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Look Forward Not Backward

Look through the front windshield and not the rear view mirror. – Anonymous

As one of my facebook friends pointed out, you may miss the flashing blue lights if you do this, I’d say it’s worth the risk to look forward and not backward. Don’t get me wrong, I think we can learn a lot from history, and even more from our mistakes, but there is a huge difference between learning and obsessing.

If you spend all your time looking back at what was, your going to miss so many new and different opportunities.  Think about it this way.  If you’re so busy hanging on to a past love/old romance, you could miss the most wonderful new person who is poised to enter your life.  The same goes with just about everything else in life.  If your eyes are fixed firmly on the past, you’re going to miss what’s right in front of you.

And while I hope what’s right in front of you is something wonderful and amazing, it could also be a huge pitfall.  You never know what the future is going to bring you, but unless you are looking forward and not backward, your either going to miss out on something amazing, or you could run the risk by being blindsided by something less that amazing.

The choice is yours.  Which way are you going to look?

The Look of Success

Successful people have fear, successful people have doubts, and successful people have worries. They just don’t let these feelings stop them. –T. Harv Eker

Sorry for the delay in posting this.  Life got a bit busy, but better late than never. Let’s talk about the look of success, or more specifically successful people.  Successful people don’t look any different than you or I, and more importantly, they don’t think any differently than you or I.

I’m always afraid when I am faced with new things. When I have a new idea I want to put in to place, or a chance I want to take, I am filled with doubt. And worries, I am a walking talking mound of worries.  And I let those things stop me on a regular basis.  Successful people don’t. They work through those things, or ignore those things.

I get it, to do that takes incredible inner strength and willpower, but that’s the look of success. Being strong and pushing through your fears doubts and worries.  We all have those inner doubts and fears, and that nagging inner voice that tells you that you can’t do it, or that it’s stupid. Silence that voice, and you’ll have the look of success.



Believe in Yourself

Once we believe in ourselves, we can risk curiosity, wonder, spontaneous delight, or any experience that reveals the human spirit. – e.e. cummings

At first I was excited to think that this wasn’t another quote about self-confidence and being confident. Then I realized it is another quote about self-confidence and being confident. Because when you think about it, if you are confident, and if you have self-confidence, you believe in yourself.

When you are able to block out the naysayers, and the negative self-talk, something amazing happens.  When you believe in yourself, it’s like there is a light inside of you that shines out and illuminates you.  You are willing to try new things, explore, experiment and take risks, and most of all, to just enjoy your life. When you believe in yourself, it’s like a magical time. I’m not saying your life is perfect, and nothing goes wrong, but those setbacks that do happen are so much easier to deal with.

Don’t you want to live your life like that? Finding joy in the world around you, exploring the world around you, taking chances and trying new things? Seriously, who wouldn’t want to experience that? You can.  You can, and I can, and in fact everybody can. You only have to do one thing, and that is believe in yourself.

Develop Confidence

Low self-confidence isn’t a life sentence. Self-confidence can be learned, practiced, and mastered–just like any other skill. Once you master it, everything in your life will change for the better.
-Barrie Davenport

I really didn’t plan to have 3 posts in a row about confidence and self-confidence, and yet, here I am.  I think fate knows what it’s doing, however, because my confidence level has never been at an all time low. The other day, I talked about being confident, and ways to block out negativity from outside sources.  I didn’t talk about how to block out the negativity inside your own head.  That’s what I’m dealing with right now, and let me tell you, it’s so hard to get the voices inside of you to shut up some times.  I’m not talking about the scary, maybe I’m suffering from mental illness voices, but that one nagging voice inside your head that constantly wears away at you.  You know the one, don’t you?  It’s the one that says your too fat, too ugly, too stupid, too everything negative.

To me, that is the biggest cause of low self-confidence.  But you can beat it, and so can I.  For every negative thing that voice says to you, say two more positive things back to your self. It’s not easy (trust me, I know this first hand) but it’s important, and it does help.  But you have to do it.  All. The. Time.  Don’t stop just because you’re feeling more confidence.  You can never develop too much confidence.  Positive self-talk and and self-confidence is a skill, and like every skill, you need to keep practicing to keep your skills sharp.

So when those voices in your head start to wear you down, stop.  Take a deep breath and and drown out those voices with positive self talk and and develop confidence!

