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Give Yourself a Break

I’ve been doing a lot of self-reflection lately. Self-reflection is good, too much – not so good! I’ve not been happy with who I am as a person lately. I’ve been dealing with some serious health issues, and I’ve allowed them, and the thoughts of them, to overwhelm me. I was finally coming to grips with everything and then covid-19 hit, and I went from being a teacher in a school, to teaching from my bedroom online, while my daughter worked in the living room and my son in his bedroom.

It was a huge struggle, we had exactly one week to take everything we were doing in a classroom and get it online. We didn’t do well and the kids didn’t do well. I was working from 7:00 in the morning, until 11:00 – 12:00 at night, trying to connect with kids, and it’s continued into this summer. It’s made me realize something. Taking time for me isn’t selfish, it’s a necessity. It’s a necessity for all of us. And the way that time looks is going to be different for everybody, and that’s okay. We’re all different, our “me” time should be different as well.

So take some time for yourself. It doesn’t have to be hours, but wouldn’t it be nice if it were! I know our initial impulse is to give our all to the things that we do, work, play, friends and family. But if you keep giving your all and don’t take time for you, you’re going to crash and burn. Don’t do that to yourself. Take the time for you to indulge in a hobby, or even just to sit and do nothing. You’ll be better off in the long run!

Sometimes, I Wonder Why

Sometimes, I wonder why.  No that would be a lie, I wonder why, all the time.  I wonder why about a lot of things.  Today I am wondering why about Think Positive 30.

 

Why am I doing this?

That is a very good question.  I started out doing this for me, and for a dear, wonderful friend.  You can read the story in the about section, but the abridged version is we were whiny.  Our blogs were filled with negative crap, and she decided to post one positive thing a day.  Why?  Because all that negativity was bringing us down.

I made a blog specifically for that, and Think Positive 30 was born.  From the blog (not this one) it morphed into a website thinkpositive30.com, and a mailing list.  I loved the mailing list.  But my web host kept flagging me for spam, even though people had to sign up for the email list.  I loved the email list beyond belief. It was a lot of work, but I loved it. But the flagging made me look for a different way to do it.

I found the list I’m using now, Mail Chimp.  It’s an amazing list, but it’s not free.  To send the Daily Positive Thought out to my subscribers on a daily basis was going to cost money.  Lots of money. To send out the Daily Positive Thought it was going to cost me $15.00 a month.  I can’t swing that so I decided to send out one email a week with 7 positive thoughts.  One for each day.  It’s not perfect, but it works.

Why Am I telling you this?

Not to ask for money.  Just a little back story into my Why question for the day.  This morning I saw a post on Facebook and someone was saying they sent a hoodie from their store to a YouTuber who has over a million subscribers.  The YouTuber emailed back and said they were going to wear the hoodie on their show and give a shout out to the person on Facebook and his shop.  I think that’s great, and it leads into my why for this morning.  It’s a two fold why I think.

Why are some people more successful than others?

How does it happen? What do they do more successfully than other people do?  Why are they able to find their niche and help it explode into a way to make money?  Is it because they don’t feel like they have any other options, or is it because they think they have every option in the world?  I’m beginning to think it’s the second thing.  If you’re doing something out of a sense of desperation, you may be successful, but I think your fears and desperation will get in your way and you won’t be as successful as you think

If you approach something with the mindset that you have a thousand different options open to you, you’ll be more successful.  When you act like you have all these options available to you, all these options become available to you. Which brings me to my next why.

Why can’t I make this happen?

I’m a huge fan of the Law of Attraction.  I don’t think that’s a secret.  Simply put it states Ask (put it out to the universe), Believe (believe you’re going ask believe receiveto get it) and Receive (wait for it to come.)  There is a missing step, you can’t just sit there and do nothing. If you want something, you have to work for it.  Effort is required on your part.  You shouldn’t try and control everything, but you do have to put in effort.  I’m okay with that part.  I struggle with the Believe portion.

