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Your happy, positive feelings will attract happy, positive circumstances.

originally posted 9/3/10
I’m sitting here wondering what can I say about this that hasn’t been said thousands of times before, and I’ve got nothing. I think we all pretty much GET it. I mean it’s not rocket science after all. If you are thinking happy, good positive, thoughts, you’re going to attract happy good, positive things to you. But what do you do when your car breaks down and the repair cost is twice what is in your checking account, and the kids need new school supplies and your hours got cut at work? What then? How in the world are you supposed to have all these happy, positive thoughts when your world is basically imploding around you?

I’ll tell you, it’s NOT easy, but it can be done. Try and find even one sliver of good in all that’s going wrong. Okay, sure your car broke, but at least you have a car. Sure, buying things for your kids for school is a drain on the budget, but you have healthy, happy kids who are going to school and learning. And maybe your hours are being cut at work but you still have a job. Or maybe you can just look outside your window and find beauty and happiness in a bird that is flying by. Whatever it is, find that one happy thought and latch on to it. Then start looking for another one, and another one. Focus on them, not all the other things that are going wrong. Little by little, you’ll find that you’re replacing all that negative energy that’s coursing through your body with happier feelings. Now I’ll be honest, you may not find immediate solutions to all your difficulties, but I’m betting you’ll find that it’s a little bit easier to cope.

Triangles of Inner Happiness and Outer Distraction – Chris Cade

by Chris Cade

24 hours in the day. Doesn’t seem like much does it?

Doctors recommend 8 hours of sleep. So we’re down to 16 hours a day.

Most mortals spend at least 3 hours a day buying, preparing and eating food. 13 hours left.

And if you work 9-5… that leaves 5 hours.

Five hours isn’t bad. Sadly, there are probably many people in the world who’d cut off a finger for ONE hour a day of free time. They’d give their whole hand for five hours.

In five hours, you can easily improve the three corners of the Triangle of Inner Happiness…

  1. Develop your body
  2. Optimize your mind
  3. Progress spiritually

…and still have two hours left over for sanding the corners on Triangle of Outer Distraction…

  • TV shows and novels
  • Facebook and Twitter
  • Conversation and socializing

Thing is… most people spend all five hours being distracted.

Life is way too short for too many distractions…

Am I saying you should cancel your internet connection? Should grab some pork and beans move out to cabin in Northern Alaska?

No. Nothing wrong with technology. Nothing wrong with people.

It’s really a matter of what are you doing with people.

Are you working with others to improve yourself and the world around you?

Or are you just “hanging out” or “playing cards’?

Are you using Facebook and email to communicate with like-minded people who can really help grow?

Or are you clicking your way to the grave?

Thing is… the world is designed to keep us as busy as possible just surviving. With what time is left over society quickly fills with distractions.

It’s not easy to liberate oneself. Not with will power alone.

You need a good environment. Good company is key to making the most of the time you’ve got.

Sometimes you can’t change your current circumstances. Many of us dream of moving to some commune with windmills and meditations. But for many it’s not possible. You may be stuck with a family hooked on TV and McDonald’s.

But there’s nothing stopping you from bringing positive company into your home.

How? Reading.

Reading with deep concentration can provide a powerful buffer against the negative influences around us. Be armed with good reading material at all times. You can easily fill idle moments with life-changing guidance.

And having strategies in place to deal with the world’s endlessly clever series of distractions is also crucial. I believe you need to consciously optimize your life if you want to achieve your most important goals.

I’ve compiled 24.5 strategies for freeing up those five hours a day. I use these strategies myself.

Everybody around you is complaining that “there’s no time.”

It’s time to get another opinion.

It’s time to make a new friend.

Check out my digital book, Optimize Your Life:

Click Here To Find Out More

ONE good book can outweigh TEN negative companions.

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

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What About Love?

I’ve been thinking a lot about love lately.  What it is, what it means, what’s it’s like to have it, and what it’s like to not have it in your life, and of course the different kinds of love.

Lets start with the types of love.  There is the love you share with friends, there is passionate love, there is romantic love, familial love and unrequited love just to name a few.

I’m lucky that I have lots of love in my life.  I have great friends, and I have two amazing and wonderful kids.  I am rich when it comes to love.  I’ve had passionate love and romantic love and I’ve even had unrequited love.  And all of them are good.  Yes, all of them – even the unrequited love.

