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It’s Not a Magic Pill

Staying positive does not mean that things will turn out okay. Rather it is knowing that you will be okay no matter how things turn out. – Unknown

Let’s talk about thinking positive, what it is, and what it isn’t.  It’s not a magic pill.  Maintaining a positive attitude doesn’t fix everything, and it doesn’t make everything all better.  What it is, is something to hold on to when things are tough.

it's not a magic pillI’ve had people (many people actually) tell me that my having a positive attitude means I’m not dealing with the crap that life hands out.  Well here’s the thing, when life gives me crap, I deal with it.  I must, because I’m still here, moving forward ever day.  Second, thinking positive is precisely how I deal with that crap, because I always find something good in all that bad.  I got moved to a new classroom at school. It’s my 8th classroom in 9 years, and this year, I’m on the fourth floor with all the foreign language people. Now they’re very nice people, but they’re not my people.  And the fourth floor is hot, and with the weather we’ve had, it’s been pretty miserable.  And somebody stole a bunch of my stuff while I was moving. There is some crap…granted it’s not huge crap, but it’s still crap.  But guess what, my room is very spacious, and being on the fourth floor means nobody (administration) comes looking for me all that often because nobody wants to go up four flights of stairs or use the ancient elevator.  And as far as my missing stolen stuff – well, I had too much stuff anyhow, and the stuff I absolutely needed to have, I replaced.

That’s what thinking positive does for you.  It’s not a magic pill, but it’s a way to look at things, and it’s a way to remind yourself that no matter what, things will be okay.  Don’t get caught up focusing on all your own crap.  Face it head on, look for the positives, and remind yourself that you’re goign to get through it and it’s going to be okay.

Forgive Yourself

Free yourself from your past mistakes, by forgiving yourself for what you have done or went through. Every day is another chance to start over. – Unknown

You’re human. You make mistakes, and when you do, you need to remember to forgive yourself. If you don’t forgive yourself, you hold on to baggage forgive yourselfthat isn’t doing you any good.  Baggage weighs you down and holds you back, and really, who needs that?

The thing is, mistakes can be good.  When you are trying to figure something out and you make a mistake, you just learned a way not to do whatever it is you were trying to figure out.  That’s good. Mistakes mean you’re trying something new and opening yourself up to new worlds and new experiences.  That is also good.  But when you hold on to those mistakes, or worse stop trying because you’re afraid, that’s bad.  Forgive yourself. Try new things, make mistakes and let them go.

It’s easy to say to forgive yourself, but it’s one of the hardest things to do.  In fact, it’s easier to forgive other people than it is to forgive ourselves. But you deserve your forgiveness more than anything else.  Don’t hold on to the mistakes of the past. Keep the lessons, but let go of the pain. Forgive yourself.

State of Gratitude

The more you are in a state of gratitude, the more you will attract things to be grateful for. – Unknown*

I talk a lot about gratitude.  I think it’s super important, and I think everyone should try to be in a state of gratitude.  But how do you do it.  The simple answer is by being grateful for what you have. That’s all well and good, but sometimes (most of the time) that is easier said than done.  I don’t want anybody to think that I have mastered all the things I talk about here at Think Positive 30.  Quite the contrary.  In fact, I actively suck at most of them, which is why I blog about them.  It’s to remind myself that these are things I need to incorporate into my life on a regular basis.

state of gratitudeI seriously struggle with being positive, and finding the good in things. As I’ve shared before, that’s how this website was born.  It was a move of sheer desperation to get myself out of a negative thinking funk.  I now start each day with a positive quote.  Do I stay positive all day?  No, but I at least start out the day thinking positive. I’m also pretty bad at being grateful for what I have.  I spend way too much time focusing on what I want to have, and what I don’t have.  I really need to be more grateful and to get into a state of grace.

One thing I’ve decided to try is to go back to a good old hand written journal.  It’s going to be a veritable dumping ground for everything that’s in my head.  But I’m also going to try and record things I’m grateful for.  They don’t have to be big things.  Little things count too.  Like I just scored 4 awesome tops from OldNavy.com.  They were cute, and more importantly, they were on sale – and I had a coupon for free delivery! I could focus on the fact that they’re not in the size I want to be, but instead, I’m wearing one of the shirts and I’m grateful because I got a deal and it’s a cute top.

