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Who Are You

I know for sure that what we dwell on is who we become.
– Oprah Winfrey

Who are you? If you’re like most people you have probably asked yourself that question at least a couple of times.  The Law of Attraction, and Oprah for the sake of this quote, say you become what you focus upon, and to some extent I think that’s true.  I actually talked about it with my students this past week in school.  We had watched the movie Cinderella Man and were talking about what it means to have a positive attitude.  One thing I wanted the kids to come away with is that a positive attitude doesn’t necessarily mean rainbows, fluffy bunnies and unicorns.  A positive attitude is when you work to make the best of what you have, or what life tosses at you.

In the movie, Jimmy Braddock, played by Russell Crowe had been given a rough row to hoe during the Depression.  Through out the movie, we see that it would have been so easy to just give up, but in the words of one of my students, he just “lived his best life.”  Jimmy Braddock didn’t dwell on what he didn’t have, or what he had lost.  He just kept working to make it better.  To me that is exactly what this quote is talking about.

You are, or you become what you are thinking about and focusing upon.  So really it’s up to you to decide who you are.  Focus on the things that are good, the things that make you strong and the things that help you live your best life, and you will absolutely have your best life.

Create the Life You Want

Create the highest, grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe. – Oprah Winfrey

I’m a believer in the Law of Attraction, as I’ve stated many times before.  And according to the LoA, you attract into your life what you are focusing on.  Well if that’s true, why not create the life you want?  Why not create the most wonderful, amazing life ever? Create the best possible life you could ever imagine.

create the life you wantAnd what if you don’t believe in the Law of Attraction.  Hey, that’s fine.  You still should create the life you want.  If you’re happy, truly happy with the way your life is now, that’s fantastic.  I am very happy for you.  But if you’re not happy, why not take the opportunity to make some changes and start making your life better.  If you aren’t happy do something about it! If you have a job that you don’t like, first, be happy you have a job!  Having a job is kind of an important thing, but if you’re not happy, you don’t have to stay at that job.  Start looking around, hit the job sites, and network.  It’s never too late to try something new.  You may have to add to your skill set, but that’s okay.  Personally, I love learning new things.

If you’re not happy with your relationship, or your relationship status you can change it.  It’s not easy, I’m not claiming that at all, but if it’s something you want, you are worth the time and effort it takes to get it.  This is your chance to create the life you want.  It begins with you.  The first step is deciding that you want to make a change.  Then decide what you want.  Those are the easy part.  The hard part is taking that next step.  The step where you start making changes.  But you don’t have to do it alone.

Since you’re reading this, it’s safe to assume you have internet access, and with that access, you have, at your fingertips access to just about everything. And by everything I mean the information you need to make changes in your life.  You don’t have to do it alone, either.  There are plenty of groups and meet ups, life coaches, churches and support groups where you can go for help.  Back when I was a kid, we had to let our fingers do the walking in the yellow pages, now you can let your fingers do the typing.

This is your life.  It belongs to you, not anybody else.  So why not live the life you want.  Imagine the best, most wonderful life you could ever imagine.  Don’t skimp on the details.  Really put your heart and soul in to imagining it in your vision.  Create the life you want first in your mind, and then in life.

Celebrate and Praise Life

The more you praise and celebrate your life, the more there is in life to celebrate. – Oprah Winfrey

I’m having one of those days where the last thing I want to do is celebrate and praise my life. In fact what I want to do is put on my grumpy face and celebrate and praise lifegrumble and moan my way throughout my day.  And that want is precisely why I’m going to celebrate and praise life.

It’s hard when what you want to do, be grumpy in my case, is directly at odds with what you should do. Even though I am feeling like I have nothing at all worth celebrating, I’m going to take a step back and make a list.  Lists are a great tools.  I use them to get things done, but I also use them to help me see things in a much clearer way.  It’s good to have an arsenal of tools at the ready especially the multi taskers, and list making is a multi tasker for sure!

So what do you do when you feel like you have nothing  to celebrate and praise in life?  Well first, you’re alive, and that’s HUGE.  You may not think so right now, but trust me, it is.  You are special and you bring something special to this word, just by being in it.  So take a good hard look at who you are and what you’re doing.  You have plenty of things to celebrate and praise.  And do you want to know something that’s really cool? The more things you find to celebrate in your life, the more things there are to celebrate.

So even when you’re down and glum, or mad and angry, take stock of the good things in your life.  Be glad for them – and truly celebrate them.  You’ll feel better and you’ll find that you bring more happiness and joy to your life.

 

 

Challenges are Gifts

Challenges are gifts that force us to search for a new center of gravity. Don’t fight them. Just find a different way to stand. – Oprah Winfrey

Challenges are gifts? Yes, I suppose when you look at them the right way they are.  For me challenges mean change, and change is something I struggle with.  I think a lot of people do.  When there is change, there is fear of the unknown. We need to try and look at it differently.

challenges are giftsIn the bible there is a verse that says God doesn’t give you challenges you can’t handle.  At first when I was thinking about that, and today’s quote, I was up in arms and totally disagreeing.  Then, I started to think.