I had crushes on boys when I was a little girl.  Boys who didn’t even know I was alive, and I had crushes on movie stars and singers.  Yes David Cassidy and Donny Osmond, I’m talking to you.  And yes, as an adult, there have been people I loved deeply, with all my heart that just didn’t love me back.

At first, I thought unrequited love was a horrible and terrible thing.  Here I was, seven years old, holding my Partridge Family lunch box waiting for David Cassidy to drive up and his limo and take me away, and he never came.  And when I was older, Scott Baio never came, and that cute boy in my study hall never did ask me to the prom.

This got me to thinking, is unrequited love a bad thing?  My automatic response was “Heck yeah, it’s bad, it hurts!  Of course it’s bad.” But then I started to really think about it, and I’ve come to the conclusion that unrequited love is not a bad thing at all.  Any type of love is good because the more we love, the bigger our capacity to love is.  The more we use our heart, the more it expands, and the more it expands, the more love it can give and received.  Kind of like the Grinch’s heart on How the Grinch Stole Christmas.

But it’s not just unrequited love that makes your heart grow. It’s every kind of love.  Love is good, and love is expandable, and love, well it grows exponentially.  The more love you have, and the more love you give way, the more love you get.  So open your heart to love, and share that love and watch and cherish the love that comes back to you.

 

Happy Thoughts

Let a series of happy thoughts run through your mind. They will show on your face. – unknown

I want you to try something for a minute. Think about eating a lemon. Imagine the tart juice filling your mouth. Feel it tingling on your tongue and smell the sharp citrusy scent in your mind. Now think about your face. It puckered up, didn’t it? If you’re like most people, you actually made a face like you were sucking on a lemon.

Now take a second and think about the happiest thought you can possibly think.  Kind of like Harry Potter getting ready so summon his Patronus.  To summon a Patronus, you have to think the happiest thought you’ve ever had.  Now think about your face.  Is it still puckered up like you’re tasting a lemon?  Or, is it more relaxed, with maybe the hint of a msile on it?  Now, we’re not trying to repel Dementors like Harry Potter, but we are trying to repel negative thoughts.  When you’re thinking negative thoughts, they show on your face.  Your brow may be furrowed, or your mouth may be drawn, and people notice that you’re unhappy.  When you think happy thoughts, they show on your face, your eyes light up, and your mouth smiles and people know you’re happy, and in turn, they start to feel better just by being around you.  So keep thinking the happy thoughts and let them shine through and light up the world

Chris Cade – Happiness is where the Heart is

From Chris Cade

What would your life be like if you said and believed, “Today is a good day” independent of what actually happened to you? The answer to that question is what it means to be truly happy. However, if you want to discover the answer then you have to ask another question that goes deeper:

“What does my heart truly want?”

It is in the wanting that you discover how to feel truly lasting happiness. Society, and your life’s conditioning, have falsely led you to believe that the wantings of your heart must be fulfilled in order for you to be filled with happiness.

But nothing could be further from the truth…

How often have you heard about millionaires who are unhappy, even though they have “everything” anybody could ever want? The reason: Money can never buy what it represents. You hope that by having the money you will be happier, when in reality, most people would gladly give up all the money in the world just to be happy. Continue reading “Chris Cade – Happiness is where the Heart is” »

Gearing up for a new week

I had an incredibly insanely busy weekend.  I’m a single parent and as such, all the to-ing and fro-ing of my kids falls to me.  And let me say, they are very busy kids.  I was sitting down a little while ago, queuing up the daily positive thoughts for the week and to be honest, I was feeling a little bit sorry for myself.  We spent yesterday at a college fair and today, I don’t think I was out of my car for more than 15 minutes at a time.  I was mopey and sulky and wondering when I was going to get some time to myself to relax and kick back (and maybe play some Angry Birds).

Then I gave myself the proverbial Gibbs slap to the back of the head (yes I watch way too much NCIS) and I started looking at all the sulky things and turning them around.

Yes, I spent all day yesterday at a college fair with my kids, but hey, that means I have two great, smart kids who are planning for their future.  Today, I had to drop my kids at school for a parade, do the grocery shopping, pick up the kids after they parade, drop my daughter at work, come home, go to a wake, come back home, pick my daughter up from work and fix dinner.  Oh and somewhere in there, I did laundry.

