I was busy wanting to be like everybody who wanted to be like everybody else.  Thankfully today, through the benefits of social media, I’m lucky enough to connect with people I thought I knew in school and getting the opportunity to get to know the real them.

Why would anybody want to be a second-rate carbon copy of somebody else when instead they could be themselves?  I take pride now in being who I am. I don’t make excuses for my differences.  I wear my hair the way I want to, and I dress in what feels comfortable to me.  I participate in activities that interest me, and if they don’t interest anybody else.  I’m happy with who I am, but it took a very long time to get there.  If I could teach people one thing in this world it would be to be yourself, not somebody else.

Thank you for taking part in the positivity challenge.  Don’t forget to let me know what you think in the comments and to share your own positive thoughts as well.

Share Your Dreams – Challenge Day 6

A dream you dream alone is only a dream. A dream you dream together becomes reality. – John Lennon

So this is going to seem rather round about and convoluted, but just hang in there for a few minutes.  It had been bitterly cold where I live, and at my school, a pipe to the sink in my classroom froze.  We had no school today because of a blizzard, a blizzard that came right after the temperature rose just a bit. Well I got a call this morning from my principal telling me that the pipe burst and my classroom was a mess.  Needless to say I headed into school only to find that my principal was wrong, it wasn’t a mess, it was a disaster area.  And as bad as my room was, the room of the teacher below dream your dreams and keep thinking positiveme was even worse because the water had to go some place, and that place was down. I’ll be 100% honest, my negativity was off the chart, and I forgot everything I ever knew about thinking positive and finding a positive in the what was a very negative situation.  I literally couldn’t think of a single solitary positive thing about this situation.

I lost a lot of stuff in this little disaster, but my friend in the room below me lost everything.  As we sat there, well technically we stood because there wasn’t a dry surface to sit, she looked at me and said, “Well at least there were no kids in school when it happened.”  And just like that things started getting a little better because there was a positive that came from our negative.  From there we went on to realize that as bad as it was (and it is very bad) only 3 classrooms were damaged.  My classroom and her classroom are bad, and the third classroom sustained some damage, but not that much, so that’s another positive.

Now on to the dream portion.  On my ride home, various teacher friends reached out and we talked about what was lost and what we could do to make things better.  The teacher below me has a classroom full of kids with autism, and she teaches the special needs art class, so we need to get her up and running as soon as possible.  I figured I’d put out what had happened on facebook.  Really, I wasn’t expecting too much, I figured a few people may have some books and stuff they would be willing to donate.  Well, boy was I wrong.  My dream of helping my friend out exploded with other people joining in and sharing the post and it made it a reality.  When we put our heads together and work as a team, we can accomplish great things.  So those dreams you have, don’t hoard them.  Share them with others and watch your dreams take wings and become your new reality.

Reach for the Stars – Challenge Day 5

Every great dream begins with a dreamer. Always remember, you have within you the strength, the patience, and the passion to reach for the stars and change the world. – Harriet Tubman

I was fortunate enough to listen to a webinar on manifesting big in 2018 by author and coach Kathryn Alice. In it she told lots of great stories about people that she’d worked with and what they manifested, and she talked about her upcoming course the 2018 Blueprint. She also gave some great tips on how to manifest things quickly.  At the start of the webinar, she had us list four things we wanted to manifest, and people, myself included gave pretty generic answers of money, love, new home or new job.  Guess what, that’s not good enough.  If you’re going to dream, dream big.  Give your dream details.  Make them come alive in your mind.  Get as specific as heck.  Don’t just dream about a house, dream about YOUR house.  Where is it located? How is it furnished?  Get as detailed as possible.  Don’t get caught up in the how you’re going to get all those things, just create your perfect house in your mind.  Same think if you’re trying to manifest your soulmate.  What does he or she look like?  How tall is he?  What does she do for a living.  See yourself walking hand in and on a romantic beach, or maybe see yourselves decorating that new dream home.

When it comes to your dreams, anything is possible.  You are strong, intelligent and creative.  You can achieve anything if you can visualize it.  Craft that dream in your minds eye.  Feel yourself living it.  Let yourself become your dream.  The more energy you give your dreams, the stronger you make them, the faster you will achieve them.  You have that power in you, that passion to achieve what you want.  You can reach your dreams whatever they are. Start now, dream big and dream hard, and don’t forget the details!

You Have the Power – Challenge Day 4

No matter what people may tell you, words and ideas can change the world. – Robin Williams

Such profound words from such a funny man.  Funny, but very insightful.  Think for a second about Robin Williams.  In his far too short a life, he made us laugh and cry.  He influenced us in so many ways.  His many roles as an actor and comedian touched us in so many ways.  I grew up with him saying “I am Mork from Ork. Nano Nano.” I say him in theaters 
screaming out “Good morning Vietnam,” teaching prep school boys to love poetry, revisiting Neverland as an adult Peter Pan, saving Aladdin as the Genie and being the worlds best nanny as Mrs. Doubtfire.