How do you believe you have a million dollars in the bank when you’re struggling to pay the bills?  How do you believe you’re driving the car of your dreams when your car is in the shop?  That how is my why.  I know these people who are super successful have always believed that they will be.  This all comes back to my little baby of a website ThinkPositive30.com.  Sometimes I wonder why I am doing it, and sometimes I wonder why people care.

Well the answer to the second question is, I don’t know if people care.  I don’t get a lot of feedback here comment wise.  I also have a facebook group, facebook page, and an instagram page.  None of them have a lot of interaction with people, a little, but not a lot.  Sometimes I wonder what I’m doing wrong that I don’t have a lot of feedback and then I realized something.  If I touch one person, help one person think in a more positive manner, it’s a win.  As to the why I am doing it, that’s easy.  I do it for me. To help me be a more positive person.

So I’m going to continue.  I’ll continue with the website and the facebook and instagram.  I’ll keep the mailing list going.  And more importantly I’m going to work on my believing in the believe portion  of Ask Believe Receive.  If I can believe in God (and I do) I can certainly believe that good things are coming to me and that I can and do make a difference with ThinkPositive30.com  And if I can do it, so can you!

2 Questions that will Change Your Life

Today’s guest post was written by Erin Dickson an amazing life coach.

2 Questions That Will Change Your Life…

Erin Dickson

Gravity Life Coaching

 

 

 

When I was a few years out of college and stuck in a dead-end job – I was contemplating going back to graduate school to be a Guidance Counselor.  I knew I wanted to be a Guidance Counselor, but the process of getting there was a bit overwhelming. 

 

I was living in an apartment by myself, working 2 jobs and discovered that I would need to do a 600-hour unpaid internship.  It was so overwhelming to look at the big picture –  because all I could think about was what could go wrong.  How could I possibly take a 6 month long unpaid full-time internship while paying rent? 

 

That’s the question I was living in and that’s the question that stopped me from moving forward for so long.

 

When I was finally able to start living in a different question, I discovered how to move forward.  I wanted it to be a possibility, I wanted to make it happen and I knew that others made it happen.  If others made it happen, why couldn’t I?  

 

So, I started asking different questions.  Rather than focusing on how it couldn’t work, I started working with a solution focused approach –

 

“If I believed it were possible, and if I believed I couldn’t fail, what would I do next?” 

 

That question opened up a whole new world of possibilities.   I stopped focusing on how I would fail and started focusing on what it might look like if I succeeded.  That was such a cooler place to be…

 

What I would do next, was easy.  I started the application process and took my first class.  Easy.  Then my second class, then my third class.  As I began to get further into the program, I decided that I loved my classes, I couldn’t wait to be a Guidance Counselor!  Nothing was going to stop me at that point. 

 

I moved from “what if I can’t?” to “what if I can?” Two questions – two completely different results.

 

As the internship grew closer I dropped my full-time job – I found an apartment for $350/month and my waitressing job seriously saved my ass!  I got through my internship and got a job as soon as I finished. 

 

I focused on the possible success, not the possible failure. 

 

If I had started with “I could never do that” then I never would have.  I would be stuck in my routine world of comfort – but not awesomeness.  We need to remember to live in awesomeness – this life is too short for routine and mundane.

 

Change your language and your mind will follow.  Ask yourself different questions, live in a world of “what if I succeed – what would that look like?”, not “what if I fail”…because if you live the question “what if I fail”, you’ll never move from where you are today.  If where you are today is awesome, then cool – hang out there.  For too many people…it’s not awesome YET.

 

Discover your awesome self.  Click below to decide what you’re capable of!

 

https://gravitylifecoaching.lpages.co/live-your-life-fearless/

Manifesting What you REALLY Want! – The Secret BEHIND The Secret


It’s not too often that I can actually say I am blown away by a video I watched online, but this really impressed me:

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Like many of you, I have been struggling for years to make the Law of Attraction work for me, not knowing that I was actually going about using it THE WRONG WAY!

