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Take Control

Learn from the past, set vivid, detailed goals for the future, and live in the only moment of time over which you have any control: now. – Denis Waitley

take controlI got nothing tonight. It was open house and I wasted 3 hours of my life and only had 2 parents show up. I’m going to bed because bed is where I belong.  Before I do, I’m going to talk a bit about the fact that we all need to take control.

This is your life, and I get that there are lots of outside influences pushing you here, and pulling you there.  Take control, and block out those outside influences as much as you can.  You can’t change the past, you can’t predict the future.  You can only control the now.

So take control of your life.  Own your past mistakes and learn from them.  Set goals and reach for them, and live your life they way you want!

Focus on Moving Forward

Don’t dwell on what went wrong. Instead, focus on what to do next. Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer. – Denis Waitley

focus on the futureLife is kind of messy.  Things go wrong, and get messed up.  When that happens, I know my immediate reaction is to focus on everything that didn’t go according to plan.  Don’t get stuck focusing on what went wrong. Instead, focus on moving forward.  Figure out where you can go from here.

I know it’s hard, though.  Sometimes it seems like we’re hard wired to focus on our mistakes.  I know at least I do.  I beat myself up over them, and I get stuck in the past reliving them over and over again.  Don’t be like me, lol.  Mistakes happen, figure out what you did, what went wrong and how you can fix it or make it not happen again.  Then you focus on moving forward.

I have to tell you something.  We’re human beings.  We’re not perfect.  We’re messy, and wonderfully imperfect.  Instead of getting hung up on everything you think you do that is wrong think about all the great things you do every day.  And if a plan doesn’t go – well – according to plan, that’s okay too.  Embrace the mistake.  Who knows, something wonderful may come from it, and if it doesn’t, hey, that’s okay too.  Don’t get hung up on the past, focus on the future.

You Are The Author

You are your own scriptwriter and the play is never finished, no matter what your age or position in life.
Denis Waitley

I love the idea of this.  You are the author of your life story, not anybody else.  I know a lot of times it doesn’t feel like it.  In fact, a lot of times, it feels You are the authorlike everybody else is writing your story and you’re nothing but a bit player. Though it may seem that way, you have to remember that you are the author. Nobody else is, and you have to make sure nobody else is writing your story for you.

No matter what is going on in your life, you have the power to make changes.  That’s what I mean by you are the author.  You can make changes.  They may not be big changes, but little changes add up.  In fact lots of little changes will probably make a bigger impact than one big giant change.  Make one small change and get used to it.  Then make another, and then another. All those little changes will change your story, and change your life.

You are the author so start writing the story that you like.  You don’t need an outline or a synopsis, you just need to start making the changes.  Little by little, one by one, and watch and see how your story changes.  You probably won’t get a Nobel Prize for literature when writing your own life story.  But you will get something better – the life of your dreams.



You Have to Believe

Belief is the ignition switch that gets you off the launching pad. – Denis Waitley

you have to believeYou have to believe.  When you were little, it was the tooth fairy and Santa Claus, and that belief made amazing things happen.  Teeth placed under pillows turned into coins and stockings that you hang up at night are filled with goodies in the morning.  Yes, mum and dad did all that, but the magic was in the fact that you believed.


You have to believe.  No matter what, if you don’t believe it, it’s not going to happen.  You have a dream job you want to get?  Step one, believe you’re going to get it.  There are lots of other things you have to do, like apply, and have the skills and training to do the job, but first and foremost, you have to believe that the job is yours.


You have to believe.  Believe, have faith, I don’t care what you want to call it, but you have to have it.  It’s the start of everything.  Waitley says it’s the ignition switch, but more than that, I think it’s the fuel for the rocket.  It starts with belief in yourself.  When you believe in yourself, you can accomplish great things, you just have to believe.

Find Your Happiness

Happiness cannot be traveled to, owned, earned, or worn. It is the spiritual experience of living every minute with love, grace and gratitude. – Denis Waitley

Don’t ask me why, but in my my head, I have the Partridge Family singing “Come on Get Happy” while I read this quote. What can I say, I’m old, and David Cassidy was my first crush.  I really wish I could just hope on that very colorful bus and Mrs. Partridge could just drive me to my happiness.  find your happinessHowever, it doesn’t work that way, much to my everlasting chagrin and dismay. You have to find your happiness, and chances are you’ll find it within yourself.  It’s not something you can drive to, or that anyone can just hand you.  It would be so much easier if that were the case.

Happiness is very subjective, and it’s very personal.  What makes me happy may not make others happy. I think we find our happiness when we’re with people that we love, or bring us joy, or when we’re doing something that we love or brings us joy.  It’s not the money that we have, or the things that we buy.  Money makes life easier, but it doesn’t make it happier.

Happiness also comes when you are grateful for what you do have.  I live in a very small condo, but guess what, I have a place to live.  My student loan debt is about as big as the gross national debt of the United States, but I have an amazing education.  I can focus on those negative things, but I’m not.  I’m grateful for what I DO have instead of focusing what I don’t.  Gratitude is a big step to take on the path to happiness.  It’s also a very challenging one because it’s easier to be ungrateful rather than grateful.

So when you’re looking for your happiness, find it within yourself.  Do things that you love, and spend time with people that bring you joy, and express gratitude for what you have rather than focusing on what you don’t.  Remember, happiness is closer than you think, it’s within you!



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