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2 Questions that will Change Your Life

Today’s guest post was written by Erin Dickson an amazing life coach.

2 Questions That Will Change Your Life…

Erin Dickson

Gravity Life Coaching

 

 

 

When I was a few years out of college and stuck in a dead-end job – I was contemplating going back to graduate school to be a Guidance Counselor.  I knew I wanted to be a Guidance Counselor, but the process of getting there was a bit overwhelming. 

 

I was living in an apartment by myself, working 2 jobs and discovered that I would need to do a 600-hour unpaid internship.  It was so overwhelming to look at the big picture –  because all I could think about was what could go wrong.  How could I possibly take a 6 month long unpaid full-time internship while paying rent? 

 

That’s the question I was living in and that’s the question that stopped me from moving forward for so long.

 

When I was finally able to start living in a different question, I discovered how to move forward.  I wanted it to be a possibility, I wanted to make it happen and I knew that others made it happen.  If others made it happen, why couldn’t I?  

 

So, I started asking different questions.  Rather than focusing on how it couldn’t work, I started working with a solution focused approach –

 

“If I believed it were possible, and if I believed I couldn’t fail, what would I do next?” 

 

That question opened up a whole new world of possibilities.   I stopped focusing on how I would fail and started focusing on what it might look like if I succeeded.  That was such a cooler place to be…

 

What I would do next, was easy.  I started the application process and took my first class.  Easy.  Then my second class, then my third class.  As I began to get further into the program, I decided that I loved my classes, I couldn’t wait to be a Guidance Counselor!  Nothing was going to stop me at that point. 

 

I moved from “what if I can’t?” to “what if I can?” Two questions – two completely different results.

 

As the internship grew closer I dropped my full-time job – I found an apartment for $350/month and my waitressing job seriously saved my ass!  I got through my internship and got a job as soon as I finished. 

 

I focused on the possible success, not the possible failure. 

 

If I had started with “I could never do that” then I never would have.  I would be stuck in my routine world of comfort – but not awesomeness.  We need to remember to live in awesomeness – this life is too short for routine and mundane.

 

Change your language and your mind will follow.  Ask yourself different questions, live in a world of “what if I succeed – what would that look like?”, not “what if I fail”…because if you live the question “what if I fail”, you’ll never move from where you are today.  If where you are today is awesome, then cool – hang out there.  For too many people…it’s not awesome YET.

 

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What Inspires You When Nothing Else Can? – Chris Cade

My friend Jaime Mintun recently posted on her blog, “What Inspires You When Nothing Else Can?” I got to thinking about that question rather seriously, and what I discovered was interesting.

The spirit of the question was intended as “When you can’t get yourself going, what do you do to get going?” Inspirational quotes, thoughts, videos, poems, stories, etc.

And while I use those on a regular basis, if we don’t take them in fully, they become just more platitudes and cliches for false positive thinking (like my recent email, “The LIE about positive thinking.”)

In my serious discovery, I decided to take the question further and explore it from a “Dark Night of the Soul” perspective. In other words, what can we do when we experience life as so beyond miserable that NOTHING else can inspire us?

The answer surprised me…

When *nothing* else can, only 1 thing works: entertaining distraction.

That’s because when life seems miserable, your mind is so consumed by a negative state that it can’t even recognize there’s a positive aspect to the world. This negativity becomes a habit so bound to your psychological state that it can only be broken by completely severing your connection to that negativity.

That isn’t easy because it requires an equal and opposite consuming force.

Something so consuming that you completely forget about the negativity long enough to break the downward spiral your mind is in.

And in a moment where you lack even the basic self-awareness to realize you’re in a deeply negative state and you don’t want to be, there’s almost nothing you can do to bring yourself up.

That’s why in my experience with extreme circumstances, entertainment and distraction are the keys to opening that door. It becomes a way that the mind can literally “forget” about the negativity. All it takes is a small crack to let a little bit of the light in.

There’s two things to keep in mind about this though:

(1) Make sure that your entertaining distraction includes humor and/or inspiration.

No horror movies. No purely action flicks. No dramas. All of those will only serve to reinforce your negative state in one way or another.

Instead, fill your mind with stories of success and triumph. Fill your heart with moments of laughter and joy. In other words: choose something that can help align you with the way you’d like to live.

(2) Don’t make the entertaining distraction a habit of its own.

When you do that, you’re only trading one distraction for another. And while it may feel better, it perpetuates the lie of positive thinking. That keeps you from living a truly happy and fulfilled life.

Instead, see the entertaining distraction as a momentary gateway to lift you up. From that initial lift, start re-using your personal transformation tools: meditation, affirmations, brainwave entrainment, EFT, and whatever else you can think of.

