Dare to live the life you have dreamed for yourself. Go forward and make your dreams come true. Ralph Waldo Emerson
We all have dreams. Well, I have dreams, I’m fairly certain everybody else does as well, but it’s presumptuous of me to assume that they do. The thing about dreams is they’re actually kind of scary. Not the having portion. That part is easy. What’s scary is the going out to make them happen. THAT’S the part that’s scary. It’s huge, that first step. It’s scary because with that first step exists the possibility of failure, and if you fail, then all your dreams are gone. At least that’s what I keep thinking to myself. I have dreams, lots of dreams, and I KNOW I can make them come true, so do you. You have the power in you to make your dreams come true and live the life you are dreaming. You just need to ake that first step.
Happiness is not something ready made. It comes from your own actions. – Dalai Lama
I love listening to people saying things like “so and so is making me so unhappy.” I have this incredible news flash for them. People cannot make you happy, nor can they make you unhappy. Your happiness and/or unhappiness comes directly from you. Don’t get me wrong, the actions and behaviors of other people do impact your feelings, but those feelings are yours, they come from you. You make the choice to be unhappy because of what they did. I know it sounds wrong. If somebody lets you down, you’re unhappy. If somebody does something nice for you, you’re happy. You fall in love, buy a house, get a new car, you’re happy. But guess what, people fall out of love, you move, and cars eventually fall apart. You can’t depend on people or things to make you happy. You need to reach down deep inside of yourself and figure out what makes you happy. You can be happy for a job well done, or happy that you’ve found someone with whom to share your life. But you are not placing your happiness on the other person, it’s on you. Look inside and figure out where your true happiness comes from!
Fear melts when you take action towards a goal you really want. – Robert Allen
I’ll be the first to admit that setting a new goal can be very intimidating. You make that goal, you write it down and then it starts. You start thinking about all the things you have to do. You start to freak out and wonder if you’ll actually accomplish that goal, and then the fears start building up and weighing you down. Well it happens to me, anyhow. The thing is, you can let this fear cripple you, or you can use it to motivate you and push you toward success. Fear can be a tool – you just have to utilize it.
I am not a product of my circumstances. I am a product of my decisions. Stephen Covey
Wow, how much do I LOVE LOVE LOVE this quote! So many people don’t get this concept at all, they believe that because their parents are poor, or on welfare, or dropped out of school that they are destined to do the exact same thing. It’s the exact opposite. That was their parents, it is NOT them. They can choose to stay in school, graduate, and go on to college. This will allow them to get a better paying job so they do’t need to receive assistance, and improve their quality of life. It may not be easy, but it can be done. They are not destined to live their parent’s lives. They simply need to decide to make a different choice. They are NOT a victim of their circumstances.
When I talk with my students about this, they are so quick to say that they’re not going to graduate, and they can’t go to college because their parents didn’t, and they can’t either. I am quick to tell them of course they can. If they apply themselves in high school, they can and will graduate. They can work and go to school, they can apply for financial aid…they can do it. But they have to decide to do it! It’s the same for everybody else. You do not have to be held back by your circumstances. You simply have to decide to have a different life.
I believe that the only courage anybody ever needs is the courage to follow your own dreams. – Oprah Winfrey
When I first read this quote, I was thinking that Oprah had it wrong, but then, when I thought about it, I realized that she has it right. To think independently, create your own vision and follow it through takes an inordinate amount of courage. It is so much easier to follow the crowd like a minion, or a mindless drone. Following your own path takes a strenght and courage that few possess. But the rewards are unlimited. When you are courageous enough to follow your on path, you will find that you are capabel of accomplishing great and amazing things.
No matter how impossible, unattainable, or unimaginable something may seem, if it’s meant to be, it’ll be.
Have you ever had a dream (or a day dream) and then shook yourself and said that’s never going to happen? I want to ask why? Why do you assume it’s not going to happen? Have faith in the impossible, the unimaginable or the unattainable! Those things can happen. If it’s meant to be it will be. The first step is to believe. Believe with all your heart…truly believe and you’ve taken that first and biggest step to make it happen.
Every single person on the planet has a story. Don’t judge people before you truly know them. The truth might surprise you.
I love the appropriateness of this quote in the wake of the sequel of To Kill A Mockingbird by Harper Lee. In the novel, Atticus Finch says “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view – until you climb into his skin and walk around in it.” Both quotes are pretty much saying the same thing, and are extremely profound. You never know what’s happening in a person’s life. You have no idea what is going on in their heads, the drama they are facing or the struggles they are dealing with. Even if they tell you, you still won’t know because it’s not happening to you, it’s happening to them. So cut people some slack, and don’t judge people based upon one interaction. Take the time to understand and get to know them. You might learn something that surprises you.
Stop asking “Why am I still stuck in this situation?” and start asking “What do I need to learn from this situation?”
We all get stuck in situations we’re not thrilled with, and we’ve all had things not go quite the way we planned. When that happens, how do you react. I know that I personally can tend to have a pity party for myself. I’m not saying don’t do that. I can’t very well tell people they shouldn’t do something that I do all the time. That would be the height of hypocrisy. Take a minute, have your pity party. In fact, invite me if you want, I’ll be sure in bring the cookies. But then, stop, take a look around and try and figure out why you are where you are, and what you can learn from it. Once you start learning, you’ll probably find a way to move past the less than stellar thing you’re stuck in, and with luck, you’ll learn enough to not get stuck (in that situation) again.
If you want to live a happy life, tie it to a goal, not to people or things. Albert Einstein
Did you ever think that if I could just date so and so, my life would be perfect, or thing about how great your life would be if you had that new car, or moved to a bigger house? Wanting to achieve more is great, but having a bigger house, or a newer car is not the key to happiness, or it shouldn’t be. The happiness should come from the achieving, not the getting. The getting is kind of like the icing on the cake, but the cake – the real substance is the happiness and pride you should feel in saying, “I said I was going to do this, and I did.” Be proud of yourself for accomplishing something!