I know, I know you’re probably thinking that Robin Williams was famous.  He was in the movies, and on television.  He may have influenced the world, but that’s because everybody knows his name.  And while that is true, it is also true that we all have within us, that same ability to change the world.  It all starts with you.  Every change you make in your life impacts the people around you, enacting change in them.  That impacts the people around them.  It’s like ripples in a pond, moving out in a ring growing bigger and bigger.

Don’t get me wrong, I would love love love for my little blog posts to catch fire and blow up the internet and fill the world with positive thoughts.  I really would!  And who knows, that may happen.  But right now, I’m changing me, and I’m sharing my positive thoughts and my positive attitude with my students.  Hopefully it’s impacting them and the people around them. It’s a start.  So I’m starting with me, and I know that my words and ideas will make a change in this world.

It’s Up to You – Challenge Day 3

Only I can change my life.  No one can do it for me.
– Carol Burnett

I was watching my local news tonight and there was yet another story about the horrible opioid epidemic that is sweeping our nation.  It’s a topic that has touched me personally, as well as just about all the students I work with.  I do not know of anybody who has not been negatively impacted by this epidemic in one way or another.  I really wish I could just wave a magic wand and make it all better.  But there is no magic wand and there is no making it all better.  A friend of mine mentioned of facebook one time that perhaps it would be beneficial if when a first time user is arrested if they were forced into rehab.  In my mind, that’s a waste because unless they want to break their cycle of addiction, rehab will never work.  All change is like that, the person making the change has to want it for themselves.  Change is hard and scary because you’re looking at yourself and saying “I need to fix this about myself.”  You have to do it for you.  You can’t do it for your parents, or your spouse or your children.  They might be motivating factors, but the desire to change has to come from within.

Have you ever gone on a diet, or changed your personal style, or taken up a new hobby to impress somebody else?  Think about it.  How did it work out for you?  Chances are, if you were dieting, you lacked willpower.  If you changed the way you acted or dressed, it probably never felt quite right.  And that hobby, you’re probably not doing it any longer, are you?  Now think about the changes you may have made in your life that you wanted to make.  Those changes have lasted, haven’t they.  I bet that’s why most resolutions fail.  We make them on January first because that’s what we’re supposed to do.  Everyone else is doing it so we have to do it too.

So if you feel the need to make a resolution or change during the “resolution season,” I ask one thing of you.  Make the change because it’s what you want for you.  Not because you feel that you have to.  If you truly desire the change in question, I know you’ll achieve it.

Oh the Potential! Challenge Day 2

And now we welcome the new year. Full of things that have never been. – Rainer Maria Rilkie

I promise, this is the last new year quote!  It’s just that even though I hate resolutions, I can’t help but think about the potential during this time of year.  We’ve welcomed in the new year, and we’ve recovered from the holiday season and from the parties, and now it’s time to begin.  Begin what?  Well that’s just it, we have the potential to begin anything!  It can be a diet, a healthy lifestyle, the starting of a new hobby, an new job search, getting your finances in order  – anything.  The potential to start something new is right there waiting for you to take the chance.

So what do you think you’re going to do to welcome in this new year?  Are you going to find something new to try?  Or maybe revisit something you tried in the past?  The choice is yours, but don’t ignore the possibilities that are out there.  Personally, I’m not trying a never been, but I am revisiting something that I’ve tried before.  I’m hoping I’ll be successful this time, but if not, I’ll just keep trying 🙂  And that’s what I want more than anything for you as well.  Try something new, or revisit something you tried before.  Keep trying – because you never know what you’re going to find – you may find a new passion.

What do you think?  Is there something new you want to try, or something you want to revisit?  Share your positive thoughts about the new year and the unlimited potential that is yours either in the comments, here, at the live journal community or on the facebook page.


Write Your Story – Challenge Day 1

The new year stands before us, like a chapter in a book, waiting to be written. We can help write that story by setting goals. – Melody Beattie

I love the idea of the new year being a book.  It has twelve chapters  and each chapter has at least 28 pages.  Every day is a new page, a new opportunity to craft the story of your life.  On one hand, it sounds super exciting, but on the other hand, it’s incredibly daunting.  Where do you start, how do you begin?  Simple, you start with day 1, page 1 and with a goal.  Goals can be big and far reaching, but goals can be small too.  And sometimes it’s good to start out with a small goal.  For instance, I have 3 goals for today.  My first goal is to finish this blog post 🙂  My second goal is to verbally express gratitude at least 3 times during the day.  My third goal (and don’t laugh) is to make French Toast for breakfast.  Yes, French Toast.  I’ve been trying all vacation week to make it, and it just hasn’t happened.  I have other, longer term goals too, but like I said, not every goal has to be far reaching.