The entertainment and distraction won’t heal the fundamental problems that brought you into a negative state. Only self-awareness has that ability.

Still, when you find yourself completely down and out… in a negative hole you can’t find your way out of — find an entertaining distraction. And if at all possible, one that will make you laugh.

If you can find a laugh, you can find a light. 🙂

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

P.S. Out of curiousity, what inspires you when nothing else can? Press REPLY and let me know!

Four Simple Steps to Success

by Chris cade

That may sound overly simplistic, but it’s true. Just four simple steps will guarantee success in any aspect of life.

All you have to do is…

  1. Know what you really want (your goals)
  2. Take action towards your goals
  3. Notice what results you’re getting
  4. Correct your course whenever you notice things are not working

Of course like any great spiritual truth, knowing the steps is easy. Living them… not so much. For example: How do you figure out what you really want? And what if you’re finding it difficult to take action? Or even worse, taking the wrong kinds of actions towards your goals?

My personal experience is that the above steps correlate with very specific aspects of our development.

  1. Knowing your desires comes from self awareness
  2. Taking action happens naturally when self-sabotaging subconscious blockages have been removed
  3. Noticing results comes again from self awareness
  4. Correcting course happens naturally when self-sabotaging subconscious blockages have been removed

In other words, you can sum up success into two basic principles:

Cultivate self-awareness and remove subconscious blockages that cause you to sabotage your own best-efforts.

 

But That’s Not Spiritual – Chris Cade

by Chris Cade

I can’t count the number of times in the past that I’ve thought to myself something wasn’t “spiritual.” In my case, a lot of it had to do with work and not getting enough sleep.

I didn’t think that working could be spiritual (after all, it’s just money, right?). When I had really bad sleep problems and insomnia, I didn’t think sleep was “spiritual.” Sleep was just another thing on the “to do” list in my already too-few-hours in a day.I

thought my job was separate from my spiritual life. I thought that what I ate, how I ate it, and whether I exercised was physical (NOT SPIRITUAL).  I believed my friendships and relationships weren’t spiritual. And the reason I thought those things weren’t “spiritual” is because they didn’t fit into my idea of what was spiritual.

I only considered things like “meditation” or “seminars” or “workshops” to be spiritual. If I wasn’t doing those things, then whatever I was doing was not “spiritual.”

I was always separating in my mind, heart, and in my life, what was spiritual from what was not. And whether we realize it or not (I didn’t at the time), this kind of separation is actually quite painful. Most of that pain is subconscious, but it’s still living with an underlying state of pain.

That was a few years ago when I held those beliefs close to my heart.  Fortunately, since then I’ve discovered more about myself and what is spiritual (to me).  In fact, now I can’t separate spirituality from any of those things. Spirituality, for me, includes every moment of every day.

Every breath. Every bite. Every message I share with you. Everything I read. Everyone I meet. Spirituality is infused with everything I do. To be candid, while I know it is infused with all I do, I don’t always consciously recognize it.

That’s my real inner work: to experience that in all I do… to go beyond the concept, beyond the moments of recognition, and enter a state of constant integration with that truth.

“We are not physical beings on a spiritual journey. We are spiritual beings on a physical journey.”

In varying forms, that quote has been attributed to many people. And with good reason. It is ineffective to sit high in a mountain and meditate to feel inner peace, if we can’t bring that peace with us to everything we do. For example, how effective is feeling happy if the only time we feel happy is when we’re NOT living our daily life?

Please keep in mind that this is not a judgment about people, such as monks, who choose a monastic life. We all make our choices about what is right for us. It’s not about “good” or “bad” but rather about what is “effective” or “ineffective” in helping us inscribe the life of our dreams.

What I’m talking about is you and me living where we live. In the cities, suburbs, small towns, fields, farms, everywhere… we have chosen to be “a part” (not “apart”) of our society. That means we have the realities in our life of finances, relationships, and our physical well-being.

I have noticed in my own life that when I am mindful and conscious of my environment, the people in my life, and myself, then miracles happen. I truly am much happier.

Further, once I finally realized the limiting beliefs and lies I told myself about work and financial abundance, I also became much happier. No longer was I saying “work isn’t spiritual” and “money isn’t spiritual.” Instead, I began to see all my work and income earning as opportunities to practice spirituality. I saw them as opportunities to bring my love into everything I do and share it with everyone I meet.

Speaking of “sharing,” I thank you from the deepest reaches of my soul for being a part of my spiritual journey and for honoring me with the privilege of being of service to you. I hope that you have a delightfully “spiritual” day. 🙂

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your LIfe

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Old? Get Out! New? Bring it on!

by Chris Cade

Or phrased another way, “Out with the old and in with the new.” This is the mantra billions of people worldwide have been saying to them as the new year passed from 2011 to 2012.