Sure I had to drive my kids to school to march in a parade, but HEY, my kids belong to one of the largest high school bands east of the Mississippi, and they just came back from marching in the Tournament of Roses Parade.  I had to drive my daughter to work, but guess what, she has a job, which is pretty amazing considering how busy she is.  Going to a wake was sad, but it made me realize how fortunate I am that my own mother is still alive and major part of my life.  Cooking dinner?  Yeah, I have to do that every night, but that means we have food to cook and a place in which to cook it.  The same for laundry…it has to be done, but that means I have clothes to wear.

So yeah, it was a crazy mad weekend, but when you think about it, it’s all good.

 

Success and Happiness

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful. – Albert Schweitzer

There are people who believe that success is the key to happiness.  They think if they have things they’re happy.  It’s true that having things can make life EASIER but it doesn’t necessarily make it happier.  True happiness comes when you love what your doing. When you get up in the morning, you can’t WAIT to go to work or do what you need to do, then you know you’re successful.

I used to have a job that I loved.  I’d be sitting at my desk working and I felt like there was a symphony inside of my just trying to burst out of me.  I smiled all day. It was truly the best job ever.  Did I have a lot of things and did I make a lot of money?  The answer to that was a redounding NO, but I was so HAPPY that I didn’t care that I didn’t have a brand new car and a beautiful house to live in.  I had a car, I had a place to live and I had a job that I LOVED.  I was so successful.

Times changed, the job changed, I was making more money, but I wasn’t happy any longer I wasn’t successful.  Life changed and I changed.  I’ve since made changes in my life and again I’m successful because I’m happy.  If a giant raise comes my way, or I hit the lottery, that will be great and yes, life will be easier, but I won’t be any more successful than I am right this very second – and right this very second, I’m pretty darn successful because I’m incredibly happy with the person that I am.

True Happiness

You can’t depend on anyone else for your happiness. True happiness comes from within.

This is so true.  So often people get caught up in thinking that they’ll be happy if they have this thing, or that job, or they’re dating that person.  Those things are all great and their the icing on the happiness cake.  The true happiness, that happiness cake, comes from within.  Nothing and nobody can make you be truly happy.  You need to find that happiness inside of you.  Take a good look at yourself, at the person that you are and figure out what is going to make you happy.  Is it your job that makes you happy, or the satisfaction you get from doing your job well.  It’s nice and it’s great if your boss says “Hey, good job,” but that is nothing compared to the joy and satisfaction you get when you’ve done something and you KNOW you’ve done it well.

So look inside yourself and find out what it is that makes you truly happy and celebrate it.  Once you figure it out, those other external things that make you happy will be just that much more sweet and enjoyable, you know, kind of like icing!

Choose Happiness

We can choose to be happy or chose to be miserable. Both take the same amount of work. So choose to be happy.

We have so many choices to make in our lives. What to wear, what to eat, what to watch, what to drink, what to do – the list goes on and on and on. What we don’t really think about is the fact that we have the choice to be happy, or the choice to be miserable. They both take effort, so why would anybody take the time and effort to be miserable? Are crappy things going to happen in your life? Probably. When they do, instead of expending the energy to wallow in your misery, why not take that same amount of energy and work to make yourself feel better?

Surrounded by Negative People

Have you ever known a person who is perpetually down?  Someone who seems to just suck all the happiness from all around you?  I remember when I was a kid, there was a cartoon on Saturday mornings – The Pebbles and Bam Bam Show.  One of the characters was named Hardrock Schleprock, and he walked around with a storm cloud over his head, bad things were always happening to him and he was perhaps the saddest most depressed character I’ve ever seen.  I always thought he was just a typical cartoon exaggeration, but he wasn’t. There are people like that in real life.  People who are always sad and depressed, or people who are always angry and bitter.    They’re what I call fun-suckers.  They suck the fun out of EVERYTHING!  How do you DEAL with people like that?

It’s simple, really.   For every negative thought or comment they voice, turn it around and make it a positive.  You can do this out loud, or you can do this internally.  Also, smile – a LOT.  A smile is such a great defense against negativity. 

Don’t let these fun-suckers get you down.  Happiness and positiveness are so much more powerful than negativity. 

You can do this – you can put the fun back in life.

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