Fake It Till You Make It

If you’re presenting yourself with confidence, you can pull off pretty much anything. –Katy Perry

Let me start by saying Happy New Year to you and go on to say quotes about confidence two day sin a row – I didn’t plan it, I swear! When I was doing the quotes for this week, I saw this one and I thought about the resolutions so many of us make, and it gave me an idea.  A resolution is a goal – at least it is to me, and I blogged about that on my personal blog this morning. One of my goals this year is to get my lazy self to the gym more often, but when I think about going to the gym, I start to stress.  I start to stress because I think I’m too fat, and I’m clumsy on the equipment and people will stare at me because I’m so incompetent.  So I’ve decided this is an ideal time to fake it till I make it.  I’m going to walk into that gym with my head held high. I’m going to act like I belong there and be confident.  Fake it till you make it.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying if you don’t know something that you should just fake it and not ask questions or ask for help.  No, I’m talking about your attitude and your belief in your self. What if you have a goal to run a marathon?  Well obviously, you can’t just go out and run a marathon! I think for most people though they look at the end goal and then start freaking out about how their going to do it, can they do it, etc. All those doubts can get so loud it gets in the way of your training, or even starting your training. Start your training acting as if you’ve already completed a marathon, or ten of them! Have confidence in yourself. Fake it till you make it.

Be Confident

It is confidence in our bodies, minds, and spirits that allows us to keep looking for new adventures. –Oprah Winfrey

I’m going to be kind of contradictory here.  I totally agree with this quote, but  how do you find and/or develop that confidence.  So many times, we get battered with negative messages from all sides, or worse, from our selves.  It’s really hard to remain confident when all that negativity is hammering at you day in and day out.

So while I totally agree with this quote and it’s message, I’m taking a different message away from it.  What I’m taking away from this quote is that it’s important to block out all the negativity that comes at you.  There are many different things you can do.  Sometimes, when I’m being bombarded with negativity, I’ll turn up the music to drown it out.  If someone is pointing out all my flaws and mistakes, in my mind, I’ll counter each one of their negatives with a positive about myself.  Sometimes, I’ll just remove myself from the negativity.  And one of my favorites (I use this one at work a lot) is to imagine an invisible bubble surrounding me, and all that negativity just bounces right off of me.

Those are a few of the things that I do to help ward off negativity.  Because only then am I able to start feeling the confidence in myself that allows me to do what the quote says and keep looking for new adventures.  One other thing I want to point out is that new adventures don’t have to mean climbing a mountain in some far flung country, or bungee jumping, sky diving or anything like that.  Your adventures can be found everywhere and in every day things.  Your adventures are what you make them.  So ward off that negativity, find your confidence and go out and find your own adventures!

Action vs. Inaction

Inaction breeds doubt and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out and get busy. -Dale Carnegie

I kind of love this quote, because I have a lot of fears I need to conquer.  First let’s talk about fears.  Some people have a fear of flying, other a fear of crowds. Me personally, I have a huge thing about driving over bridges.  Those fears are what I think of as “In Your Face,” fears.  They are right there.  But there are other fears, and to me they are more insidious.  They work on you in your heart, and in your mind.  A big one for me is fear of success.  I spend an awful lot of time thinking about the things I want to do, and how I should do it.  The thing is, I never really do anything about it.  Why? Because I’m afraid of failing and I’m afraid of succeeding.

This summer, I wrote my little book Thinking Positive: Take The Journey into Positivity.  For me, it was a labor of love. It’s not a Nobel Prize winner, and I didn’t plan on retiring off of the proceeds, but I wanted to do it, and I did.  I had all these plans to promote it and share it, and you know what I’ve done?  Nothing?  Want to know why? Because I was afraid of what people would say.

So with the coming of the new year, I challenge you to think about something that scares the crap out of you and do something about it.  Don’t think about doing something about it, just do it.  If it’s getting back in the dating scene, ask someone out. If it’s losing weight, toss out the junk food and strap on your sneakers and go for a walk.  If it’s promoting an amazing idea that you have – start talking!  There is no time like right now to conquer your fear!

A Grateful Heart

The seeds of discouragement, cannot take root in a grateful heart – Joel Osteen

I love it when quotes I pick out in advance work for the day I’m having.  Well this one works for my yesterday, but hey, close enough, right? I was literally heartbroken when I found all my websites gone.  After a quick hook up with my hosting company, they got two of them back.  One site, my personal blog, where I rant and rave, however was missing.  They said they’d restore it from a back up, so off to bed I went.  Well this morning, I received an email saying no luck 🙁  Now here is where the quote works.  I thought I’d be destroyed by this, but I’m not.  They were able to restore this site, which is the one that is the most important to me, and they were able to restore my other site, where my friends and I communicate.  For that, I am extremely grateful!