People have made resolutions to be different than they were. To lose weight, meditate more, save money, work harder, start a new business, start a new relationship, exercise more, judge others less, begin personal transformation programs, and so on and so forth. The list goes on.

What I find interesting is how all this relates to forgiveness. Most people have the idea that forgiveness is something they give to another person. “I forgive you for hurting me” we might say to a friend or family member.

But that’s not true forgiveness. True forgiveness is “out with the old and in with the new.” It is a letting go of what was to make space for what is. Real forgiveness is the opportunity to see what lies here and now without being clouded by the memories of the past. Put in financial terms: “Past performance does not predict the future.”

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying to just discard memories. Forgetting means not learnng the lesson. Ignoring the past is choosing to remain ignorant. What I’m suggesting is that we can learn the lessons without carrying the emotional baggage. We can get on the metaphorical airplane and visit new places, see new sights, without having our attention be ‘back home’ so to speak.

This is important when we think about new years resolutions. Are you trying to lose weight because you have emotional baggage about the past? People teased you (or you teased yourself)? Are you trying to earn more money because you’re tired of being poor or disappointing others?

If so, there’s nothing wrong with that. Those are all valid reasons to want change. The thing is, by using the past reasons as justification for future actions, we are choosing not to live in the present moment. We are choosing NOT to forgive. We are choosing to have the past dictate our future.

What if we looked at it through the lens of true forgiveness?

That would mean looking at who and how we are… right now. Exactly right now. Then allowing our heart, mind, and body –together in unison–inform us of what is best for us in the present moment. Maybe you would still try to lose weight or earn money.

The difference is, it wouldn’t be a reaction to the past. It wouldn’t be trying to avoid being who you were or avoiding the experiences you used to have. Losing weight could instead be for the purpose of feeling a greater sense of aliveness and vitality.

The goal of “losing weight” could become “experiencing more physical energy.” Earning more money could transform into the goal of “creating more abundance that I can share with others.”

In other words, by truly “forgiving” yourself, decisions to change would come from a place within you that says “This is what I authentically want… because it’s right, and not because of my troubled past.”

This is a substantial shift. It moves away from a lack mentality of what you don’t want (the past) and into a heart-centered abundant space of what you want to experience more of in your life.

The difference is subtle. Some would call it semantics…

I consider it fundamental.

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

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Shining the Light on a Broken Heart

by Chris Cade

Yesterday I shared how pain is like a hardened shell around our hearts, and when that shell breaks, it doesn’t literally break. It opens up that exterior to reveal the gifts and joy within.

I also promised to share with you my thoughts about that from a “light” perspective.You might think of it this way…

Frequently when in pain, we close our eyes. We cover them. We cower. We hide. We do whatever it takes to avoid feeling the pain. We’re naturally pleasure-seeking-pain-avoiding creatures, so we instinctually do whatever it takes to make the pain go away.

It’s a survival mechanism, and when we were younger it was an important one. As a child, we didn’t have the capacity to deal with pain. The way to get our needs met was by pleasing our caregivers, and it’s a rare family where emotional pain was supported, embraced, and honored.

Instead, most of us learned that pain had to be hidden if we were to get what we want. So we hid our pain. And we still do until we learn how to work with it differently.

The perspective of light gives us that opportunity.

The painful hardened shell is a blockage to light. Like a black hole, nothing can come in as long as the pain is blocking the way. Once the heart breaks, the opening is created.

Then a little bit (or a lot) of light can then illuminate what is within the heart. The heart is not inherently made of pain and hurt. It sometimes feels that way, but that’s because pain and hurt are the blocks we must go through to get ~to~ the real substance that our hearts are made of.

Within the heart is your joy, love, compassion, and other heart-centric qualities.

Why is it then, that even as adults we withdraw from the pain? Even if we might logically know it is revealing our most desired gifts to us, why run from the pain?

It’s because the light is so bright we don’t know what to do with it. It comes in and highLIGHTs all the dark aspects of ourselves we haven’t yet owned, loved, and embraced. That’s not something we’re taught what to do with. There’s no classes in grade school on this.

And so we withdraw.

Even though we know it is that exact light, shining in, that allows us to SEE the joy within.

I like to look at it this way…

Have you ever sat in a very dark room, and then stepped out into bright light? What happens?

Your eyes cower and withdraw. It’s too much light. Your eyes “haven’t adjusted.” It hurts.

When that happens, the pain is not from the light itself. It’s from your perception of the light. Your eyes haven’t adjusted to the light yet. Your eyes will stop hurting as soon as your perception of the light changes.