As the quote says, the more you are grateful or in a state of gratitude, the more you’ll attract good things into your life.  And from there, you be more grateful and in a deeper state of gratitude, and you’ll attract more things.  Instead of that vicious circle we can get trapped in, it’s an awesome circle.

 

*Often attributed to Walt Disney, but research has shown he did not say it.

You Are Enough

I am enough. Who I am is enough. What I do is enough, and what I have is enough.- Unknown

It’s funny, because today, I’m feeling like I’m anything but enough.  To be perfectly honest, I’m feeling like an complete and total screw up who can’t do a single thing right.  That is not a good way to feel. In fact, my initial thought when I read the quote this morning was maybe you are enough, but I absolutely am not.

The thing is, I don’t like feeling this way, but I know people who do.  They make a life out of being a victim and having a poor me mentality.  I’m not that person, and I hope you’re not either.  It’s okay to have a bad day, and it’s okay to feel badly about yourself, but it’s not okay to live your life that way.

you are enoughSo what do you do when you’re feeling this way?  I normally have a list of things I do to get me out of the doldrums, but today I’m coming up short.  But I’m going to power through the day.  There really isn’t any other option.  Well there is, but I’m not a wallow type of person.  I’m going to listen to some feel good music, and re-read some books that cheer me up.  I had just started re-reading The Hunger Games, but I don’t quite think that’s a feel good book, lol.

I’m also going to work on a new project I saw on facebook.  It’s kind of a craft, but not a super crafty craft which is good because I am not a crafty person. It’s similar to a vision board, but it’s a manifestation box, or creation box.  Like a vision board, you put pictures of things you want to attract into your life in the box.  But what really is making it feel good to me is the fact that you say “Whatever is contained in this box – IS!”  I don’t know why, but that sentence just feels really powerful to me, and today, I need to feel powerful.  If you want to read more about it, you can check out a great article here.

So while I’m not feeling like I’m enough today, I know that deep down inside, I really am.  I am enough, and you are enough.  If somebody thinks differently, then it’s on them, and not you.  Remember that.  You are enough!

Three Rules for Life

Three life rules: 1. If you don’t go after what you want, you’ll never have it. 2. If you don’t ask, the answer will always be no. 3. If you don’t step forward, you will always be in the same place.- Unknown

I’m not a big one for rules, especially life rules.Rules and be confining, and my usual thought process is, it’s your life, live it the way you want.  But these three rules for life make total sense to me.  They’re short, sweet to the point, and more important, they really do make perfect sense.

If you want something, you have to go after it.  Nobody is just going to hand it to you.  I wish that were the case, but it’s not.  So if you want money, work, if you want to publish a book, then start writing.  If you want to design buildings then go to school and learn how to be an architect. If you want it, go for it.three rules for life

If you don’t ask, the answer is always going to be no.  Yeah, sometimes if you do ask, the answer will still be no, but you never know unless you ask.  Don’t waste time wondering if you should or shouldn’t ask.  Just don’t.  If you have a question or want something ask.  Don’t assume that the answer is always going to be no, either.  If you can present a valid argument as to why the answer should be yes, you may be able to change minds.  And sometimes the answer is just going to be yes.  You just have to ask and find out.

Ah…stagnation.  We just talked about that the other day.  If you want change to happen, you have to do something different.  If you’re just sitting in a holding pattern doing the same thing you’ve always done, the same way you’ve always done it, you’re going to have the same results.  It’s just the way it is.  If you want change in your life, you have to make it happen.  Take one step. Do one thing different.  It doesn’t have to be a big thing, even a small thing will work.  But do that one thing different and see what happens.  Then change something else, and then something else.  You have to take that first step.

So there you go, three rules for life.  They’re honestly not too hard, and they’re not very restrictive.  Follow them and see what happens in your life.  I bet it will be amazing.

 

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