We can handle any challenge life throws at us!

It’s all in our ability to be flexible and roll with the punches. Stop looking at challenges and changes as if they were punishments, or if the world is working against you.  When life is throwing things at you, take a second to regroup.  Change your focus, or as Oprah suggests, change your center of gravity.  Talk to people, ask for help.  A new perspective from someone can go a long way in helping figure things out.

Challenges are gifts.

They are.  I know when you’re sitting here thinking about some of the challenges that have popped up in your life, you’re probably thinking that I’m nuts.  Well yeah, I probably am, but I also believe that if you change your way of thinking, you’ll be able to conquer just about anything life is going to throw at you.  The first thing to do is to stop looking at your challenges as if they are punishments. Instead, think your challenges are gifts.  They are there to encourage you to think in new ways, and to reach out and enlist help from people. We as humans aren’t solitary creatures.  We’re supposed to work together, so when life gives you a challenge reach out – I’m sure you’ll find plenty of people who want to help you.

I know I’m a big one to talk.  I literally hate changes, and I fight them tooth and nail.  But you know what? That doesn’t get me anywhere.  The changes still happen, and I’m absolutely miserable. It’s something I need to work on.  We’re going though some huge changes at my school, and I’m starting to realize I can fight them tooth and nail, or I can embrace them and give them my all. I’m going to view the challenges as gifts, find my new center of gravity, my new way to stand and face them head on.  And if I can do it, so can you!

 

You Get What You Give

What I know for sure is that what you give comes back to you. – Oprah Winfrey

I almost wasn’t going to write today because you get what you give.  This is just a common sense thing.  Then I came to school today and I had a kid in an absolutely foul mood giving me a huge amount of attitude.  I didn’t give it back – it’s wrong, and it’s not going to solve anything.  I was calm, compassionate and polite, and still I got attitude.  Why?  I wasn’t giving attitude, I was getting it back.  Well sometimes, we have to take into account you get what you givewhat may have happened prior.  Which is what was going on in this case.  The student in question had an issue with someone else and I was the next person to come into contact with them.

How do you deal then?  When you’re getting back exactly opposite of what you’re giving out?  To me, that answer is super simple.  You keep giving out the good stuff, because in the end, you will get it back.  It may not be today, it may not be tomorrow, but it will happen.  Please don’t think I’m little Mary Sunshine walking around with a smile on my face and the Disney birds chirping around behind me and putting wreaths of flowers in my hair.  Please, I suffer from resting bitch face, I’m sarcastic as hell and an evil bitch monster of death in the morning.  But I always try to treat people nicely.  Even when they’re giving me crap, I try to be nice, especially in the face of crankiness.  I don’t always succeed, but I try.

When it comes right down to it, you see it every day.  If you treat someone nicely, chances are they’re going to be nice to you.  If you present a positive attitude to the world, you’re going to get positive goodness right back.  It doesn’t cost anything, and it’s just as easy to be happy as it is to be cranky, so why not go for happy?  After all, you get what you give.

Your Life, Your Choice – Challenge Day 28

Don’t live your life to please other people. – Oprah Winfrey

I have a love hate relationship when it comes to choices.  I love having choices, but I hate making decisions.  Most of the time, I’m fairly content to go along with what others want. This is usually where to go to eat, or what time to get together.  You know, the low key stuff.  There were a couple of your life, your choicetimes when I started to go along with other people for some big decisions, and they turned into unmitigated disasters.  I’ll not waste your time with the whys and wherefores of what happened. What I will do is tell you don’t.  Don’t go along with what other people want and think just to make them happy.  Your primary concern is your happiness, and you are the person you have to please.  I know our initial response is to want other people to like us and be happy with us, and the easiest way to do that is to do what they want.  Well, I’m telling you that you have to choose your own happiness above and beyond the happiness of others.  Because when it comes right down to it, if you’re not happy, the people around you won’t really be happy.  Again, I’m not saying don’t compromise, not at all.  But you also can’t go against what you believe just to make other people happy.  Your life, your choices, your successes and your failures.  Life your life to please you and put your happiness first. In the end everyone around you will be happier as well.

Now, I am not talking about doing something that is illegal, or neglecting responsibilities or anything like that.  But when it comes time to pick a course of study in college, or apply for a job, or even buy a house.  Think hard about what you want, and not what the wants of those people around you.  Sure your in-laws would be over the moon if you bought the place across the street, but are you ready to live in an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond?  Probably not. And will you really be happy working in the family mortuary business if you hate seeing dead people?  I don’t think so.  This is the only life you get, so live it for you, and not anybody else!!

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