You see, the key to using the Law of Attraction, and being able to manifest what you want and desire, is the proper use of visualization. The fact is, many people can’t properly visualize and create an emotional connection to what they are seeing. All that has now changed thanks to “Abundant Mind

Abundant Mind is being called “The Netflix of Subliminal Manifestation” because it contains a massive library of powerful, full motion, high resolution visualization videos that can be streamed on any internet connected device.

Unlike the visualization videos that already exist on the market, these are vastly superior because they use FIVE scientifically proven subconscious altering techniques. By using full motion themed video (not still images), a special audio track, affirmations, subliminal messages and binaural beats, these videos will completely change how you visualize and respond emotionally to visualizations. This could literally be the secret behind “The Secret”.

I have been using these for the last few days and I’m already seeing a difference. I highly recommend you take a few minutes out of your day to check out this phenomenal connection of visualization videos.

What if You Stopped Being Yourself – Chris Cade

When I think of experiences that provide me the most inner growth, I notice they all have a common thread: Whatever is going on is not representative of what I consider to be my “normal” everyday experience.

In the case of the last 6 months, trauma is definitely not a part of my historical everyday experience. Most of my life has been fairly enjoyable, peaceful, and lacking of major conflict. Sure I’ve had my challenges, but nothing that was truly horrifying (until last year).

And while I don’t advocate you go out looking for trauma, my experience has shown me that embracing it and working through the trauma has given me riches of personal growth beyond my imagination.

It was a step FAR beyond my normal experience, and the trauma challenged me every single day to live what I know to be true. It also challenged me to decide whether or not I’d continue to identify with who I was, or if I’d step up to the unbelievable challenge and become more of the incredible person that I am discovering and know myself to be.

Now, if you don’t want to be traumatized to step out of your “normal” experience, there are other ways. 🙂

Here’s a true story to illustrate… Continue reading “What if You Stopped Being Yourself – Chris Cade” »

Walk the Walk and Talk the Talk

Start by doing what’s necessary, then what’s possible and suddenly you are doing the impossible.~ St. Francis of Assisi

I was going to blog about this quote, because honestly, it’s a great quote.  If you break the impossible down into smaller chunks and start with what you can do, you’ll find that the impossible becomes possible.

That’s what I WAS going to blog about, but instead I’m going to talk about life.  Life and how it seems so incredibly overwhelming and happy-sad-faceshow incredibly difficult it can be to remain positive when you’re faced with the everyday frustrations that seem to crop up with annoying regularity.

I’m going through such a period right now, and if I’m not going to talk the talk and walk the walk, how can I, in good conscience, expect others to do it?  I actually posted on my personal twitter acount that i was jumping off the positivity train and and climbing on the life sucks bus.  This is NOT the attitude of a positive person by any stretch of the imagination.  I’d like to say it was a momentary aberration, but the mood has persisted for a couple of days.

This is where the opportunity to make a choice comes in.  I can choose to keep dwelling on this negative mood that I’m in, allowing it to consume me, or I can acknowledge it and then keep looking for positive things to hopefully override it.

I’m going to be honest, I’m struggling, but I’m working at it.  The trick is, no matter what, don’t stop trying.  It’s not easy, but it can be done.  I know it!  I’m having a hard time believing it, but I am trying.

What are your tricks to get you out of the dumps?

It’s Pity Party Time – Or Is It?

Self-pity is our worst enemy and if we yield to it, we can never do anything wise in this world. – Helen Keller

Everybody, and I mean everybody will occasionally feel sorry for themselves.  It’s okay.  It’s even a good thing.  It’s when you allow that self-pity to take over and rule your life that you have a problem.  When you completely give in to feeling sorry for yourself and wallow in it, you totally sabotage yourself.

You need to make a choice.  Do you want to throw yourself a permanent pity party, or do you want to acknowledge your self-pity, deal with it and move on?  To me it seems like a fairly simple decision.  Acknowledge, deal and move on.  You’ll feel better and who knows what amazing and wonderful things you’ll accomplish.

Why Your AHA Moments Don’t Stick – Chris Cade

by Chris Cade

You’ve most certainly seen this in your life, and possible the lives of those you know about. It’s happened to me. The story starts out the same. You have one of those “amazingly super-duper spiritually enlightening aha moment experiences.”

