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The Good Morning Goddess Ritual of Self-Love

The Good Morning Goddess Ritual of Self-Love

Self-love, the Saint-Graal of our modern society. Everyday, we get hammered by advertising messages asking us to take care of ourselves, to follow our dreams, to take that holiday, or leave that job. They ask us to do it, but it is always through the acquisition of a thing.

I say that it all starts with self-love. Loving the person we are, as we are, is the basis of a healthy and balanced life. How can you pursue your dreams, love others, build a life you absolutely love, if you don’t love the person you will be doing this with: yourself?

The yoga practice is a beautiful way to cultivate self-love, through small actions. It is you reminding yourself to breathe during that challenging pose. It is knowing when to stop before you hurt. It is allowing your body to feel the way it feels, every day. It is accepting that one day you are flying in Bakasana (Crow pose) and the following day, you are collapsing in that same pose.

In addition to the practice on the mat, I have created a ritual to include self-love in my daily life. As for meditation, and yoga, think of self-love as a muscle that needs to be constantly trained. It is a life practice.

I developed this routine when in Bali, where I spent 2 months to reconnect to myself, and work on personal development, including self-love.

Reconnection to your feminine side

For me, it all started with reconnecting to my femininity.

As a Yogipreneur, Vinyasa teacher and writer, hustling is part of my daily life. I have to go for my dreams, otherwise no one will serve them to me on a silver platter.

Being in Bali, which is such a smooth and sensual land, I realised I had let my masculine side take over my overall energy. Everything I did in the sphere of work was moved from a place of power, strength, pushing and pushing. My perception of power and the way I conceived it was to be like men.

Bali, and an extensive practice of Kundalini Yoga, showed me otherwise. Being a woman and denying my femininity caused an imbalance in my capacity to love myself for what I was.

The more I reconnected with my feminine side, through practices like dancing, drawing, singing, the more I felt comfortable with myself. I felt good with my body, and I started to let it express itself authentically – wearing no bra was the best discovery!

Practices that cultivate creativity, whatever the medium, are excellent ways to reconnect with our feminine side. Kundalini, through its kriyas, is also an amazing practice to tap into our inner force, which is feminine – the snake coiled at the base of our spine is a she!

We are all Goddesses

The kundalini practice, as well as long discussions with inspiring women, led me to the conclusion that shifted the paradigm I previously lived with: every woman is a Goddess.

We are all Goddesses, both Shakti and Kali, we are powerful and without us, the World would technically be nothing. Yes, this is being feminist. No, this does not mean we, women, are here to despise men.

Being a Goddess means that we know our value, we know that we are beautiful divine creatures. We know that there is enough power in us to take care of our faith and be the heroes of our lives.

Following this principle, I decided to meet my inner Goddess. It started with sporadic acts like smiling to myself in the mirror, and looking at my body from a place of love instead of the good old judgement we tend to have. I wore clothes that made me feel flowy and sensual.

I then decided to formalise it into a morning ritual.

“Good morning Goddess”

 

 

 

 

 

Each morning, I wake-up to my Goddess ritual.

I open my eyes, I put some music on. No checking messages, yet! As soon as the music is on, I start touching the skin of my entire body, starting with my legs. It is, for me, a way to greet myself into a new day, and acknowledge the beauty of this divine body of mine. I touch my feet, my legs, my tummy, my chest, my shoulders, my arms, I let my hands softly greet my entire body. I finish with my face, my hair.

Then, I step into my bathroom, and when I look into the mirror, I greet the Goddess by a “Good morning, Goddess” and a smile.

This might seem simple, so simple. And it truly is. But it has changed so much in my relationship to myself.

They say, the way you start your day defines the rest of it.

Starting the day with the positive feeling of greeting your inner Goddess, that is some powerful start.

And, yes, in the beginning, it will probably seem weird, and you will probably have to fake it. The first days, I found it so difficult to linger in bed, touching my skin. And, how hard was it to look at myself in the mirror without my gaze going straight to my muffin top and judgemental thoughts arising! But it came, slowly and steadily, as it does with any practice.

Today, I cannot start a day without my self-love morning routine. I feel amazing after doing it. And the best thing is that it starts to span over my day – I notice that the way I look at myself in the mirror during the day is starting to be filled with the same benevolence and self-love it has in the morning.

That, for me, is the most beautiful gift to myself. With this, I feel empowered to face life and realise my visions and dreams. Because I know I am at peace with my co-pilot: myself.

