Only I can change my life. No one can do it for me.
– Carol Burnett
I was watching my local news tonight and there was yet another story about the horrible opioid epidemic that is sweeping our nation. It’s a topic that has touched me personally, as well as just about all the students I work with. I do not know of anybody who has not been negatively impacted by this epidemic in one way or another. I really wish I could just wave a magic wand and make it all better. But there is no magic wand and there is no making it all better. A friend of mine mentioned of facebook one time that perhaps it would be beneficial if when a first time user is arrested if they were forced into rehab. In my mind, that’s a waste because unless they want to break their cycle of addiction, rehab will never work. All change is like that, the person making the change has to want it for themselves. Change is hard and scary because you’re looking at yourself and saying “I need to fix this about myself.” You have to do it for you. You can’t do it for your parents, or your spouse or your children. They might be motivating factors, but the desire to change has to come from within.
Have you ever gone on a diet, or changed your personal style, or taken up a new hobby to impress somebody else? Think about it. How did it work out for you? Chances are, if you were dieting, you lacked willpower. If you changed the way you acted or dressed, it probably never felt quite right. And that hobby, you’re probably not doing it any longer, are you? Now think about the changes you may have made in your life that you wanted to make. Those changes have lasted, haven’t they. I bet that’s why most resolutions fail. We make them on January first because that’s what we’re supposed to do. Everyone else is doing it so we have to do it too.
So if you feel the need to make a resolution or change during the “resolution season,” I ask one thing of you. Make the change because it’s what you want for you. Not because you feel that you have to. If you truly desire the change in question, I know you’ll achieve it.