You may have walked around for a few hours or even days without an ego…

It was mind-blowing to feel empty and spacious yet full…

For a night, it was inspiring to have the courage of a lion…

And for a moment, your consciousness expanded exponentially when you saw the entire Universe in a grain of sand.

But then something else happened. It wore off. The realization didn’t stick, and you realize something more immediate: you’re “just” you. Whoever you were before that incredible experience has returned to the present moment.
 
You hoped that the experience would transform your life forever. You hoped that if you had enough of those experiences, if you sought and found them, if you cherished them, they’d add up to enough realizations that you’d get to keep them all forever.

The thing is, transformation doesn’t work that way.

Realization is one thing. It’s the starting point. Realizations like those open us up to experiencing the world in new ways. Until we discover that the real challenge is not when we attain those realizations, but rather, living them in your daily life. That’s called “actualization.”

Actualization is when your realizations are so integrated into your being, that you live them naturally. You no longer have to “discover” the Truth of yourself because simply by existing you are an expression of that Truth.

It doesn’t matter if that Truth is as simple as having the courage to face your fears, or a deeper awareness such as the Universal interconnectedness we all share. Truth is Truth. And it’s a Truth you live without having to try and without having to alter your state of being to experience and live that Truth.

To simplify: Realization is the awareness. Actualization is the living embodiment of that awareness.

The thing is, few people experience real transformation in their lives because they spend more time chasing realizations than they do trying to actualize those realizations.

What good is awareness if you can’t bring it with you at the end of the experience?

Unfortunately, like all great spiritual Truths… the answer is simple, but not easy. In fact, to make your “aha” moments stick, you only have to do two things:

(1) Put into action what you realize

(2) Repeat step 1.

Or phrased another way: Practice the art of living.

It really is that simple. And yet, we have decades of historical conditioning, difficult experiences, and lack of spiritual support, many of which have been us practicing the art of non-living. The art of surviving. And while that was a necessary art to practice as a child, it’s not necessary to practice it in exactly the same ways as an adult.

We as adults have different needs than we did as chidlren. As such, our practices have to evolve, grow, and deepen. They can’t be based on our past — our practices must be based on the present. And therein lies the true secret to the two-step process above.

When you put your realizations into action, when you truly live them, you are living in the present moment. And the present moment is the only place where our practices can be integrated into our being such that they become actualizations.

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

P.S. When it comes to realizations…

One of the most difficult ones to live is around our “Self Worth.” Simply put… do we have value? And more importantly, is our value inherent to our being or is it something we have to earn?

If you’re like me and everybody I’ve ever met, there’s at least some aspect of you that feels you have to “earn” your worth. We do this by striving for the approval of others and avoiding rejection. Sometimes it’s in obvious big ways, and other times it’s so subtle or subconscious that you might not even be aware you’re doing it.

And if self worth is an area you’re still wanting to work on in your own life, then please feel free to join me on the free “Self Worth Summit.” I’ll be speaking alongside nearly 60 other speakers about this exact topic: How can we live, in our daily lives, with the experience of knowing that we matter?

Self Worth Summit

She Gave Me the Finger, I Gave Her My Heart – Chris Cade

Though that may sound like like the name of a really bad country song, I assure you I haven’t switched vocations to become a musician. 🙂

See, the other day I was taking my son to preschool and I had an “interaction” with a driver. There is a highway interchange that was designed very poorly and has great potential for accidents. All the people in the left lane have to get over to the right lane (which turns very quickly), and all the people coming from the right lane (which is a curve) have to get over into the left lane.

To compound the issue, those going from right to left have a metering light that brings traffic to a stop. During rush hour, it’s a dangerous intersection. I was in the left lane, another woman in the right.

I kindly slowed so that she’d be able to get into the lane in front of me. Then I’d be able to switch to the right. Unfortunately, she decided to also slow at the same time. We both came to an almost complete stop in the middle of traffic because within the 1 second we saw each other, we couldn’t agree on who should go first (and there wasn’t enough time / space for either of us to accelerate).