So now, instead of being discouraged, I’m looking upon this as an opportunity to revamp my personal blog.  I can do whatever I want with it.  Yeah I had a few posts on it that were important, but I can get past that.  Why? Because I am grateful for what I do have, and that gratitude is what is stopping the negativity and discouragement take root in my heart.

Call it looking on the bright side, call it whatever you want.  All I know is that I am so very grateful to have this site back up and running, that I am not all that torn up about my other site.  I won’t be able to restore it, but now I can make it better than it was, and that’s not a bad thing at all.

What a Long Strange Trip it’s Been

Well not really, but also, yes.  As many of you are aware, I’m a teacher, and this year, I was put in a new position at my school.  So there was a learning curve that’s still curving.  I also for some strange and unknown reason, decided to take two classes which were very challenging.  My time was severely pushed to the breaking point, so I let some things (posting here being one of them) fall by the wayside.  Well my class finished up on the 14th, but I also left to travel to Georgia to see my son graduate from Basic Training. We came home and then BAM, it was Christmas.  Well today, I decided to sit down and update the site only to find that it had disappeared.  I don’t know how, I don’t know why.  All I know was this site, and two other sites of mine were GONE.

Enter panic!    I called my server company and they got 2 of the 3 sites back and they are working on the 3rd.  So now that my life is hopefully settling down, I will be back to posting and updating regularly.  Thanks for hanging in there and Merry Christmas!

Alternative Treatment Therapies for Stress and Depression

Alternative Treatment Therapies for Stress and Depression

It is projected that 40 million American adults suffer from some form of anxiety problem — that’s just under 20 percent of the population. It’s an alarming statistic, but perhaps more concerning is the fact that many who have an anxiety disorder do not seek treatment out of fear, shame, or because they’ve had a negative treatment experience in the past. Traditional therapeutic approaches sometimes do not meet the needs of patients who require treatment, leaving many to look for alternative methods. Some of these may seem offbeat or even radical, but the essential goal remains the same: to get better with few or no side effects.

Relaxation Techniques

Relaxation therapy teaches patients with anxiety or depression to focus their thoughts and feelings away from negative concerns using a variety of techniques. Meditation therapy relaxes the body and the mind by focusing on breathing, which lowers the blood pressure, reduces stressful feelings, and helps eliminate panic attacks. Breathing therapy pulls more oxygen into the body, which relieves tension and improves your sense of well-being.

Supplement Therapy

The ability of herbal supplements to alleviate anxiety and depression is also under study by scientists, though researchers have discovered positive links between the use of specific herbs and the reduction of some anxiety symptoms. Some of the more common supplement remedies involve vitamin B-12, which can affect the central nervous system, and chamomile, which has a soothing effect on people suffering from symptoms of anxiety. Supplements such as inositol and valerian can also reduce feelings of anxiety. CBD (cannabidiol) is a chemical found in hemp that has a number of medical benefits, including pain relief and the ability to reduce inflammation in the brain. Keep in mind that you should always consult with a physician before taking herbal supplements.


Yoga is a meditative discipline that seeks to develop a healthy connection between mind and body through a series of poses. In addition to reducing depression and anxiety, yoga improves flexibility and alleviates joint pain. According to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America, yoga is one of the top 10 alternatives for treating a range of mental disorders. It’s an especially popular alternative to more commonplace methods because learning to relax through yoga can help in other aspects of daily life.


Acupuncture is another possible treatment, but it can be a hard sell for people who have a problem with needles, even though it is a centuries-old Chinese discipline known to be effective at treating depression and anxiety as well as many physical ailments. Thin, sharp needles are inserted into the patient’s upper skin layers at points of the body associated with specific organs. Acupuncture’s effectiveness continues to be a source of scientific study, including its ability to engage the body’s natural painkilling chemicals.

Art Therapy

Creative pursuits such as dance, drama, music, and the visual arts help patients become mindful of their feelings through self-expression. The art you create provides a means of creating art that helps you better understand yourself and your responses to external stimuli.


People struggling with anxiety or depression sometimes respond positively to spending time in nature on a regular basis. This method may include taking long walks in the woods, growing your own food in the backyard, or spending time around animals.

With 40 million Americans suffering from anxiety or depression, there’s currently a great need for successful treatment therapies, whether they’re considered traditional or alternative. It’s worth considering that more people might seek help if so-called “alternative” therapeutic approaches were more readily available to them.


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