Starting small is okay, and you know what else is okay?  Not achieving your goal.  Suppose I don’t get to make my French Toast tomorrow for breakfast?  Is the world going to end?  Probably not. If it doesn’t happen, I can just regroup and maybe make it for lunch, or better yet, for dinner.  That’s the awesome thing about goals, you can revise them whenever you want, because the are your goals.  That is also the very awesome thing about writing your own life story.  It’s YOURS!  You are the author, and nobody gets to tell you what your story is going to contain, or how it’s going to end.  You’re the one controlling it. So start your story today.  Start with Chapter 1, page 1 and a goal.  And when December 31, 2018 rolls around, you’ll have your own personal novel.

Thanks for joining in on the challenge.  Feel free to leave your positive thought below in the comment section, or on our facebook page or on the live journal community page.  I can’t wait to read your positive thoughts.

Just in Case

I came across this image today, and I promptly shared it everywhere.  I think we should all read it to yourselves or say it to ourselves every morning.

In case you forgot to remind yourself this morning…your butt is perfect. Your smile lights up the room. Your mind is insanely cool. You are way more than enough, and you are doing an amazing job at life.

I know I’ve blogged about this before, but we are our own worst enemy.  Seriously!  I don’t know about you, but I wouldn’t talk to my worst enemy the way I talk to myself.  My internal monologues are filled with disgust about myself, my life, my eating habits, my laziness, basically, my everything.  Let’s just take eating habits for a second.  Yeah, my eating habits are not the greatest, but neither are the eating habits of a lot of other people.  There will be times when we’ll be pigging out on junk food and someone will comment on how bad they are eating or how much weight they need to lose.   To them I will say supportive things. “It’s okay to take a break from eating healthy,” or “Splurge today and get right back on the healthy eating wagon tomorrow.”  I will always try to be supportive and positive but when it comes to me, I’m ripping myself apart for what I may have eaten.

I constantly talk down to myself.  In my mind, I am fat, ugly, lazy and stupid, and everything I do is wrong.  I don’t think I’m alone in this hateful self-talk.  I don’t understand why we do this to ourselves.  I don’t know what happened to me to make me be so dissatisfied with the person that I am, but I do know that it needs to change.  Am I a perfect person?  No, of course not.  Are there things I need to improve about myself?  Absolutely.  Are those things worthy of the self-loathing, and hate I heap upon myself?  No.  I do not deserve that kind of talk, and what’s amazing is if anybody else talked to me that way, I’d be inclined to punch them in the face.  At the very least, I’d tell them to shut up, walk away and probably cut them out of my life.  And yet I continue to take the abuse I heap upon myself, and I think I’m not alone.

So while I’m not a big resolution person, I think I am going to make one this year.  I’m going to start treating me, and talking to me they way I treat others and talk to others.  I’d like all of you to join me in this.  Make 2018 the year of loving yourself.  2018 is the year of loving me!

30 Day Positive Thought Challenge

Good morning everyone .  As the end of the year draws near, I would like to propose a group challenge.  I really started working on changing my mindset back in 2008.  Back then, my friends and I were all on livejournal and one particular friend and I were always bitching about how much life sucked.  Well she decided she was going to post one positive thought a day in her LJ and I decided to join her.  I even went so far as to create a livejournal community for us to share our positive thoughts. You can find it here if you are interested.  From there, I started the website, and the mailing list.  Sharing positive thoughts has become my mission.  Sadly I had to cut back on the mailing list because those things cost money, so instead of sending out a positive thought every day, I send them out a week at a time.

Like I said, sharing positive thoughts and encouraging others to think positively has become a passion for me. I want to encourage as many people to think in a positive manner.  I think that it makes your life better in general.  I’m also a realist, and I know that things don’t go great 100% of the time, but if you develop a positive mindset, it helps you deal better when things aren’t going your way.  So now I’ll stop rambling and get to the challenge at hand.

Starting January 1, 2018, I challenge you to share a positive thought, or reflect on the positive thought I share for the day.  You can comment under the post each day, or on the livejournal community It’s free to join the lj community, and it’s free to comment here. If facebook is your thing, we also have a facebook page here and you can share your positive thoughts either in your own post, or in the comment section of each days post. I will tag each post as day 1, day 2 etc.  And don’t worry, you won’t be added to the email list, and I don’t share email addresses. That’s just rude 🙂  I hope you’ll join me on this 30 day adventure that will help you create a more positive outlook.

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