When she finally decided to cut in front of me at last moment, I barely missed hitting the back of her car by probably 6 inches. Maybe less. She was visibly upset.

Okay, that’s putting it mildly….

Until I had fully passed her car, I could see her mouthing various profanities at me. Most of them were regarding what she thought I should go do with myself. 🙂

And given how I was intending to act kindly, and she was treating me so poorly, I’m sure you can guess how I responded to her total disregard for my kindness…

I went on with my life.

I pulled into the right lane, drove off on my way, I sensed my heart, felt compassion, and thought to both her and myself:

“I wish you well.”

No matter how difficult life gets, no matter how badly people treat me, that’s one thing I always find helps me (and hopefully them too!)…

“I wish you well.”

It doesn’t right any wrongs. It doesn’t condone actions, nor does it condemn them. It doesn’t eliminate pain or frustration. And it doesn’t make me any more right or wrong than the other person.

“I wish you well” does, however, help me feel better.

It reminds me that I am a co-creator in this world.

It reminds me that if I want to live in a world where others wish live with kindness, it starts with me.

And that new co-created world starts in those moments where my critical ego least wants to wish people well. Still, it’s a start and it has to start somewhere. For me, that place is within.
 
Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

P.S. “I wish you well.” 🙂

Stop Feeling the Way You Know You Shouldn’t – Chris Cade

A while back I shared with you my thoughts about “The LIE About Positive Thinking.”  Today, I’d like to expand on that topic in a different way. Specifically, the question is: Is it okay to have our thoughts?

On the surface, it seems obvious. Of course it’s fine to have our thoughts!

But what if they’re judgmental? Or so anti-Law Of Attraction that they’re negative or hurtful? Shameful? Is it okay to have those thoughts too?

I recall years ago that whenever I wanted to feel a specific kind of emotion, I’d change my music to something that mirrored what I wanted. If I wanted to feel energized, I put on Dream Theater, Van Halen, Metallica, or Robert Miles. If I wanted to feel mellow, I put on some Diana Krall, Enigma, or Enya. For whatever mood I wanted, I put in the music that would take me there.

It wasn’t until I ventured further down my spiritual path that I realized how detrimental that was to myself. I thought I was doing myself a favor by “picking myself up” naturally. Sort of like when you have a bad day, and a friend comes over and says, “Hey, let’s go shopping and get some dessert. Forget that loser ex of yours for a while.”

On the surface, that seems empowering and compassionate. The intention is well. However, all those examples have one thing in common:

Rejection.

Each one of them is rejecting the moment. It’s rejecting the person’s experience. It’s rejecting the possibility that being right where you are is exactly where you’re supposed to be.  It is fundamentally saying to yourself, “Stop feeling the way you know you shouldn’t.” And as I teach in Liberate Your Life, every time you use the word “should” you’re identifying with Your Inner Critic, limiting your growth and minimizing your happiness.

So then what’s the alternative?

Honoring the moment.

Instead of telling yourself how to feel or trying to change how you feel, just accept it. With regards to my music, I found a real deep peace and a kind of magical mystery when I switched my mindset. Instead of finding music to cover up what I felt, to ignore my emotions, to try and transcend them, or try to evade them…

I found myself putting in music that honored exactly who I was in that very moment.

The result was profound. Instead of having an underlying agitated state of rejection and frustration, I was listening to the perfect music for that moment. Because the music was aligned with my inner state, there was a resonance which created a sense of peace.

It seems counter intuitive.

After all, sometimes I’d feel a deep sadness. Maybe an anger. Maybe shame. Delight and joy. Excitement. It could be anything. And yet when I put in music that completely honored the emotion I was experiencing, I also felt peace.

The other emotions didn’t disappear. I didn’t stop feeling sad or angry. What changed was that instead of rejecting my sadness or anger, I was at peace with it…

And that made all the difference.

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

P.S. The amazing thing about accepting our negative thoughts and emotions is that when you do it, when you truly accept them, they naturally transform into a form of empowerment.

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