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

 

 

 

Oumnia El Khazzani

Oumnia El Khazzani is a Yoga teacher and a writer. When she is not teaching flowy vinyasa classes, she writes novels, as well as blog posts, for herself or for others as a freelancer. She is also a contributor writer for www.bookyogaretreats.com.

Just in Case

I came across this image today, and I promptly shared it everywhere.  I think we should all read it to yourselves or say it to ourselves every morning.

In case you forgot to remind yourself this morning…your butt is perfect. Your smile lights up the room. Your mind is insanely cool. You are way more than enough, and you are doing an amazing job at life.

I know I’ve blogged about this before, but we are our own worst enemy.  Seriously!  I don’t know about you, but I wouldn’t talk to my worst enemy the way I talk to myself.  My internal monologues are filled with disgust about myself, my life, my eating habits, my laziness, basically, my everything.  Let’s just take eating habits for a second.  Yeah, my eating habits are not the greatest, but neither are the eating habits of a lot of other people.  There will be times when we’ll be pigging out on junk food and someone will comment on how bad they are eating or how much weight they need to lose.   To them I will say supportive things. “It’s okay to take a break from eating healthy,” or “Splurge today and get right back on the healthy eating wagon tomorrow.”  I will always try to be supportive and positive but when it comes to me, I’m ripping myself apart for what I may have eaten.

I constantly talk down to myself.  In my mind, I am fat, ugly, lazy and stupid, and everything I do is wrong.  I don’t think I’m alone in this hateful self-talk.  I don’t understand why we do this to ourselves.  I don’t know what happened to me to make me be so dissatisfied with the person that I am, but I do know that it needs to change.  Am I a perfect person?  No, of course not.  Are there things I need to improve about myself?  Absolutely.  Are those things worthy of the self-loathing, and hate I heap upon myself?  No.  I do not deserve that kind of talk, and what’s amazing is if anybody else talked to me that way, I’d be inclined to punch them in the face.  At the very least, I’d tell them to shut up, walk away and probably cut them out of my life.  And yet I continue to take the abuse I heap upon myself, and I think I’m not alone.

So while I’m not a big resolution person, I think I am going to make one this year.  I’m going to start treating me, and talking to me they way I treat others and talk to others.  I’d like all of you to join me in this.  Make 2018 the year of loving yourself.  2018 is the year of loving me!

Love Yourself – From Chris Cade

Every once in a while, the Universe does something awesome – right now, right this second was one of those awesome things.   This morning I posted a blog post about the importance of being a friend to yourself and loving yourself. Just a few minutes ago in an email, I received this from Chris Cade.  Talk about synchronicity!

A couple of days ago was Valentine’s Day. All across the world, people experienced a variety of emotions. Though there’s three primary ones I’ve noticed seem to be most common:

(1) A deep affection and love (usually towards others)

It seems that by giving ourselves a “reason” to love, it activates that part of ourselves that finds reasons to experience, express, and share our love.

This is not unlike a sentimental photo that reminds us of a past moment we cherished. “Valentine’s Day” can act as a symbol to look inward and live more fully outward.

(2) Indifference

For me, most Valentine’s Days pass with irrelevance. Every day is an opportunity to experience, express, and share love. Rather than having to “find” a reason, I focus on removing the inner blocks so I naturally experience those reasons more frequently. with each passing day.

(3) Anger, depression, sadness, aloneness, etc.

For those of us who feel most separate from others, the love we see others express reminds us of the ways in which we don’t fully love ourselves. This pain of not loving ourselves can sometimes even feel like a physical “hole.” What

When I think of how to express and share more love in the world, what comes to mind first for me is this timeless spiritual principle:

“You cannot give what you don’t already have.”

Don’t have a dollar? Surely can’t give one. Same with love. If you don’t feel it for yourself, it’s impossible to authentically express and share love with others.

That’s why LOVING YOURSELF is so important. Once you fully love yourself, only then can you step into the world as a more full expression of love.

And no matter how much you may love yourself, there’s always more ways you can explore that more fully.

Today I have a present for you. It’s a PDF mini-program called “Loving Yourself” and you can download it directly from my website here:

Cick Here To Download “Loving Yourself

In it, you’re guaranteed to find either a few new things to try, or reminders to live what you already know to be true. Check it out… 🙂

Your Partner In Transformation,
Chris Cade
Liberate Your Life

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If you would like to take the next step with Chris, sign up sign up for his Free “Getting Things Changed” 7-part mini-program that exposes the inner and outer obstacles conspiring against your best efforts to transform your life.

Click Here Now to get started…

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