For most of us who still have our vision intact (or at least well enough with some glasses), we’d agree that we prefer a life of being able to see than a life of blindness.

And so it is with our emotional pain as well.

Rather than trying to get rid of the pain, to reject it, to project it onto others, to suppress it, or to override it with positive thinking, we have a different choice:

To acknowledge it…

To own it…

To appreciate it…

To love it…

To let the light in…

To let the light do its “inside job” and do what it does best…

Illuminate our most precious gifts.

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

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It’s Time to Stop Giving – Chris Cade

by Chris Cade

In my previous email (which you can click here to read), I shared that there’s a new way to go beyond the “getting” and “giving” paradigm and into a new way of engaging with the world.

In short, “giving” inherently suggests an experience of separation. “I have this. I give it to you. Now you have it. I don’t.”

If you give away a dollar, you no longer have it yourself. The dollar is separated from you and joined with another person, so to speak.

In the case of emotions like love, it seems less obvious that this is what happens. In fact, some great authors and speakers have commented how love is the only thing that when we give it away, we actually have more of it.

In theory that’s great. I love the principle. In reality, it still subconsciously encourages separation. It presumes at the basic level, “I have love and you don’t.” (or don’t have enough of it)

Perhaps I’m an idealist, but I believe we all have love within us.

Sure we may be blocked from experiencing that love in its fullest unconditioned state. Decades of history, pain, and conditioning will block it to some degree in just about everybody. It is my belief though that the love already exists within each and every one of us, and it’s up to us to understand and remove the blockages we have and allow that love to radiate from us.

In relation to giving though, I still think the idea of “giving love” might be a little bit outdated.

Recently in exploring this, I stumbled upon something that felt interesting to me. The more I explored it, the more I realized it shifts the separating subconscious implications of “giving” to something more profound, integrating, and including.

Rather than seeing ourselves as “giving” anything to another person, I bring you a different five letter word to try using…

“Bring”

I am reminded of growing up. When moving into a new neighborhood, it was customary to be welcomed by other neighbors who would BRING a welcome gift. If you were lucky, it was a home baked treat. 🙂

They didn’t just give you the treat and leave. They didn’t ring the bell, leave it at the door, and walk away. And they didn’t ship it from Amazon with a computer generated “Welcome to the ‘hood!” memo.

They BROUGHT it to you. They introduced themselves. They engaged with you.

Specifically, they brought you a piece of themselves.

This seems to be something I notice missing from a lot of giving today. There’s a lot of “stuff” being given, but what’s missing is the essential nature of giving ~ that we are actually BRINGING ourselves to an experience.

It’s most prevalent with our attention.

Are we “giving” somebody our attention? Are we “giving” them a shoulder to lean on, or an ear to listen?

Or are we bringing ourselves to them? Bringing them our attention? Bringing them the shoulder?

The difference may seem benign. Even pointless to some. To me it’s significant though.

The word “bring” is inclusive in nature. It means we are not leaving something (like ourselves) behind nor handing something over. We are arriving WITH whatever we are giving.

This is also true when we’re in a relationship, and especially one with conflict. Are we merely giving the other person an opportunity to be heard? Are we giving them a piece of our mind? Are we giving them our heart? Are we giving them space?

Those all assume separation. “I have something. I give it.”

Or are we BRINGING our heart, our soul, our essence into the relationship? Are we bringing our presence and capacity to hold space? The shift is subtle.

Every time you think you’re giving something to somebody, pause for a moment and ask yourself how it might feel if you were to “bring” instead.

Sure this requires a lot of conscious attention. We “give” a lot of things every day, to different people, and in different ways.

But isn’t that what our lives are about? Conscious attention?

Starting today, give it a try. Try “bringing” yourself into everything you “give” and see what your experience is like.

My hunch is that you’ll feel a lot happier “bringing” yourself into the world. And other people will appreciate it too… even if all they know is that “something feels a little bit different.”

Give it a try.

Do it for a day or several.

Then let me know how it goes for you. 🙂

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade

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Navigating your Ship

Navigating your ship

Taking the easy way out is, well, easy. Human beings naturally stick with their normal routines because they offer feelings of security. But by staying in the same routine, you miss out on new opportunities. In 1975, a third-year student at Harvard University decided to drop out and pursue something else. The student’s name was Bill Gates. He saw an opportunity and took the risk. While this doesn’t mean that every dream will transform you into a billionaire, it shows that some of world’s geniuses took chances to follow their dreams. If you are waiting around for your goals to just fall into your lap, it could take awhile. But your goals are achievable–if you’re willing to break from the norm and cast your ship down uncharted waters.

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